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Anonymous wrote:I pay for what is age appropriate available at Target.
If she decided that she need the Sephora items - this comes out of babysitting/birthday etc money

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I buy normal brands. If they want something fancier they can pay the difference, or ask as a gift. Between allowance and gift money they have plenty so it’s not a hardship for them to pay. This teaches them value and opportunity cost. They used to be obsessed with Lululemon and had to pay the difference. They very quickly decided that Nike and Aerie are just fine! This is an important life skill.

I feel prettier and more confident when I wear basic makeup, so I understand that my daughter feels the same. I keep her supplied with a very light foundation, concealer, mascara, and light lip gloss, and the skills to apply them properly. I also supply her a basic drug store moisturizer, facial soap, body wash, deodorant, etc. Anything exotic from Sephora or the like is a gift or something she purchases herself.

Anonymous wrote:I just pay for most of it unless it is like a 60 dollar face cream.

I do this too. As long as my teen is within reason (and of course, "reason" has different meanings to different families), I pay for it. But she soon hopes to have a part-time job, so that's when she's going to be paying for the bulk of these items.

Anonymous wrote:I pay for what is age appropriate available at Target.
If she decided that she need the Sephora items - this comes out of babysitting/birthday etc money

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Growing up my parents provided basic shampoo/conditioner, deodorant, razors and soap. Literally anything else (scented lotion, face wash, more expensive hair products) came out of my allowance/babysitting money. High-end bath/skincare products make excellent Christmas/birthday gifts and you are spoiling your child if you just buy her these as maintenance products.

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Anonymous wrote:I just pay for most of it unless it is like a 60 dollar face cream.

Op here. Yes, this price range is within the Sephora/Ulta territory she is interested in and I am realizing now. While some are $20/30 others are upwards of $50/60/70 etc..

You get those more expensive things for your birthday or Christmas, or you save up your own money.

I'd give her a monthly budget to cover the basics (body wash, face wash, razors, etc.). She can pay for the upgrades.

I pay for what is age appropriate available at Target.
If she decided that she need the Sephora items - this comes out of babysitting/birthday etc money

My kids are boys. They do not care what type of soap, shampoo, hair gel they use.
I do care. I love things that smell nice and I like it when my kids smell nice, especially when I'm in a small car with them.
So I pay for nicer shower gels and hair products and they just use it because, like I said, they really don't care what they use.

Growing up, my parents would buy Dove bar soap and whatever random least expensive shampoo there was at Costco and I was free to use that. Toothpaste too.
So they provided those things, but only brands/types they chose.

I have very curly/frizzy hair so I always wanted a better shampoo, and had to pay for that out of money I earned babysitting. Same with any makeup, shower products beyond the dove soap (so if I wanted a scrub or lotion or anything) etc.

Anonymous wrote:I might buy my tween an occasional treat, but in my view that's what her allowance, birthday, and Christmases are for. Especially since they seem to feel entitled to high-end products at a young age.

Same.

Anonymous wrote:I just pay for most of it unless it is like a 60 dollar face cream.

Op here. Yes, this price range is within the Sephora/Ulta territory she is interested in and I am realizing now. While some are $20/30 others are upwards of $50/60/70 etc..

I just pay for most of it unless it is like a 60 dollar face cream.

I might buy my tween an occasional treat, but in my view that's what her allowance, birthday, and Christmases are for. Especially since they seem to feel entitled to high-end products at a young age.

Entering the territory of makeup and body scrubs, etc.. which I as a parent will always provide for hygienic items but for fancier items that are more costly like certain brands of lip glosses, eye lashes, mascara, body scrubs, lotions, body sprays, what is reasonable for a teen to pay for?