Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A women I am friendly with tried to include me in her group. She has invited me to do things with them on several occasions.
Unfortunately the “leader” of the group made it clear that she doesn’t want me around. Each time we meet she will act like she can’t remember anything about me. She repeatedly asks me how old my kid is (my kid and her kid are in the same grade at the same school). She will invite the others to lunch in front of me etc…. Her behavior makes things very awkward for all of us.
The other women think she’s absolutely amazing. One women told me that they are “the best family”.
I’m so hurt and lonely. I feel like I’m back in 7th grade. I’m a 44yo female with two kids but no friends. How do I get past this.

Clearly she feels threatened by you. You must be smarter or prettier or richer than her. Its on her, not you. Don't engage with the group, just with the one woman who is your friend. Life is too damn short!

+1

The threat of false and faulty doxing is so prevalent in this area - do those who partake not have anything else. A statement, not a question.

What?

bleh, hate this type of BS.

OP, there are probably lots of other lonely moms out there. You could try to befriend them.

Anonymous wrote:Your last sentences say everything. You feel like you back in 7th grade (and yes that’s middle school behavior of people who are not bright but so insignificant that they get their self worth by pushing down others they perceive as being weak- granted if you were some super popular/rich/connected or whatever she craves, she would be slobbering all over you). And you are lonely with no friends. The solution is dump this bunch or losers. See the woman you know alone if you want. She dragged you into this loser group of queen bee dependent people so i am not sure if she is worth keeping, but if she is nice enough keep seeing her alone. Find other people, make other friends, take up hobbies, sports, whatever. Just dont waste time with these people who just drain your self estime even more

+1 Well said. OP. most women know and avoid toxic women. The nice women are doxed, for no reason - make your own friends, be your own person, as any healthy adult.

Anonymous wrote:Frankly just cut ties with the whole lot and try to find others to hang out with. The fact that they worship someone who treats you like that in front of them says a lot.

+1

OP pick and choose carefully. They are telling you who they are, believe them.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A women I am friendly with tried to include me in her group. She has invited me to do things with them on several occasions.
Unfortunately the “leader” of the group made it clear that she doesn’t want me around. Each time we meet she will act like she can’t remember anything about me. She repeatedly asks me how old my kid is (my kid and her kid are in the same grade at the same school). She will invite the others to lunch in front of me etc…. Her behavior makes things very awkward for all of us.
The other women think she’s absolutely amazing. One women told me that they are “the best family”.
I’m so hurt and lonely. I feel like I’m back in 7th grade. I’m a 44yo female with two kids but no friends. How do I get past this.

Clearly she feels threatened by you. You must be smarter or prettier or richer than her. Its on her, not you. Don't engage with the group, just with the one woman who is your friend. Life is too damn short!

+1

The threat of false and faulty doxing is so prevalent in this area - do those who partake not have anything else. A statement, not a question.

Frankly just cut ties with the whole lot and try to find others to hang out with. The fact that they worship someone who treats you like that in front of them says a lot.

OP, here is the thing. Some adults never grow up. They also never leave their home town. Some of them are in this geographic area, and try to actually dox others, who they deem a threat. It does not matter that they do not know this new person, the new person makes them look bad by merely existing, and that is apparently enough, for those who are so ingrained, codependent, and so very insecure.

Pay attention. There is an unstated reaction to toxicity - to these people which precedes and supersedes the unstated reaction to those falsely deemed "less than". Nod and go along, lest you be next. That is how bad and how primitive they defend their self proclaimed turf. They may as well pee on it, while they are at it, because their social cues, conventionalities and atrocities are akin to feral wolves.

TLDR: You be you, bc karma exists. Find your people, they are the majority.

Anonymous wrote:A women I am friendly with tried to include me in her group. She has invited me to do things with them on several occasions.
Unfortunately the “leader” of the group made it clear that she doesn’t want me around. Each time we meet she will act like she can’t remember anything about me. She repeatedly asks me how old my kid is (my kid and her kid are in the same grade at the same school). She will invite the others to lunch in front of me etc…. Her behavior makes things very awkward for all of us.
The other women think she’s absolutely amazing. One women told me that they are “the best family”.
I’m so hurt and lonely. I feel like I’m back in 7th grade. I’m a 44yo female with two kids but no friends. How do I get past this.

Clearly she feels threatened by you. You must be smarter or prettier or richer than her. Its on her, not you. Don't engage with the group, just with the one woman who is your friend. Life is too damn short!

Your last sentences say everything. You feel like you back in 7th grade (and yes that’s middle school behavior of people who are not bright but so insignificant that they get their self worth by pushing down others they perceive as being weak- granted if you were some super popular/rich/connected or whatever she craves, she would be slobbering all over you). And you are lonely with no friends. The solution is dump this bunch or losers. See the woman you know alone if you want. She dragged you into this loser group of queen bee dependent people so i am not sure if she is worth keeping, but if she is nice enough keep seeing her alone. Find other people, make other friends, take up hobbies, sports, whatever. Just dont waste time with these people who just drain your self estime even more

Just be friends with the ones that like you. Life is short.

I left a group due to this. The mom acted as though my child was in competition with hers, she had another friend attend who told me “I’ve heard all about you,” (??) and she would act surprised whenever I showed up (though invited). It was exhausting. Glad to dump the group who let it carry on.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A women I am friendly with tried to include me in her group. She has invited me to do things with them on several occasions.
Unfortunately the “leader” of the group made it clear that she doesn’t want me around. Each time we meet she will act like she can’t remember anything about me. She repeatedly asks me how old my kid is (my kid and her kid are in the same grade at the same school). She will invite the others to lunch in front of me etc…. Her behavior makes things very awkward for all of us.
The other women think she’s absolutely amazing. One women told me that they are “the best family”.
I’m so hurt and lonely. I feel like I’m back in 7th grade. I’m a 44yo female with two kids but no friends. How do I get past this.

Lord, this is exactly why I stopped trying and don't care anymore. It's basically high school behavior re incarnated as an adult.

this. Mean girl behavior. I don't engage anymore and I don't care. That's what is freeing about being an adult

Give up and avoid her.

Anonymous wrote:A women I am friendly with tried to include me in her group. She has invited me to do things with them on several occasions.
Unfortunately the “leader” of the group made it clear that she doesn’t want me around. Each time we meet she will act like she can’t remember anything about me. She repeatedly asks me how old my kid is (my kid and her kid are in the same grade at the same school). She will invite the others to lunch in front of me etc…. Her behavior makes things very awkward for all of us.
The other women think she’s absolutely amazing. One women told me that they are “the best family”.
I’m so hurt and lonely. I feel like I’m back in 7th grade. I’m a 44yo female with two kids but no friends. How do I get past this.

Lord, this is exactly why I stopped trying and don't care anymore. It's basically high school behavior re incarnated as an adult.

A women I am friendly with tried to include me in her group. She has invited me to do things with them on several occasions.
Unfortunately the “leader” of the group made it clear that she doesn’t want me around. Each time we meet she will act like she can’t remember anything about me. She repeatedly asks me how old my kid is (my kid and her kid are in the same grade at the same school). She will invite the others to lunch in front of me etc…. Her behavior makes things very awkward for all of us.
The other women think she’s absolutely amazing. One women told me that they are “the best family”.
I’m so hurt and lonely. I feel like I’m back in 7th grade. I’m a 44yo female with two kids but no friends. How do I get past this.