OP here. Thanks for all the thoughts. Our school doesn’t have LLIV.

My oldest is a high performer - her teachers have told us she’s one of a couple of kids in her grade learning at her level so she may be a kid who really would benefit from it. I do see it as a big deal that her and DS would go to different schools.

I am I guess extra sensitive to the sibling issues because I am a twin who was the academic achiever where my twin struggled more. I think my parents handled it really well but I always felt awful for my brother when people called me the smart twin and I’m sure it bothered him. We both went to the same kind of grad school program and have similar jobs so the outcome was the same but this was many years ago, obviously.

I guess we’ll see! I honestly find the way FCPS handles AAP kind of strange and I can see why people get so spin up about it.

Anonymous wrote:We have local services, so they were at the same ES. Just don’t make it into a big deal. Once middle school comes, you’ll see how little it matters.

Posters say this but it's missing the point. AAP isn't for middle school or high school, it's for grade school, it's meeting kids where they are in grade school.

We have local services, so they were at the same ES. Just don’t make it into a big deal. Once middle school comes, you’ll see how little it matters.

I had two kids in AAP and one not. It did not have any impact on our lives in any way. Our local ES does offer level IV services, however, and we opted to keep our AAP kids there in lieu of sending to center. It was the best option for us and glad that we did it.

As to academics, the one not in AAP far exceeds the others in honors classes/gpa in MS/HS. Funny how that works.

Anonymous wrote:Op here - in our case, my oldest will likely get into AAP. Our youngest has some learning disabilities so it is pretty unlikely for him. Our school is not the center.

I'd accept the AAP designation if it comes, and NOT go to the center school. LLIV is just a different classroom, usually with mixed IV students and those on the cusp.

14:58 again. We were at a Center School and I saw the division. Kids know. I didn't want that division, for are family, affecting their sibling relationship. One kid in AAP, the other not. I hated that it affects their friendships. It always does though AAP parents will pretend it doesn't.

They each went their own way academically, especially in high school. Actually, by middle school but it wasn't very obvious to them. The division is not felt as strongly in MS and in HS advanced classes are open to all who can handle the work.

In ES, they had most of the same teachers, same experiences and I was very glad we said no to AAP.

I have twins where one got into AAP and the other didn’t. The experience really highlighted to me how much of AAP is social grouping not academic differences, because they were often doing the exact same work.

It was hard for a few months when the non-aap kid thought they were “the dumb one”. But shook it off with time and both kids are doing well academically.

I thought is was a big deal. I wanted my children educated together since neither was an extreme outliner

It’s no big deal.

AAP kid rides the bus, the other one does not.

I have two kids. One is in AAP and the other isn't. It's not even a conversation in our home. They're both very different people. Our non-AAP kid is the older kid FWIW.

Op here - in our case, my oldest will likely get into AAP. Our youngest has some learning disabilities so it is pretty unlikely for him. Our school is not the center.

^^ All to say that we recognized this and worked to promote learning in the area each was good in, leading to advance placement for both.

Is one better in one area and the other better in a different area. That has helped in our family. Neither sibling smart in the same area.

What do families do if one child gets into AAP and the other doesn't?