Anonymous
11/12/2023 11:16
Subject: Need housekeeper for my hoarder young adults
Anonymous wrote:Oh—the house is CLEAN now? That’s a good place to start, as nearly any housekeeper or housekeeping service would be fine with this (given they don’t have to start from completer trash heap)— if you just explain what is needed.
Just be sure to have them hem come a minimum of once a week.
Also, you do know that this is enabling behavior in your part and your children’s habits will not change, right? Just be clear about that in your own mind. This is a weekly means to an end for you to keep your home from being permanently trashed or damaged. It’s not something that will motivate your kids into being clean.
Well, yes, clean, but piles of clothes are in three rooms. I am aware that it would be enabling them. I keep hoping if someone cleans it will motivate them to stay on top of it.
Anonymous
11/12/2023 10:56
Subject: Need housekeeper for my hoarder young adults
Strongly recommend Merry Maids or some
service like that because if it gets so bad that an individual person you hire in your own doesn’t want to come, then you are out of luck.
But with merry maids (or similar service) they’ll make sure the job is covered…even if it’s a different person every week.
service like that because if it gets so bad that an individual person you hire in your own doesn’t want to come, then you are out of luck.
But with merry maids (or similar service) they’ll make sure the job is covered…even if it’s a different person every week.
Anonymous
11/12/2023 10:53
Subject: Need housekeeper for my hoarder young adults
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Are we actually just talking piles of clothes, OP?
Or are there other things hidden and/or mixed in with the clothing? Undiscarded food, food wrappers, dirty dishes, trash….potential mice droppings, cat feces?
I mean—a “housekeeper” to stay on top of the laundry is one thing, but you may first need to hire a hazmat team or call around to junk removal places.
Depends on the week. Three bedrooms and the garage full of clothes everywhere. moved from the dorm here and just sitting there since August.
This time, the bathtubs were gross, but cleaned within a day by me. I took care of it. So far no vermin, but that is my fear. No food in clothing yet. I had tried to tell them I would throw everything away, but that caused some hysteric meltdowns.
Why do they have so many clothes?
Anonymous
11/12/2023 10:52
Subject: Need housekeeper for my hoarder young adults
Oh—the house is CLEAN now? That’s a good place to start, as nearly any housekeeper or housekeeping service would be fine with this (given they don’t have to start from completer trash heap)— if you just explain what is needed.
Just be sure to have them hem come a minimum of once a week.
Also, you do know that this is enabling behavior in your part and your children’s habits will not change, right? Just be clear about that in your own mind. This is a weekly means to an end for you to keep your home from being permanently trashed or damaged. It’s not something that will motivate your kids into being clean.
Just be sure to have them hem come a minimum of once a week.
Also, you do know that this is enabling behavior in your part and your children’s habits will not change, right? Just be clear about that in your own mind. This is a weekly means to an end for you to keep your home from being permanently trashed or damaged. It’s not something that will motivate your kids into being clean.
Anonymous
11/12/2023 10:51
Subject: Need housekeeper for my hoarder young adults
Anonymous wrote:Are we actually just talking piles of clothes, OP?
Or are there other things hidden and/or mixed in with the clothing? Undiscarded food, food wrappers, dirty dishes, trash….potential mice droppings, cat feces?
I mean—a “housekeeper” to stay on top of the laundry is one thing, but you may first need to hire a hazmat team or call around to junk removal places.
Depends on the week. Three bedrooms and the garage full of clothes everywhere. moved from the dorm here and just sitting there since August.
This time, the bathtubs were gross, but cleaned within a day by me. I took care of it. So far no vermin, but that is my fear. No food in clothing yet. I had tried to tell them I would throw everything away, but that caused some hysteric meltdowns.
Anonymous
11/12/2023 10:49
Subject: Need housekeeper for my hoarder young adults
Anonymous wrote:Are they medicated for their ADHD?
Half-joking. We are an ADHD household, and have difficulty sorting and tidying up. Not actually cleaning, as in dusting, vacuuming and mopping, which I taught my kids to do. But somehow our brains are overwhelmed by looking at a pile of stuff, and not knowing how to categorize the items and find storage for them. It's a constant struggle. I wish I had a tidying-up maid, not a housecleaner. The issue, if things are not put away, is that it's harder to clean under the piles. And everything gets dusty and things get lost.
You'll have to come back for a bit, or hire someone to teach them to sort, put away and create storage. Someone who can maybe label containers or shelves and create a calendar with "bill pay" and "laundry/fold clothes" days and such. I'm that person in our house, but since I struggle with those skills, it's FAR from perfect.
I mean, this is pretty typical.
Anonymous
11/12/2023 10:48
Subject: Need housekeeper for my hoarder young adults
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Time to cut the strings….
Yes, great advice, however, not in my culture and not for me. I will never do that.
Then you end up with pathetic adult children who can do nothing for themselves and fail at life. Good job!
Ok, then, so you have no housekeeper recs not housekeeping tips. How is that for your reading comprehension?
Anonymous
11/12/2023 10:47
Subject: Need housekeeper for my hoarder young adults
Anonymous wrote:Are they medicated for their ADHD?
Half-joking. We are an ADHD household, and have difficulty sorting and tidying up. Not actually cleaning, as in dusting, vacuuming and mopping, which I taught my kids to do. But somehow our brains are overwhelmed by looking at a pile of stuff, and not knowing how to categorize the items and find storage for them. It's a constant struggle. I wish I had a tidying-up maid, not a housecleaner. The issue, if things are not put away, is that it's harder to clean under the piles. And everything gets dusty and things get lost.
You'll have to come back for a bit, or hire someone to teach them to sort, put away and create storage. Someone who can maybe label containers or shelves and create a calendar with "bill pay" and "laundry/fold clothes" days and such. I'm that person in our house, but since I struggle with those skills, it's FAR from perfect.
They were, they are not now. DD has insane ADHD and DS is lazy for housekeeping. I might also be somewhat ADHD, but in a way of highly functioning, doing everything for everyone. They are definitely as you describe. There is that mental illness component, even though I don't like labeling it like some medieval outdated term.
As they got their jobs, they are in that Gen Z idea that they worked hard, and now they are exhausted... for anything else.
I am trying to hire someone, but even that is a struggle to organize with them. DD struggles a ton with all of it and is so busy at work that she is not even seeing her therapist now.
Any other tips you have, I am happy to hear and explore the options. I am that work-all-the-time kind of person. The house is clean now! LOL! After me being here for a few days.
Anonymous
11/12/2023 10:44
Subject: Need housekeeper for my hoarder young adults
A weekly housekeeper should be willing to do that. DH had one before we married that would clean his apartment and do all his laundry.
Anonymous
11/12/2023 10:41
Subject: Need housekeeper for my hoarder young adults
Are we actually just talking piles of clothes, OP?
Or are there other things hidden and/or mixed in with the clothing? Undiscarded food, food wrappers, dirty dishes, trash….potential mice droppings, cat feces?
I mean—a “housekeeper” to stay on top of the laundry is one thing, but you may first need to hire a hazmat team or call around to junk removal places.
Or are there other things hidden and/or mixed in with the clothing? Undiscarded food, food wrappers, dirty dishes, trash….potential mice droppings, cat feces?
I mean—a “housekeeper” to stay on top of the laundry is one thing, but you may first need to hire a hazmat team or call around to junk removal places.
Anonymous
11/12/2023 10:40
Subject: Need housekeeper for my hoarder young adults
Are they medicated for their ADHD?
Half-joking. We are an ADHD household, and have difficulty sorting and tidying up. Not actually cleaning, as in dusting, vacuuming and mopping, which I taught my kids to do. But somehow our brains are overwhelmed by looking at a pile of stuff, and not knowing how to categorize the items and find storage for them. It's a constant struggle. I wish I had a tidying-up maid, not a housecleaner. The issue, if things are not put away, is that it's harder to clean under the piles. And everything gets dusty and things get lost.
You'll have to come back for a bit, or hire someone to teach them to sort, put away and create storage. Someone who can maybe label containers or shelves and create a calendar with "bill pay" and "laundry/fold clothes" days and such. I'm that person in our house, but since I struggle with those skills, it's FAR from perfect.
Half-joking. We are an ADHD household, and have difficulty sorting and tidying up. Not actually cleaning, as in dusting, vacuuming and mopping, which I taught my kids to do. But somehow our brains are overwhelmed by looking at a pile of stuff, and not knowing how to categorize the items and find storage for them. It's a constant struggle. I wish I had a tidying-up maid, not a housecleaner. The issue, if things are not put away, is that it's harder to clean under the piles. And everything gets dusty and things get lost.
You'll have to come back for a bit, or hire someone to teach them to sort, put away and create storage. Someone who can maybe label containers or shelves and create a calendar with "bill pay" and "laundry/fold clothes" days and such. I'm that person in our house, but since I struggle with those skills, it's FAR from perfect.
Anonymous
11/12/2023 10:38
Subject: Need housekeeper for my hoarder young adults
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Time to cut the strings….
Yes, great advice, however, not in my culture and not for me. I will never do that.
Then you end up with pathetic adult children who can do nothing for themselves and fail at life. Good job!
Anonymous
11/12/2023 10:36
Subject: Need housekeeper for my hoarder young adults
Anonymous wrote:Time to cut the strings….
Yes, great advice, however, not in my culture and not for me. I will never do that.
Anonymous
11/12/2023 10:33
Subject: Need housekeeper for my hoarder young adults
Time to cut the strings….
Anonymous
11/12/2023 10:31
Subject: Need housekeeper for my hoarder young adults
Yes, yes it sounds as bad as you think. DH and I work in another country and young adults are living at our
house. That is part of our culture and we are ok with that.
However, due to me and DH failing as parent when it comes to cleaning(I cleaned or we had housekeepers).
They will pay for it, but I need someone that can fold and sort the mess that are their clothes primarily. Piles and piles and piles upon piles of clothes.
In plain words, pigs would refuse to live in the house after no cleaning.
house. That is part of our culture and we are ok with that.
However, due to me and DH failing as parent when it comes to cleaning(I cleaned or we had housekeepers).
They will pay for it, but I need someone that can fold and sort the mess that are their clothes primarily. Piles and piles and piles upon piles of clothes.
In plain words, pigs would refuse to live in the house after no cleaning.