I wouldn't help my son or daughter propose. If they can't figure that out themselves without coming to Mommy for ideas, they aren't mature enough to get married. They should be creative enough to come up with their own ideas, or at the very least resourceful enough to google ideas.

You win the "Here's What's Wrong With The World" post today.

Nothing kills the vibe more than finding out your MIL planned your proposal.

Stop encouraging big proposals. It's about what he/she says and not how much he/she spends or where it is.

Anonymous wrote:If the proposer can't come up with a proposal that would please the proposee, they aren't ready for the proposing.

This. Stay out! It will reflect very poorly on your child's adulting skills if they are perceived to need help with this. At all.

Anonymous wrote:If the proposer can't come up with a proposal that would please the proposee, they aren't ready for the proposing.

+1 DH’s proposal was amazing and it was probably the best day of my life aside from the births of our children.

He came up with and executed it on his own and it was tailored to what he knew I would love. Stay out of it.

Anonymous wrote:Please don’t. This doesn’t involve you.

+1

My husband’s proposal wasn’t spectacular in any way, but it was special and meaningful because it came from HIS heart. I don’t care how magnificent a proposal, if the idea and planning came from his mom or dad it would have been really weird and uncomfortable. If the prospective groom needs to recruit help to implement his plans, that’s different, but the inspiration needs to come from him.

If the proposer can't come up with a proposal that would please the proposee, they aren't ready for the proposing.

Are there professional proposal planners like wedding planners?

I'm not sure how anyone else could have made my DH's proposal any better. And I remember it perfectly well, despite there being no flash mob or confetti.

This is insane that you'd feel like it's necessary to manage their proposal. Please don't.

They don't need help.

I don't know. Stay out of it entirely would be a start? I mean nobody I know ever involved their parents in planning a proposal.

Please don’t. This doesn’t involve you.

Please share your ideas or tips to make it a happy and memorable occasion for a young couple.

I'm withholding background information to respect their privacy and to avoid limiting your imagination with given data.