Anonymous
Post 11/07/2023 19:32     Subject: If you tell someone you need to go
Your boss sucks but yes, you did hang up on her. Next time don't answer when not on duty.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2023 19:27     Subject: If you tell someone you need to go
Anonymous wrote:
OP, when it's your boss, either you bend a little, and absorb some rudeness, or you get laid off. You can try to pick your way through a middle ground, and protect some boundaries, but it will get dicey with superiors who are very stressed out, or just jerks.

You should never be rude yourself. You must always be the adult in the room when you need to interact with superiors. The boss felt you were rude. It's not about hanging up, so don't get fixated on that.





Op here. She was rude not me. I told her I didn't like how she was talking to me and that I had to go. The conversation we had was very brief and two minutes later she sent a message that I was "expected" to come into the office on a day I don't work because I think up on her. There is no HR at this company and within 2 minutes she was able to arrange a meeting with the owner / CEO of the non-profit. None of this has been the norm at any of my jobs.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2023 19:20     Subject: If you tell someone you need to go

OP, when it's your boss, either you bend a little, and absorb some rudeness, or you get laid off. You can try to pick your way through a middle ground, and protect some boundaries, but it will get dicey with superiors who are very stressed out, or just jerks.

You should never be rude yourself. You must always be the adult in the room when you need to interact with superiors. The boss felt you were rude. It's not about hanging up, so don't get fixated on that.


Anonymous
Post 11/07/2023 19:19     Subject: If you tell someone you need to go
Obviously this boss is a psycho and your OP question is far from the main point.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2023 19:11     Subject: If you tell someone you need to go
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Who cares. You didn't want to continue the conversation, and you said so and hung up. Whether or not that counts as "hanging up on someone" doesn't matter in the slightest.

If the person you had the conversation with is coming for you for "hanging up on them," they are using one of the oldest tricks in the book; turning themself into the victim to shine the light away from what they did to make you mad enough to end the conversation.


OP here. This was a conversation with my supervisor whom I have one time, who called me while I was home on my day off. I was home with my young kids, and the conversation began with her accusing me of stuff, and she was condescending. I felt attacked and it not professional. Right after the phone call ended, she sent a message saying I was expected to be at the office for a meeting on Thursdays and I don't work on Thursdays. My job is done during odd hours. I sent back a message saying I can't work on Thursdays; those aren't days I work. She says, "I am not asking you to work Lara; higher boss will be there. We are requesting an evaluation so that all parties involved know what expectations and boundaries are in place. Lara (me), you hung on your immediate supervisor. It's unfortunate you are taking a conversation with constructive criticism to this level. So right after this conversation ended she ran to her boss within 2 mins. Apparently, I can't have boundaries.







OP here. I meant to write I have only met her one time. I have only been with this company for 1 month and there is a lot of disorganization and dysfunction I am seeing. There is very little oversight at my job because we work a lot on our own. I don't go into an office an work with a lot of coworkers. I work more with patients/ clients.


Anonymous
Post 11/07/2023 19:07     Subject: If you tell someone you need to go
Anonymous wrote:Who cares. You didn't want to continue the conversation, and you said so and hung up. Whether or not that counts as "hanging up on someone" doesn't matter in the slightest.

If the person you had the conversation with is coming for you for "hanging up on them," they are using one of the oldest tricks in the book; turning themself into the victim to shine the light away from what they did to make you mad enough to end the conversation.


OP here. This was a conversation with my supervisor whom I have one time, who called me while I was home on my day off. I was home with my young kids, and the conversation began with her accusing me of stuff, and she was condescending. I felt attacked and it not professional. Right after the phone call ended, she sent a message saying I was expected to be at the office for a meeting on Thursdays and I don't work on Thursdays. My job is done during odd hours. I sent back a message saying I can't work on Thursdays; those aren't days I work. She says, "I am not asking you to work Lara; higher boss will be there. We are requesting an evaluation so that all parties involved know what expectations and boundaries are in place. Lara (me), you hung on your immediate supervisor. It's unfortunate you are taking a conversation with constructive criticism to this level. So right after this conversation ended she ran to her boss within 2 mins. Apparently, I can't have boundaries.


Anonymous
Post 11/07/2023 17:29     Subject: If you tell someone you need to go
Who cares. You didn't want to continue the conversation, and you said so and hung up. Whether or not that counts as "hanging up on someone" doesn't matter in the slightest.

If the person you had the conversation with is coming for you for "hanging up on them," they are using one of the oldest tricks in the book; turning themself into the victim to shine the light away from what they did to make you mad enough to end the conversation.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2023 17:29     Subject: If you tell someone you need to go
"I have to go. Let's talk later." Hang up.
"For now, let's both take a deep breath, then let's talk later." Hang up.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2023 17:26     Subject: Re:If you tell someone you need to go
I guess so. It somewhat depends how it is said…is it “whatever, I have to go, bye” (in an angry tone with loud sighs OR “I really can’t talk about this with you anymore right now. Let’s talk later when you are feeling calmer. I’m going to hang up for now- Bye.” (In a calm, nice voice)
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2023 16:58     Subject: Re:If you tell someone you need to go
Yes, it is hanging up. Standard phone decorum is both people say goodbye or some sort of farewell.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2023 16:52     Subject: Re:If you tell someone you need to go
Who cares? Hanging up on someone is not some awful transgression. It's rude, sure, but if the hang up happened during a disagreement where the other person was being rude or disrespectful, a hang up is the phone version of walking away. If someone is rude or disrespectful to me in person, I might just walk away rather than engage, and people would call that smart and mature. Well, what's the difference.

I will always support someone's right to end an interaction that is not productive or even harmful. Cool off, try again later (or not, depending on how many times you've already tried).
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2023 16:41     Subject: If you tell someone you need to go
"I don't like how you're speaking to me. I'm going to go now bye" then hang up.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2023 16:38     Subject: If you tell someone you need to go
"Let's chat again when you can talk without yelling at me. Bye for now." End Call.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2023 16:37     Subject: If you tell someone you need to go
I would stop arguing about semantics.
Anonymous
Post 11/07/2023 16:27     Subject: If you tell someone you need to go
because you don't like the way they are speaking to them and then end the phone did you hang up on them? For me hanging up means ending the call without saying anything.