Anonymous wrote:Overseas there are more child brides and young brides for older men. The influx of immigrants has made this discrepancy in age more prevalent here. It's a slide back to traditionalism.

I highly doubt OP is an immigrant sliding back to "traditionalism".

More than likely, the people asking these questions on here are not immigrants.

33/43 ish

Anonymous wrote:Overseas there are more child brides and young brides for older men. The influx of immigrants has made this discrepancy in age more prevalent here. It's a slide back to traditionalism.

This is definitely not true on any level. In the US, age gaps are more stigmatized than ever. Most DCUMers are too old to recognize the cultural shift but my early 20s siblings have a very different reaction to age gaps than my millennial peers.

Anonymous wrote:I don't have problem with 19 and 29. For me, under 18 is an issue, otherwise ok. Might the 19 and 29 year olds be in different phases of life, have different references? Sure, but that can happen when close in age as well. It's up to the people involved to decide whether they are compatible in these ways or not.

19 yr olds are very bad at knowing if they’re compatible with 29 yr olds.

Overseas there are more child brides and young brides for older men. The influx of immigrants has made this discrepancy in age more prevalent here. It's a slide back to traditionalism.

When I was 40 and he started having ED at 51. He thought I was the problem and cheated. I was always thin and took a good care of myself

Starting to realize that problematic has become a rhetorical crutch for stupid people.

Everyone would not say that OP, so your whole premise is wrong

It's problematic in late teens to mid 20s. Not problematic at all 30s-50s. But, depending on the individuals involved, it can become problematic again 60s-70s-80s.

DH and I are 7 years apart, so I'm not criticizing an age difference. But if we were any further apart, I'd start worrying about staying in synch during our golden years.

Anonymous wrote:I met my husband when I was 25 and he was 36. So I’d say those ages are unproblematic.

Twenty years later, I hardly feel the age difference at all.

Wait till you are 60, and he's 71.

Not everyone. I don’t think 19 and 29 is inappropriate, in fact I never dated anyone younger than 28. I actually think that’s an ideal age for a guy, 28-30, so I first dated older, then younger, and then got married to a 29 y.o. when I was 35.

I don't have problem with 19 and 29. For me, under 18 is an issue, otherwise ok. Might the 19 and 29 year olds be in different phases of life, have different references? Sure, but that can happen when close in age as well. It's up to the people involved to decide whether they are compatible in these ways or not.

I met my husband when I was 25 and he was 36. So I’d say those ages are unproblematic.

Twenty years later, I hardly feel the age difference at all.

Try 59 and 69, or 69 and 79.

That's where the age gap really shows.

Think long term.

DH is six years older than I am.

Everyone would say 19 and 29 is inappropriate. But is 29 and 39 better or still too much of an experience gap?

But 39 and 49 seems okay too me, still a 10 year gap, but the life experience doesn't seem so drastic. Of course other things such as health concerns may arise

Thoughts?