I hope you have good reflexes or can run fast. I'd be going to the garage to get the bat or golf clubs.

Yikes, OP. At least try to pretend you care about her buy-in with this request.

"can I do anything to help"
"can I offer to change up some meals"
"can I purchase any home gym equipment"
"can I watch the kids/clean the house at a certain time each day to give you an hour to put yourself first"

etc. etc.

She would probably also like to lose a little weight. It doesn’t mean she can easily make it happen.

This is why foreign women are better (from that mega thread a few weeks ago)

You can be more honest with them and they won’t act a fool

OP, just be honest.

“Larla, you’ve gained weight. I’m concerned about how that affects your health and attractiveness. Let’s build a nutrition and fitness plan to get you back to your prior best”

"I would like a divorce."

Good luck! When she asks you “do you think I look fat in this dress?” Answer yes and she will turn on her heel and leave the room. Answer no and she will know you are lying because even she knows she looks fat in the dress.

Anonymous wrote:The last guy who told his wife “I’d like you to lose some weight” is still recovering at Georgetown Hospital. None of his guy friends have visited because they could become collateral damage.

Anonymous wrote:For the record:
-- the gain I'm talking about increased her weight by 20-25% from her old normal
-- this is not baby weight. The last baby was 9 yars ago. The weight gaining has been only in the past couple years
-- I keep myself trim

1. It's a lot harder for women to lose weight compared to men. We don't have as much muscle (which burns fat), and the hormones, yes, even after 9 yrs after kids, makes it harder to lose the weight
2. What do you do so that she has time to go work out? Do you take over childcare, housechores, cooking, cleaning, so she can take some time for herself? You know that stress makes one gain weight, right?

I'm a size 2/4, and DH does most of the cooking and grocery shopping. I wash up afterwards. I do most of the laundry, but he helps a lot. We have a house cleaner. My kids are now in HS/college.

All of this enables me to workout almost every night. I was able to lose 15 lbs.

When my kids were younger, I had no time to workout. Unsurprisingly, I was 15lbs overweight.

Her body is not for you.

You each get to control your own bodies. If she sees a physician annually, he or she can bring this up.

Focus on the parts of her that matter more than dress size. Be grateful for the qualities she has which others can’t see, but you benefit from.

I hope she tells you to STFU. If she has any self-respect.

The last guy who told his wife “I’d like you to lose some weight” is still recovering at Georgetown Hospital. None of his guy friends have visited because they could become collateral damage.

My prediction of her response depends on if she’s scientifically literate. It appears you aren’t—but is she?

As if she doesn’t know this about herself.

Anonymous wrote:For the record:
-- the gain I'm talking about increased her weight by 20-25% from her old normal
-- this is not baby weight. The last baby was 9 yars ago. The weight gaining has been only in the past couple years
-- I keep myself trim

You posted earlier this week, OP.

You seem like a troll.

Post your height and weight, then your wife's height and weight.

For the record:
-- the gain I'm talking about increased her weight by 20-25% from her old normal
-- this is not baby weight. The last baby was 9 yars ago. The weight gaining has been only in the past couple years
-- I keep myself trim