Anonymous wrote:Communication!
College is the first opportunity many kids have had to deal with conflict resolution.
Time to talk to roommate gently to explain:
- it's not ok to wake up or be disruptive from midnight to 7am, unless a fire alarm or emergency
- not ok to disrupt homework either.
and get earplugs and perhaps a sleep mask.

This is the type of thing I have talked to her about. Unfortunately the roommate (who I do feel badly for as she’s clearly struggling) claims these ARE emergencies. Like “I coughed up blood in the bathroom do you think I should go to hospital” “yes!” “No, I don’t want to, but I can’t really breath so maybe? ” and on and on. And then the miracle improvement Thursday-Sunday am.

I remember back in college, some friends have to have serious confrontational talks with their roommates when they overstepped boundaries, like:
- constantly using all their stuff
- frequently bringing home hook-ups late at night
- leaving a guy in their bed when they weren't there.
- bringing party back to their room at 2am (with roommate sleeping)

They got tough and told their roommates enough is enough. It helped tremendously. Some of these girls were just dense/oblivious/selfish, and needed very direct instructions.
They went on to get along fine.

If I were your daughter I'd tell the girl "You wake me up one more time between midnight and 7am, and I will make sure you regret it."

It sounds like your kid needs to grow a spine.

Anonymous wrote:Communication!
College is the first opportunity many kids have had to deal with conflict resolution.
Time to talk to roommate gently to explain:
- it's not ok to wake up or be disruptive from midnight to 7am, unless a fire alarm or emergency
- not ok to disrupt homework either.
and get earplugs and perhaps a sleep mask.

Absolutely. Set boundaries. Your daughter is not her roomie's mother.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:wax ear plugs, noise cancelling headphones and instructions to roommate not to wake her

how hard is it, really?

seriously??? her roommate obviously has mental issues. Your daughter should talk to the RA.

I agree!

Communication!
College is the first opportunity many kids have had to deal with conflict resolution.
Time to talk to roommate gently to explain:
- it's not ok to wake up or be disruptive from midnight to 7am, unless a fire alarm or emergency
- not ok to disrupt homework either.
and get earplugs and perhaps a sleep mask.

Anonymous wrote:wax ear plugs, noise cancelling headphones and instructions to roommate not to wake her

how hard is it, really?

She’s done those but roommate is trying to wake her-it’s often a tapping on her shoulder and saying her name situation not just being inconsiderately noisy. She has told her but you’re right she just needs to be even more direct and probably repeat it every night.

Anonymous wrote:Roommate should not be waking up your kid during the night for any reason other than a fire alarm.

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This.

Anonymous wrote:Roommate should not be waking up your kid during the night for any reason other than a fire alarm.

NP. I'm with you. OP, perhaps your kid can elevate her need for sleep to match the roommate's drama! She cam stress that sleep deprivation is a contributer to a host of ailments!

Anonymous wrote:wax ear plugs, noise cancelling headphones and instructions to roommate not to wake her

how hard is it, really?

seriously??? her roommate obviously has mental issues. Your daughter should talk to the RA.

Roommate should not be waking up your kid during the night for any reason other than a fire alarm.

wax ear plugs, noise cancelling headphones and instructions to roommate not to wake her

how hard is it, really?

Advise DD to take naps during the day when roommate is at class.

My freshman is really struggling with sleep deprivation due to roommate issue. I’m definitely letting the college student come up with the plan and handle, but I’m curious about how things played out with other bad roommate situations.

(For context, they actually get along fine but the roommate is just needy, seems to be a combination hypochondriac/dramatic and will wake my daughter up to let her know her throat hurts, make herself herbal tea at three in the morning because she “feels a cold coming on”, wake daughter to ask her to help her walk to bathroom because she “sprained her ankle.” All of the ailments clear up before each weekend!)