Anonymous wrote:OP still hasn't told us what the sibling said or did that made OP get so upset.

Is the sibling remote? Can they afford to throw money at it or not, etc.
We need context to form an opinion on this.

OP here. We are both remote. Mother has MS and MS related dementia. We both have full time jobs, her kids are adults and mine are in HS. We have different opinions on treatment. She wants my mom on MS medication, which will not repair previous demyelination. She hasn’t seen our mother in years but I go at least twice a year. I’m in constant contact with the doctors and care home. Sister does not want to face reality. Mom is 80 and Ms is just a horrible disease at the end. I know they have great medicine for MS today but my mom is too bad to benefit from them. Doctors and I are in agreement for treatment.

OP still hasn't told us what the sibling said or did that made OP get so upset.

Is the sibling remote? Can they afford to throw money at it or not, etc.
We need context to form an opinion on this.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you think a child has no say in their parents care? Why do you want to provide substandard care for your parent knowing other people object?

Clearly a troll. Ignore, OP.

Why a troll? This is a common problem. The one who is caring for the elderly parents gets criticized by the sibling who is doing nothing. Makes you want to choke them.

OP, I was the remote sibling with younger children. Single brother lived in same city and single sister lived 2 hours away. Both had jobs with little flexibility whereas I had more. I tried to take on big tasks and come for a week or so at a time to handle them. But brother still fielded a lot of emergency calls, even when parents were sequentially in a nursing home/memory care.

If I had been local, I would have probably done a lot of things differently than my brother. But I wasn't local, so I wasn't going to judge it or him.

Anonymous wrote:Why do you think a child has no say in their parents care? Why do you want to provide substandard care for your parent knowing other people object?

Clearly a troll. Ignore, OP.

Why do you think a child has no say in their parents care? Why do you want to provide substandard care for your parent knowing other people object?

Anonymous wrote:If you are the sibling providing no care or money for care, no one is interested in your thoughts and/or opinion about the care.

Just had to get that off my chest after listening to sibling’s rant and ramblings on care of slowly dying parent.

Amen, sister.

I'm truly sorry about your parent.

What did your sibling say that upset you?

Is your sibling able to provide care or money, but won't ...?
Or is he/she not in a position to offer any support?

Sorry about the needless apostrophe in the title. Very tired and not checking autocorrect

If you are the sibling providing no care or money for care, no one is interested in your thoughts and/or opinion about the care.

Just had to get that off my chest after listening to sibling’s rant and ramblings on care of slowly dying parent.