Anonymous
Post 10/29/2023 00:14     Subject: Parent's money, spouse's lack of ambition.
OP, you need to ask DH.

I'm with the PP who asks why your inheritance would be a windfall for him- legally it's your money, not his.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2023 20:04     Subject: Parent's money, spouse's lack of ambition.
Anonymous wrote:My best friend suggested that my DH is underperforming in his career track because he knows I'll inherit some money in the future. I think that's bull. For one, my parents could live another 20 years and run through all of their money! I've always assumed they'll live long, and that I can't count on their money. And I've never told my DH how much money they have. But is it possible that he's taking it easy because he is expecting a windfall when they pass away?


What sort of “best friend” puts such poisonous thoughts into a friends head about their marriage? No decent person would ever say someone is underperforming?? Freaking weird all around.

Did you marry him to make money or because you loved him? Unless you had some really whacked vows, I doubt he promised to maximize his income over all parts of his life for your benefit.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2023 20:00     Subject: Re:Parent's money, spouse's lack of ambition.
*grind it out
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2023 20:00     Subject: Parent's money, spouse's lack of ambition.
As a man I retired in my early 40s after a very high paying career that I hated. I was gifted over 10 million from my parents and expect to inherit more than that.

I have zero interest in trying to grid it out anymore. Much prefer spending time with the kids and exercising/ focusing on my physical health.

I have the option , so why not?
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2023 19:39     Subject: Re:Parent's money, spouse's lack of ambition.
Is this a troll post? How the heck would we know?
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2023 19:38     Subject: Re:Parent's money, spouse's lack of ambition.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Im lucky in that I will likely inherit a good amount of money…..but hopefully not for many years…..and my husband works very hard. He wants to be the provider and he’s doing a great job. I’m happy that he loves my parents and knows that they know he is a great provider.


What is this, 1958?

Ugh.




Where we harshly judge other people’s lifestyles and values…


What else are we supposed to judge? (Oh yeah, looks.)
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2023 19:37     Subject: Re:Parent's money, spouse's lack of ambition.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Im lucky in that I will likely inherit a good amount of money…..but hopefully not for many years…..and my husband works very hard. He wants to be the provider and he’s doing a great job. I’m happy that he loves my parents and knows that they know he is a great provider.


What is this, 1958?

Ugh.




Where we harshly judge other people’s lifestyles and values…
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2023 19:36     Subject: Parent's money, spouse's lack of ambition.
Why would you share an inheritance? And why would he expect you to? I would be very clear that's not an option.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2023 19:35     Subject: Parent's money, spouse's lack of ambition.
Are you very young or the only affluent person in your social circle?
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2023 19:34     Subject: Re:Parent's money, spouse's lack of ambition.
Anonymous wrote:Im lucky in that I will likely inherit a good amount of money…..but hopefully not for many years…..and my husband works very hard. He wants to be the provider and he’s doing a great job. I’m happy that he loves my parents and knows that they know he is a great provider.


What is this, 1958?

Ugh.

Anonymous
Post 10/28/2023 19:33     Subject: Parent's money, spouse's lack of ambition.
Maybe your DH doesn’t value financial wealth or status like you and your friend do.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2023 19:28     Subject: Parent's money, spouse's lack of ambition.
Anonymous wrote:My best friend suggested that my DH is underperforming in his career track because he knows I'll inherit some money in the future. I think that's bull. For one, my parents could live another 20 years and run through all of their money! I've always assumed they'll live long, and that I can't count on their money. And I've never told my DH how much money they have. But is it possible that he's taking it easy because he is expecting a windfall when they pass away?


Of course it is possible. More than possible. But only you -- not anyone here -- knows if it is likely. Or how big of a problem it is or isn't.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2023 19:20     Subject: Re:Parent's money, spouse's lack of ambition.
Im lucky in that I will likely inherit a good amount of money…..but hopefully not for many years…..and my husband works very hard. He wants to be the provider and he’s doing a great job. I’m happy that he loves my parents and knows that they know he is a great provider.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2023 19:13     Subject: Parent's money, spouse's lack of ambition.
Lazy people do tend to find rich spouses. Something to think about.
Anonymous
Post 10/28/2023 19:12     Subject: Parent's money, spouse's lack of ambition.
My best friend suggested that my DH is underperforming in his career track because he knows I'll inherit some money in the future. I think that's bull. For one, my parents could live another 20 years and run through all of their money! I've always assumed they'll live long, and that I can't count on their money. And I've never told my DH how much money they have. But is it possible that he's taking it easy because he is expecting a windfall when they pass away?