Why do you have a ton of swag for one college before she even got in? Did you pump her up about it?

Maybe the school is too expensive? Maybe her GC told your DD this school is beyond her reach? OP, talk to your daughter.

Is it a rolling admissions school? Is it possible that she’s already heard and been denied? I know my DD has already heard from several rolling admissions schools, so that would be my first thought.

If not, then something has soured her to the school and a non-threatening conversation should clear it up.

Yes, it’s no big deal. She soured on it for some reason - whatever it is, it’s her choice. If you have some sort of attachment to the school, then deal with your own feelings over DCs loss of interest. But I wouldn’t try to talk her back into it, u less it’s some special case (ie Yale & you & DH & parents are all alums).

Maybe she changed her mind. Many kids do during senior year.

Anonymous wrote:I'd be like Why is a perfectly good water bottle in the trash? But, my kids know I'm a practical mom!

I would bring up the bottle as a reason for asking and talking about it. I wouldn’t be stressed out about it but I see no reason not to bring up the bottle.

I'd be like Why is a perfectly good water bottle in the trash? But, my kids know I'm a practical mom!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree not to mention bottle but to ask generally. Could be a higher ranking classmate is applying ED and she’s feeling discouraged. Or any number of reasons. It feels sad though so I’d definitely find a good moment to listen.

This is what I'm feeling, yes. Will probably use PP's idea and bring it up generally.

And your idea, too! Geez, I am not comprehending well today.

I would be more concerned if my kid started gathering and wearing swag from a college she had not been offered a place in.

That's just asking for disappointment.

You should be glad she's over it.

Anonymous wrote:I agree not to mention bottle but to ask generally. Could be a higher ranking classmate is applying ED and she’s feeling discouraged. Or any number of reasons. It feels sad though so I’d definitely find a good moment to listen.

This is what I'm feeling, yes. Will probably use PP's idea and bring it up generally.

I agree not to mention bottle but to ask generally. Could be a higher ranking classmate is applying ED and she’s feeling discouraged. Or any number of reasons. It feels sad though so I’d definitely find a good moment to listen.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Throughout college, she's casually been interested in a particular school. It's a reach for her, but not super selective. Has a few t-shirts, stickers, things like that. Last week I found the water bottle she bought during a visit this summer in the trash, and it made me realize I hadn't seen her wearing the shirts lately, either. Is this normal application stress, or should I be worried?

WUT?

I'm assuming OP meant throughout high school. I would feel vaguely concerned and just say something more generally like "Applying to colleges can be exciting but really stressful, how is the whole process going for you? -- or how are you feeling through all of this?" I wouldn't reference the water bottle, just provide a space to talk about what this experience is like.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Throughout college, she's casually been interested in a particular school. It's a reach for her, but not super selective. Has a few t-shirts, stickers, things like that. Last week I found the water bottle she bought during a visit this summer in the trash, and it made me realize I hadn't seen her wearing the shirts lately, either. Is this normal application stress, or should I be worried?

WUT?

High school! Sorry.

Anonymous wrote:Throughout college, she's casually been interested in a particular school. It's a reach for her, but not super selective. Has a few t-shirts, stickers, things like that. Last week I found the water bottle she bought during a visit this summer in the trash, and it made me realize I hadn't seen her wearing the shirts lately, either. Is this normal application stress, or should I be worried?

WUT?

Throughout college, she's casually been interested in a particular school. It's a reach for her, but not super selective. Has a few t-shirts, stickers, things like that. Last week I found the water bottle she bought during a visit this summer in the trash, and it made me realize I hadn't seen her wearing the shirts lately, either. Is this normal application stress, or should I be worried?