Anonymous wrote:"I really appreciate your posts and messages on this. A lot to think about. I find I'm feeling very emotionally overwhelmed by the news these days, though. Is it ok if we talk about something else? I'm sorry -- I know this is important to you, and I really value your perspective."

Why lie?

I just delete and don’t engage.

"I really appreciate your posts and messages on this. A lot to think about. I find I'm feeling very emotionally overwhelmed by the news these days, though. Is it ok if we talk about something else? I'm sorry -- I know this is important to you, and I really value your perspective."

Tell her it's overwhelming and you need her to stop because it shatters you each time she sends a message about it.

Stop responding and mute her

That would annoy me to no end. It’s one thing to post on your social media. Another thing to individually spam your friends.

Just don’t reply. To every third text you can say, this is tragic and mention donations. Do not engage, do not show her you are frustrated. Disengage.

Saying "so very sad for both sides" is a good way to keep getting more stuff from her showing you (rightly) that "both sides"-ing is just ignorant.

You can just choose to not engage. You do know that, correct?

I'd just say 'please stop. We are donating to the cause/needs of the people, but seeing it all the time from you is depressing. I open my phone to get away from it and there you are. Lets talk about xyz instead'. I guess if your families are that enmeshed, check with your DH first if honesty is a big deal for him?

Good friends, known each tore for approx. 20 years. Our kids are friends and all in same school,husbands play golf and also have mutual friends, in other words, we are vert connected.

Different religions, different views. I am much less liberal, she is very liberal We have always respected each others' opinions without overstepping.

However since Oct 7th she is continuously texting or sending videos and other info via instagram on her side of things, videos that validate her opinion. I have not responded to any of the instagrams DM's and when a text come throughs I may say "so very sad for both sides" something to that effect. But truth is, its getting old I am tired of the garage.

Is there a nice way to say "no more"? I tried being polite years ago about a group text from my daughter school (a bunch of moms) that I wanted to bow out of it and she was highly offended (she had started it) . I don't want to upset her but she is upsetting me by trying to force her views onto me which will not sway me in the least and if anything, its turning me off.