Anonymous
Post 10/22/2023 07:33     Subject: Relationship with an expiration date
I had this experience years ago. She was moving away and didn't want to try long-distance. I agreed but secretly held out hope. We visited each other a couple times as friends. We're married to other people now.
Anonymous
Post 10/22/2023 00:58     Subject: Relationship with an expiration date
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:You should tell him the truth very soon.


I agree.

It would be kind of heartless to keep this info from him.


Read. He knows.
Anonymous
Post 10/22/2023 00:30     Subject: Relationship with an expiration date
Anonymous wrote:You should tell him the truth very soon.


I agree.

It would be kind of heartless to keep this info from him.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2023 23:43     Subject: Relationship with an expiration date
26. Just break up.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2023 23:43     Subject: Relationship with an expiration date
He moved at 35. I wanted to break up. He wanted to do long distance. I did not want to move and tried to break up several times he convinced me we should get married and we got married but I was never happy because I had to move he wanted to live and I never wanted to be there. Married miserably 10 years and then divorced but this entire thing completely on and did the trajectory of my life and I wish to God I had broken up as intended.

Tell him now and get married or break up immediately
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2023 23:16     Subject: Relationship with an expiration date
Anonymous wrote:Does he know you are moving?


Yes, I told him.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2023 23:16     Subject: Relationship with an expiration date
Anonymous wrote:I did this in my early 30s. I was widowed at 29 and this was the first person I had a real relationship with following. He was in the military and was being moved to Alaska, so we officially split when he left. The last month is some of the best memories I made with him. We both knew it was ending, it was heartbreaking the day he left, it’s been about 4 years and we’re still good friends now. I’m glad we made the choice to quit rather than drag it out and let it end on bad terms when long distance just didn’t work out.


Thank you for sharing this. My condolences.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2023 23:15     Subject: Relationship with an expiration date
Anonymous wrote:How old are you?



26
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2023 21:32     Subject: Relationship with an expiration date
Does he know you are moving?
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2023 21:21     Subject: Relationship with an expiration date
I had one. I really liked the guy, but I was -- kind of like you -- relocating for work in about 6 months. I was enjoying my time with him, and having fun, but wanted to keep it casual. I wasn't interested in making the relationship work beyond my move. It really hurt him. Looking back, I see that I used him in certain ways and if I had it to do over again I would get out earlier to be fair to him.

I'm not saying this is your situation, or that you can't enjoy what you have. YMMV.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2023 21:04     Subject: Relationship with an expiration date
Anonymous wrote:I did this in my early 30s. I was widowed at 29 and this was the first person I had a real relationship with following. He was in the military and was being moved to Alaska, so we officially split when he left. The last month is some of the best memories I made with him. We both knew it was ending, it was heartbreaking the day he left, it’s been about 4 years and we’re still good friends now. I’m glad we made the choice to quit rather than drag it out and let it end on bad terms when long distance just didn’t work out.


I'm sorry for your loss.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2023 20:56     Subject: Relationship with an expiration date
I did this in my early 30s. I was widowed at 29 and this was the first person I had a real relationship with following. He was in the military and was being moved to Alaska, so we officially split when he left. The last month is some of the best memories I made with him. We both knew it was ending, it was heartbreaking the day he left, it’s been about 4 years and we’re still good friends now. I’m glad we made the choice to quit rather than drag it out and let it end on bad terms when long distance just didn’t work out.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2023 20:55     Subject: Relationship with an expiration date
How old are you?

Anonymous
Post 10/21/2023 20:54     Subject: Relationship with an expiration date
You should tell him the truth very soon.
Anonymous
Post 10/21/2023 20:33     Subject: Relationship with an expiration date
I’ve been with my BF for about a year and do love him; however I don’t necessarily see a future together. First quarter next year I’ll be relocating for a major career opportunity and have doubts a long distance relationship will work but would very much like to enjoy being together until then. Any DCUMers care to share stories about making the most of a relationship with a known expiration date?