Anonymous wrote:And do I remember right that it’s bad form for anyone to only go to reception, right? Or is it only go to ceremony if same faith? The ceremony at 11 and then reception at 5.

You don’t just go to the party.

And do I remember right that it’s bad form for anyone to only go to reception, right? Or is it only go to ceremony if same faith? The ceremony at 11 and then reception at 5.

Friend from school $54

Your entire family is invited, minimum $108, but usually $180

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Anonymous wrote:Cash or gift card in multiple of 18 is common, if they aren't close friends I would just aim for the rough level of what you would spend on a birthday present and not stress about it

A bar mitzvah is not just a birthday.

True but not every family can afford to drop $200. It’s not as important to some of the guests as it is to the host family.

Mits not about the guests. It’s about the child going through a religious rite of passage that takes tons of preparations. Respect the process.

Multiples of 18 depending how well you know is a good guide. We also gave small gifts if close friends.

Thanks for asking! I am sure the family will welcome and appreciate whatever gift you give! We saw everything from $25 to $75 for kids friends attending on their own. All are welcome to join for the bar mitzvah service at the synagogue and whatever kiddush follows (usually ranging from challah and wine with blessings to adding cookie platters to a light brunch, depending on the customs there). Like with a wedding, only guests noted on the invitation are expected at the party (which may be later at night or follow after a kiddush or directly after the service). Right now especially your Jewish friends will likely really appreciate you showing up for them. Please don’t stress about the gift. That isn’t what this is about.

I would go with $90 for 3 people

$72 or $108.

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Anonymous wrote:Cash or gift card in multiple of 18 is common, if they aren't close friends I would just aim for the rough level of what you would spend on a birthday present and not stress about it

A bar mitzvah is not just a birthday.

True but not every family can afford to drop $200. It’s not as important to some of the guests as it is to the host family.

Anonymous wrote:Cash or gift card in multiple of 18 is common, if they aren't close friends I would just aim for the rough level of what you would spend on a birthday present and not stress about it

A bar mitzvah is not just a birthday.

Check for $36 or $52

Cash or gift card in multiple of 18 is common, if they aren't close friends I would just aim for the rough level of what you would spend on a birthday present and not stress about it

If you go with him at least $200 check. If your son goes alone at least $72 check.

If you are not named on the invitation you should not go.

Money in a card is typical.

Son’s school friend (13 yrs old) having a bar mitzvah. How much for a gift? Amazon gift card, cash in a card-how much? Not his best friend and we may also go with him.