If it’s local, I prefer it to a Saturday. If I have to travel, I’d only go for close family and friends.

My work is not that flexible so have been unable to attend in the past due to inflexible work commitments. I think ok otherwise, but the bride and groom should make absolutely sure that the must comes are accounted for and could do this. Then, be very clear about no guilting. Tell any family (e.g. their parents) that no one is to give anyone a hard time about lack of attendance. That's when this gets tacky. Also ideal if the bride and groom can run the reception in a way that people can join in whenever they are able to arrive after work (e.g., buffet instead of plated).

I guess I need to silently lump all people in my orbit into 2 groups - folks I’d sacrifice a leave day for their wedding or funeral, and folks that rank lower than a day on the beach (which I’d be doing with that saved vacation day.)

Anonymous wrote:No strong opinion. They are a bit more of a headache to deal with logistically but they don't bother me.

Same. Now a Sunday night wedding? No!

No strong opinion. They are a bit more of a headache to deal with logistically but they don't bother me.

If it's someone I love and care about our friendship, I'm taking off work and going. If it's someone I feel indifferent about, I may or may not go, depending on how inconvenient it will be for me.

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Anonymous wrote:If I have to travel, hate them. It's the cheap way to do a wedding and you're basically telling people you can't afford the Saturday night.

Not being able to afford it is not the same as being cheap. You sound like someone that should never be invited to anyone’s wedding.

Or frugal. We invited people to our Friday wedding and understood many wouldn’t come. The ones who mattered showed up. We knew they would.

No strong opinion. As happy to go to a Friday wedding as a Saturday one.

Anonymous wrote:If I have to travel, hate them. It's the cheap way to do a wedding and you're basically telling people you can't afford the Saturday night.

Not being able to afford it is not the same as being cheap. You sound like someone that should never be invited to anyone’s wedding.

I love them because then it’s over and I don’t have to dedicate a precious Saturday to a wedding. I’d much rather take a half-day/personal day on a Friday. Also, I can’t explain it, but there is something about a Friday evening reception that just feels somehow more enchanting that one on a Saturday.

I look forward to any wedding invitation these days. Everyone I know is married, divorced, or no chance of getting married anytime soo .

Lots of Saturday nights are no longer available due to pandemic and wedding rescheduling and some people aren’t willing to wait over 2 years to get married - so hold your judgy nature about Friday night weddings.

If I have to travel, hate them. It's the cheap way to do a wedding and you're basically telling people you can't afford the Saturday night.

I used to love them when I was younger. They were a great way to kick off the weekend, and drink some cocktails and dance--all while celebrating with friends /family. Now, I'd prob cringe when I got the invite. I'm 50 and want to wind down my week quietly most of the time and I'm usually tired and in bed before 10pm.

That's not to say I wouldn't go, have a good time and celebrate the happy couple. Just not my first choice. YMMV

Love them? Hate them? thoughts?