Anonymous wrote:Is not starting impeding her development? Probably not. So deal with it.

Anonymous wrote:OP, is your DD getting sufficient playing time (more than the other wingers, for example)? If she is, it could simply be that the coach is doing this for tactical reasons, like sandbagging the other team and then bringing the ace in off the bench to keep the opponent off balance and put them on their heels just as they think they have sized up your DD's team and teammates. Many higher level coaches spend the first 10 minutes watching the other team to probe for weaknesses and will keep some strong players on the bench so they can then put them in and implement a tacitcal maneuver with their strongest pieces.

I agree with others that, if it bothers your DD, she should take initiative to ask the coach, what would it take for me to become a starter? Coaches usually appreciate that the most when the players advocate for themselves. I think it would be well within your bounds to give the coach a heads up, "Hi, my daughter might ask to talk to you at practice today about something." The coach can then try to make extra eye contact etc with your DD or afterwards even prompt the converation with, "Hey, DD, how's it going? How are you feeling?"

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Anonymous wrote:For background, at the end of the spring we left my daughters long time team to join a new soccer club. My daughters previous team was very good, however they were extremely reliant on my daughter and two other girls, we played the worst brand of soccer in the premier division because outside of our 3 top athletes the other girls were less committed & less skilled. I wanted my daughter in an environment with a stronger supporting cast of players who matched her commitment to soccer.

We moved clubs, the new club was extremely excited to get her & there is a lot to like, everyone is extremely committed, has functional ball skills and it is a less "well off" area so the parents are just much nicer to interact with. They train very hard and I think the coach is very good.

I am a life long soccer person, played NCAA, coached high school & did private trainings for many years. So I know my stuff, I am very involved in my daughters development but i usually just keep my mouth shut and let things play out.

Here is my problem, my daughter is one of the 2 most talented players on the new team. If you look at pure ability, she is the strongest, fastest, strikes the ball the best & has the best ball skills. She is currently playing out of position (was center mid forever) since the other girl who is also a high level talent plays that and was there first and they are comparable (Mine is better athlete, other is smarter and better motor). They are playing her as a winger and the coach has empowered her some by having her take most of the free kicks (she always took all).

We are now in October, she joined the team in July and my daughter has not started a game yet, despite this she has more goals and assists then the other wingers combined. There is no comparison ability wise between her and the other players, but they have been on the team since they were little. There is a time limit on this for me, she works very hard, never misses a practice and is a huge difference maker in the age group. At what point can i say that this is a problem for me and if it is not fixed she will move?

Any team i take her to will want her so we will have options, but with the stuff I like about the club, I was hoping this could be a longer term home.

Depending on age, has your DD tried to speak to the coach and understand his reasoning on what she could do differently to get opportunities to start? I would try that first and see if the coach gives her opportunities if she meets his criteria. Has she been given opportunities to play center mid coming off the bench? If what you say is true, not sure why the coach wouldn't have them playing together. It sounds like she has been playing enough and she should be driving the interactions with coaches as part of her development as a player. I would try that approach first before looking to go somewhere else.

I really like the approach of having her talk to the coach as a step one. Thank you.

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Anonymous wrote:For background, at the end of the spring we left my daughters long time team to join a new soccer club. My daughters previous team was very good, however they were extremely reliant on my daughter and two other girls, we played the worst brand of soccer in the premier division because outside of our 3 top athletes the other girls were less committed & less skilled. I wanted my daughter in an environment with a stronger supporting cast of players who matched her commitment to soccer.

We moved clubs, the new club was extremely excited to get her & there is a lot to like, everyone is extremely committed, has functional ball skills and it is a less "well off" area so the parents are just much nicer to interact with. They train very hard and I think the coach is very good.

I am a life long soccer person, played NCAA, coached high school & did private trainings for many years. So I know my stuff, I am very involved in my daughters development but i usually just keep my mouth shut and let things play out.

Here is my problem, my daughter is one of the 2 most talented players on the new team. If you look at pure ability, she is the strongest, fastest, strikes the ball the best & has the best ball skills. She is currently playing out of position (was center mid forever) since the other girl who is also a high level talent plays that and was there first and they are comparable (Mine is better athlete, other is smarter and better motor). They are playing her as a winger and the coach has empowered her some by having her take most of the free kicks (she always took all).

We are now in October, she joined the team in July and my daughter has not started a game yet, despite this she has more goals and assists then the other wingers combined. There is no comparison ability wise between her and the other players, but they have been on the team since they were little. There is a time limit on this for me, she works very hard, never misses a practice and is a huge difference maker in the age group. At what point can i say that this is a problem for me and if it is not fixed she will move?

Any team i take her to will want her so we will have options, but with the stuff I like about the club, I was hoping this could be a longer term home.

What age is this? I know my ds was told at u15 playing time is not equal. For most clubs, this is the "competition" phase.

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Anonymous wrote:For background, at the end of the spring we left my daughters long time team to join a new soccer club. My daughters previous team was very good, however they were extremely reliant on my daughter and two other girls, we played the worst brand of soccer in the premier division because outside of our 3 top athletes the other girls were less committed & less skilled. I wanted my daughter in an environment with a stronger supporting cast of players who matched her commitment to soccer.

We moved clubs, the new club was extremely excited to get her & there is a lot to like, everyone is extremely committed, has functional ball skills and it is a less "well off" area so the parents are just much nicer to interact with. They train very hard and I think the coach is very good.

I am a life long soccer person, played NCAA, coached high school & did private trainings for many years. So I know my stuff, I am very involved in my daughters development but i usually just keep my mouth shut and let things play out.

Here is my problem, my daughter is one of the 2 most talented players on the new team. If you look at pure ability, she is the strongest, fastest, strikes the ball the best & has the best ball skills. She is currently playing out of position (was center mid forever) since the other girl who is also a high level talent plays that and was there first and they are comparable (Mine is better athlete, other is smarter and better motor). They are playing her as a winger and the coach has empowered her some by having her take most of the free kicks (she always took all).

We are now in October, she joined the team in July and my daughter has not started a game yet, despite this she has more goals and assists then the other wingers combined. There is no comparison ability wise between her and the other players, but they have been on the team since they were little. There is a time limit on this for me, she works very hard, never misses a practice and is a huge difference maker in the age group. At what point can i say that this is a problem for me and if it is not fixed she will move?

Any team i take her to will want her so we will have options, but with the stuff I like about the club, I was hoping this could be a longer term home.

Depending on age, has your DD tried to speak to the coach and understand his reasoning on what she could do differently to get opportunities to start? I would try that first and see if the coach gives her opportunities if she meets his criteria. Has she been given opportunities to play center mid coming off the bench? If what you say is true, not sure why the coach wouldn't have them playing together. It sounds like she has been playing enough and she should be driving the interactions with coaches as part of her development as a player. I would try that approach first before looking to go somewhere else.

Anonymous wrote:For background, at the end of the spring we left my daughters long time team to join a new soccer club. My daughters previous team was very good, however they were extremely reliant on my daughter and two other girls, we played the worst brand of soccer in the premier division because outside of our 3 top athletes the other girls were less committed & less skilled. I wanted my daughter in an environment with a stronger supporting cast of players who matched her commitment to soccer.

We moved clubs, the new club was extremely excited to get her & there is a lot to like, everyone is extremely committed, has functional ball skills and it is a less "well off" area so the parents are just much nicer to interact with. They train very hard and I think the coach is very good.

I am a life long soccer person, played NCAA, coached high school & did private trainings for many years. So I know my stuff, I am very involved in my daughters development but i usually just keep my mouth shut and let things play out.

Here is my problem, my daughter is one of the 2 most talented players on the new team. If you look at pure ability, she is the strongest, fastest, strikes the ball the best & has the best ball skills. She is currently playing out of position (was center mid forever) since the other girl who is also a high level talent plays that and was there first and they are comparable (Mine is better athlete, other is smarter and better motor). They are playing her as a winger and the coach has empowered her some by having her take most of the free kicks (she always took all).

We are now in October, she joined the team in July and my daughter has not started a game yet, despite this she has more goals and assists then the other wingers combined. There is no comparison ability wise between her and the other players, but they have been on the team since they were little. There is a time limit on this for me, she works very hard, never misses a practice and is a huge difference maker in the age group. At what point can i say that this is a problem for me and if it is not fixed she will move?

Any team i take her to will want her so we will have options, but with the stuff I like about the club, I was hoping this could be a longer term home.

Anonymous wrote:For background, at the end of the spring we left my daughters long time team to join a new soccer club. My daughters previous team was very good, however they were extremely reliant on my daughter and two other girls, we played the worst brand of soccer in the premier division because outside of our 3 top athletes the other girls were less committed & less skilled. I wanted my daughter in an environment with a stronger supporting cast of players who matched her commitment to soccer.

We moved clubs, the new club was extremely excited to get her & there is a lot to like, everyone is extremely committed, has functional ball skills and it is a less "well off" area so the parents are just much nicer to interact with. They train very hard and I think the coach is very good.

I am a life long soccer person, played NCAA, coached high school & did private trainings for many years. So I know my stuff, I am very involved in my daughters development but i usually just keep my mouth shut and let things play out.

Here is my problem, my daughter is one of the 2 most talented players on the new team. If you look at pure ability, she is the strongest, fastest, strikes the ball the best & has the best ball skills. She is currently playing out of position (was center mid forever) since the other girl who is also a high level talent plays that and was there first and they are comparable (Mine is better athlete, other is smarter and better motor). They are playing her as a winger and the coach has empowered her some by having her take most of the free kicks (she always took all).

We are now in October, she joined the team in July and my daughter has not started a game yet, despite this she has more goals and assists then the other wingers combined. There is no comparison ability wise between her and the other players, but they have been on the team since they were little. There is a time limit on this for me, she works very hard, never misses a practice and is a huge difference maker in the age group. At what point can i say that this is a problem for me and if it is not fixed she will move?

Any team i take her to will want her so we will have options, but with the stuff I like about the club, I was hoping this could be a longer term home.

Anonymous wrote:For background, at the end of the spring we left my daughters long time team to join a new soccer club. My daughters previous team was very good, however they were extremely reliant on my daughter and two other girls, we played the worst brand of soccer in the premier division because outside of our 3 top athletes the other girls were less committed & less skilled. I wanted my daughter in an environment with a stronger supporting cast of players who matched her commitment to soccer.

We moved clubs, the new club was extremely excited to get her & there is a lot to like, everyone is extremely committed, has functional ball skills and it is a less "well off" area so the parents are just much nicer to interact with. They train very hard and I think the coach is very good.

I am a life long soccer person, played NCAA, coached high school & did private trainings for many years. So I know my stuff, I am very involved in my daughters development but i usually just keep my mouth shut and let things play out.

Here is my problem, my daughter is one of the 2 most talented players on the new team. If you look at pure ability, she is the strongest, fastest, strikes the ball the best & has the best ball skills. She is currently playing out of position (was center mid forever) since the other girl who is also a high level talent plays that and was there first and they are comparable (Mine is better athlete, other is smarter and better motor). They are playing her as a winger and the coach has empowered her some by having her take most of the free kicks (she always took all).

We are now in October, she joined the team in July and my daughter has not started a game yet, despite this she has more goals and assists then the other wingers combined. There is no comparison ability wise between her and the other players, but they have been on the team since they were little. There is a time limit on this for me, she works very hard, never misses a practice and is a huge difference maker in the age group. At what point can i say that this is a problem for me and if it is not fixed she will move?

Any team i take her to will want her so we will have options, but with the stuff I like about the club, I was hoping this could be a longer term home.

Anonymous wrote:For background, at the end of the spring we left my daughters long time team to join a new soccer club. My daughters previous team was very good, however they were extremely reliant on my daughter and two other girls, we played the worst brand of soccer in the premier division because outside of our 3 top athletes the other girls were less committed & less skilled. I wanted my daughter in an environment with a stronger supporting cast of players who matched her commitment to soccer.

We moved clubs, the new club was extremely excited to get her & there is a lot to like, everyone is extremely committed, has functional ball skills and it is a less "well off" area so the parents are just much nicer to interact with. They train very hard and I think the coach is very good.

I am a life long soccer person, played NCAA, coached high school & did private trainings for many years. So I know my stuff, I am very involved in my daughters development but i usually just keep my mouth shut and let things play out.

Here is my problem, my daughter is one of the 2 most talented players on the new team. If you look at pure ability, she is the strongest, fastest, strikes the ball the best & has the best ball skills. She is currently playing out of position (was center mid forever) since the other girl who is also a high level talent plays that and was there first and they are comparable (Mine is better athlete, other is smarter and better motor). They are playing her as a winger and the coach has empowered her some by having her take most of the free kicks (she always took all).

We are now in October, she joined the team in July and my daughter has not started a game yet, despite this she has more goals and assists then the other wingers combined. There is no comparison ability wise between her and the other players, but they have been on the team since they were little. There is a time limit on this for me, she works very hard, never misses a practice and is a huge difference maker in the age group. At what point can i say that this is a problem for me and if it is not fixed she will move?

Any team i take her to will want her so we will have options, but with the stuff I like about the club, I was hoping this could be a longer term home.