Anonymous
10/11/2023 18:45
Subject: PSA: I lost a lot of weight. Please don’t mention it!
Ugh your MIL sounds awful.
Anonymous
10/11/2023 18:41
Subject: PSA: I lost a lot of weight. Please don’t mention it!
Anonymous wrote:I lost 25 pounds and was really bummed not one person said anything about it. It was really depressing that I worked SO HARD and it wasn't even enough for anyone to notice enough to say anything.
People are afraid of offending ( hint see op)
Anonymous
10/11/2023 18:40
Subject: PSA: I lost a lot of weight. Please don’t mention it!
Sometimes it is hard for those wanting compliments and validation to say something.
Anonymous
10/11/2023 18:31
Subject: PSA: I lost a lot of weight. Please don’t mention it!
Anonymous wrote:I lost 25 pounds and was really bummed not one person said anything about it. It was really depressing that I worked SO HARD and it wasn't even enough for anyone to notice enough to say anything.
If you tell them how hard you've been working on exercise and/or diet, I guarantee you people will give you the validation for your hard work that you crave. But there are a lot of reasons someone might have lost weight and there's no way for me to know if it was because they were working at it. I'm not going to risk complimenting all weight loss just in case it was a desired outcome they worked hard towards.
Pregnancies aren't always happy occasions. Neither are job changes. Divorces aren't always sad occasions. Neither are layoffs. That's why it's best if you just tell people how you feel about what's going on in your life, and then they can celebrate or commiserate with you instead of trying to impose their feelings onto you.
Anonymous
10/11/2023 18:31
Subject: PSA: I lost a lot of weight. Please don’t mention it!
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:I recently (but not for the first time) lost a lot of weight.
I really wish people wouldn’t mention it at all.
I would LOVE for the whole thing to be completely private. But there’s no way for me to keep you from noticing. It’s too much weight to hide with clothes and also I don’t want to wear a tent. That doesn’t mean I want to talk about it.
If I want to talk about it with you I will bring it up! Seriously! If you think I need an in, just say “you look great” and if I want to talk about it, I will! But probably I’ll say “thanks so do you!” and quickly move on. This is NOT a prompt for you to say “seriously it looks like you’ve lost a lot of weight.”
If my MIL can manage this, everyone can. She used to comment every time she saw me (to my face if thinner and to everyone else if heavier) and now she never does, and it makes me so much more relaxed about visiting with her.
So anyway PSA/pleading if you haven’t made this shift.
They are wondering if you will volunteer that you are taking Ozempic.
It’s not a secret, and this isn’t the first time I’ve been through this, but it does add a new unpleasant wrinkle to the whole thing.
Anonymous
10/11/2023 18:25
Subject: Re:PSA: I lost a lot of weight. Please don’t mention it!
I never do and view someone's weight as entirely their business, but as you can already see from this thread, some people find it rude not to comment. I'm not going to start, but not to worry -- my MIL will make sure to comment on everyone's relative weights any time she sees you so it will not go unnoticed if you want it to be noticed.
Anonymous
10/11/2023 18:18
Subject: PSA: I lost a lot of weight. Please don’t mention it!
Anonymous wrote:I lost a lot of weight after being hospitalized for a serious illness and I had a colleague who wouldn’t shut up about how great I looked. It was a really strange experience.
This is why I'm reluctant to say "you look great" to someone who has lost weight. Maybe they lost weight involuntarily because they are ill. Or maybe they will think I thought they didn't look great before or that they needed to lose weight.
It's a minefield.
Anonymous
10/11/2023 18:16
Subject: PSA: I lost a lot of weight. Please don’t mention it!
PSA, you don't need to post to a public anonymous board that you managed your way into being offended when people say you look great after losing a lot of weight. God forbid.
Anonymous
10/11/2023 18:15
Subject: PSA: I lost a lot of weight. Please don’t mention it!
Anonymous wrote:I lost 25 pounds and was really bummed not one person said anything about it. It was really depressing that I worked SO HARD and it wasn't even enough for anyone to notice enough to say anything.
It really is quite rude to comment on a person's weight. Even if it's meant to be complimentary. You can always bring it up yourself.
Anonymous
10/11/2023 18:14
Subject: PSA: I lost a lot of weight. Please don’t mention it!
Anonymous wrote:I recently (but not for the first time) lost a lot of weight.
I really wish people wouldn’t mention it at all.
I would LOVE for the whole thing to be completely private. But there’s no way for me to keep you from noticing. It’s too much weight to hide with clothes and also I don’t want to wear a tent. That doesn’t mean I want to talk about it.
If I want to talk about it with you I will bring it up! Seriously! If you think I need an in, just say “you look great” and if I want to talk about it, I will! But probably I’ll say “thanks so do you!” and quickly move on. This is NOT a prompt for you to say “seriously it looks like you’ve lost a lot of weight.”
If my MIL can manage this, everyone can. She used to comment every time she saw me (to my face if thinner and to everyone else if heavier) and now she never does, and it makes me so much more relaxed about visiting with her.
So anyway PSA/pleading if you haven’t made this shift.
They are wondering if you will volunteer that you are taking Ozempic.
Anonymous
10/11/2023 18:12
Subject: PSA: I lost a lot of weight. Please don’t mention it!
Anonymous wrote:I lost 25 pounds and was really bummed not one person said anything about it. It was really depressing that I worked SO HARD and it wasn't even enough for anyone to notice enough to say anything.
All you had to do was bring it up!
Anonymous
10/11/2023 18:11
Subject: PSA: I lost a lot of weight. Please don’t mention it!
I lost 25 pounds and was really bummed not one person said anything about it. It was really depressing that I worked SO HARD and it wasn't even enough for anyone to notice enough to say anything.
Anonymous
10/11/2023 18:07
Subject: PSA: I lost a lot of weight. Please don’t mention it!
I lost a lot of weight after being hospitalized for a serious illness and I had a colleague who wouldn’t shut up about how great I looked. It was a really strange experience.
Anonymous
10/11/2023 18:01
Subject: PSA: I lost a lot of weight. Please don’t mention it!
Anonymous wrote:I recently (but not for the first time) lost a lot of weight.
I really wish people wouldn’t mention it at all.
I would LOVE for the whole thing to be completely private. But there’s no way for me to keep you from noticing. It’s too much weight to hide with clothes and also I don’t want to wear a tent. That doesn’t mean I want to talk about it.
If I want to talk about it with you I will bring it up! Seriously! If you think I need an in, just say “you look great” and if I want to talk about it, I will! But probably I’ll say “thanks so do you!” and quickly move on. This is NOT a prompt for you to say “seriously it looks like you’ve lost a lot of weight.”
If my MIL can manage this, everyone can. She used to comment every time she saw me (to my face if thinner and to everyone else if heavier) and now she never does, and it makes me so much more relaxed about visiting with her.
So anyway PSA/pleading if you haven’t made this shift.
I already do this
Anonymous
10/11/2023 17:58
Subject: PSA: I lost a lot of weight. Please don’t mention it!
I recently (but not for the first time) lost a lot of weight.
I really wish people wouldn’t mention it at all.
I would LOVE for the whole thing to be completely private. But there’s no way for me to keep you from noticing. It’s too much weight to hide with clothes and also I don’t want to wear a tent. That doesn’t mean I want to talk about it.
If I want to talk about it with you I will bring it up! Seriously! If you think I need an in, just say “you look great” and if I want to talk about it, I will! But probably I’ll say “thanks so do you!” and quickly move on. This is NOT a prompt for you to say “seriously it looks like you’ve lost a lot of weight.”
If my MIL can manage this, everyone can. She used to comment every time she saw me (to my face if thinner and to everyone else if heavier) and now she never does, and it makes me so much more relaxed about visiting with her.
So anyway PSA/pleading if you haven’t made this shift.
I really wish people wouldn’t mention it at all.
I would LOVE for the whole thing to be completely private. But there’s no way for me to keep you from noticing. It’s too much weight to hide with clothes and also I don’t want to wear a tent. That doesn’t mean I want to talk about it.
If I want to talk about it with you I will bring it up! Seriously! If you think I need an in, just say “you look great” and if I want to talk about it, I will! But probably I’ll say “thanks so do you!” and quickly move on. This is NOT a prompt for you to say “seriously it looks like you’ve lost a lot of weight.”
If my MIL can manage this, everyone can. She used to comment every time she saw me (to my face if thinner and to everyone else if heavier) and now she never does, and it makes me so much more relaxed about visiting with her.
So anyway PSA/pleading if you haven’t made this shift.