Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with you OP. Maybe I’m old school but I’d never show up in sweats. Jeans? Sure!

OP here. Maybe annoyed isn’t the right word, but we just felt a little bit weird after we put effort into the meal, dressed decently well ourselves. Obviously not a big deal, but I think we just were probably expecting jeans at least!

Is what it is.

Are all of your dinner parties… nice (for lack of a better word)? Maybe they thought it was a casual neighborhood get together. We have casual get together’s all the time and nobody dresses up. Sweats, yoga, pants, jeans, logo T-shirts are all usual.

What i think is that you are the problem - people can wear what they want.

I think I’d just wear what I would if I were going to a Super Bowl party or something similar; so jeans.

Anonymous wrote:I agree with you OP. Maybe I’m old school but I’d never show up in sweats. Jeans? Sure!

OP here. Maybe annoyed isn’t the right word, but we just felt a little bit weird after we put effort into the meal, dressed decently well ourselves. Obviously not a big deal, but I think we just were probably expecting jeans at least!

Is what it is.

I might be surprised, but never annoyed.

Also, FWIW my mom and I (Gen X) have different ideas of what are sweats. there is an abundance of loungewear that I would not go running in or wear to the gym.

Anonymous wrote:Focus on what matters. It's your choice. They weren't trying to hurt you, they were trying to connect with you.
If dress code is important, communicate.

NP. I agree it doesn't matter, but it also tells you something about them. If you'd wear the same thing to a dinner at someone else's home as you would for cleaning out the garage, you are lacking in social intelligence.

Anonymous wrote:Focus on what matters. It's your choice. They weren't trying to hurt you, they were trying to connect with you.
If dress code is important, communicate.

+1
It’s just you. And if this annoys you then maybe they should take another long break from you and not see you in a long while.

Anonymous wrote:I agree with you OP. Maybe I’m old school but I’d never show up in sweats. Jeans? Sure!

That wasn't the question they was asked.

Anonymous wrote:Lol.
I hope she at least put her pearls on before walking next door.

Focus on what matters. It's your choice. They weren't trying to hurt you, they were trying to connect with you.
If dress code is important, communicate.

I agree with you OP. Maybe I’m old school but I’d never show up in sweats. Jeans? Sure!

Lol.
I hope she at least put her pearls on before walking next door.

I would not care.

I hope they avoid you

Invited one of our neighbor friend couples over for dinner; hadn’t seen them in a while. Maybe it’s just me, but I was a bit annoyed that they both showed up in sweats. Obviously wasn’t some fancy dinner, but I guess I figured they would dress a bit nicer.

What do you think?