Anonymous
Post 10/02/2023 14:02     Subject: DH lost job again
... and if gender roles are reversed, how is this any different? Plenty of males shoulder the burden of being the main/only breadwinner.

Plus, they then get criticized from all angles about not shouldering enough in other areas of family life.
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2023 13:09     Subject: DH lost job again
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Honestly I am thinking about moving to a low COL area. I work remote so that shouldn’t be an issue. I am burnt out with this situation.


Would be a wise choice, OP. Any low COL where you might have family or social support?


That would be in Europe. So I am thinking either a smaller town with good public schools around Boston, or Europe. Not sure I can do my job from Europe. I might have to find a new one (which would be bad because I like my job).
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2023 13:04     Subject: DH lost job again
Anonymous wrote:Honestly I am thinking about moving to a low COL area. I work remote so that shouldn’t be an issue. I am burnt out with this situation.


Would be a wise choice, OP. Any low COL where you might have family or social support?
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2023 13:01     Subject: DH lost job again
Anonymous wrote:How in the heck does it take 10 years to get a job?!?! That's insane.


IDK. I have no explanation. All I can tell you is that I am close to some sort of breakdown. This isn’t how I envisioned my life.
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2023 12:56     Subject: DH lost job again
How in the heck does it take 10 years to get a job?!?! That's insane.
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2023 12:48     Subject: DH lost job again
Anonymous wrote:Honestly I am thinking about moving to a low COL area. I work remote so that shouldn’t be an issue. I am burnt out with this situation.


Chili out. Stuff happens. You can't expect things to not come up.
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2023 12:34     Subject: DH lost job again
Honestly I am thinking about moving to a low COL area. I work remote so that shouldn’t be an issue. I am burnt out with this situation.
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2023 12:32     Subject: DH lost job again
Anonymous wrote:I’m really sorry. I grew up with a breadwinning mom (and was a teacher, so were pretty low-income for a family of five) and a dad who was mostly unemployed. It was a huge strain on her and on their marriage. If it’s any consolation, they are pretty happy now that she’s retired!


Not really any consolation, as I do not really like him.
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2023 12:32     Subject: DH lost job again
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Op why does he keep losing jobs?


He had his first job for 20 years, but then nothing for 10 years. He doesn’t keep losing jobs, I wouldn’t say that. It’s just that it took him over 10 years to find this one and the position is cut due to funding issues.


Ten years to find a job?!?
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2023 12:31     Subject: DH lost job again
Anonymous wrote:Op why does he keep losing jobs?


He had his first job for 20 years, but then nothing for 10 years. He doesn’t keep losing jobs, I wouldn’t say that. It’s just that it took him over 10 years to find this one and the position is cut due to funding issues.
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2023 12:29     Subject: DH lost job again
I make more than my DH and there was a period where he was between jobs that was so stressful. Expenses were covered, but not with much room to breathe, so I understand that strain.

I hope he can get out there and find something quickly. I'm sorry.
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2023 12:26     Subject: DH lost job again
Op why does he keep losing jobs?
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2023 12:25     Subject: DH lost job again
I’m so sorry. What’s going on there, that he keeps losing jobs? Learning disabilities? Untreated ADHD? Anxiety? I imagine there’s a root cause.
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2023 12:24     Subject: DH lost job again
I’m really sorry. I grew up with a breadwinning mom (and was a teacher, so were pretty low-income for a family of five) and a dad who was mostly unemployed. It was a huge strain on her and on their marriage. If it’s any consolation, they are pretty happy now that she’s retired!
Anonymous
Post 10/02/2023 12:17     Subject: DH lost job again
I was the sole breadwinner for many years and after a short reprieve, I am back in this unfortunate position. I don’t even know what to think or do. It really put such a strain on me, financially, mentally etc. I just can’t go through it anymore.