Anonymous wrote:Wondering how dating life compares for those who are very attractive vs those of us who are average. Have you found it harder or easier to find a long term partner? Any disadvantages to being very attractive?

Advantage is that it is easy to find a man because men come up to me all the time. The downside is that men come up to me all time.

Anonymous wrote:This is one area where it’s a big advantage. I think it’s a disadvantage at work and in some social situations. The advantage is specifically in getting men interested in going on multiple dates with you. After that, you have to know how to pick well and you also have to be a happy and sane person. And then you have to be compatible. But in terms of choice at the top of the funnel, it is an advantage (even at age 45). Very very unfair, I admit.

I attract the nerdiest guys.

Anonymous wrote:I always wonder about women who respond to threads like this. Do you really think you are "Very" attractive? LOL.

“DC attractive”

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Anonymous wrote:I always wonder about women who respond to threads like this. Do you really think you are "Very" attractive? LOL.

NP I modeled so I kind of know. I don't generally respond to questions like this because what is there to really say.

+1 Same. Would have known it even without the modeling work, though. And I agree -- what is there to say?Likely nothing that people don't already know. I'll try anyway ... it isn't complicated. Men were always interested. Most all of them. They almost always wanted a relationship, but that isn't the greatest thing in the world when what is really going on is not that they love who for who you are, but that they are trying to lock you down, like an object they are afraid they will lose. An object they think gives them status. Not great. But when I did meet the man who is my (wonderful!) DH, it was easy enough to get his attention -- that's a big upside. And apparently I picked well, because 20 years later he still loves me a lot, and looks fade.

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Anonymous wrote:I always wonder about women who respond to threads like this. Do you really think you are "Very" attractive? LOL.

NP I modeled so I kind of know. I don't generally respond to questions like this because what is there to really say.

Same here.

Anonymous wrote:I always wonder about women who respond to threads like this. Do you really think you are "Very" attractive? LOL.

This is my first response to this thread but don’t you think “very attractive” women have lots of evidence?

Terrible, many choices but all still somehow awful. Once I switched to women, the dating world was in my hands. Will never go back.

Anonymous wrote:I always wonder about women who respond to threads like this. Do you really think you are "Very" attractive? LOL.

NP I modeled so I kind of know. I don't generally respond to questions like this because what is there to really say.

Anonymous wrote:I always wonder about women who respond to threads like this. Do you really think you are "Very" attractive? LOL.

I don’t think they think they are Helen of Troy, but I think women know roughly what decile they fall in, or at the least which quartile!

I always wonder about women who respond to threads like this. Do you really think you are "Very" attractive? LOL.

Anonymous wrote:I am now off the market completely and permanently. However, when I was dating, men seemed to think I was a lot sluttier than I was/am. I think they thought because I was pretty I went out with a lot of guys and hooked up with all of them?

PP immediately above you.
I know what you mean but I think this is just some (many) men not knowing how to pick up women. I don’t think these guys were more classy with any other women…

I am now off the market completely and permanently. However, when I was dating, men seemed to think I was a lot sluttier than I was/am. I think they thought because I was pretty I went out with a lot of guys and hooked up with all of them?

This is one area where it’s a big advantage. I think it’s a disadvantage at work and in some social situations. The advantage is specifically in getting men interested in going on multiple dates with you. After that, you have to know how to pick well and you also have to be a happy and sane person. And then you have to be compatible. But in terms of choice at the top of the funnel, it is an advantage (even at age 45). Very very unfair, I admit.

All else equal, people who are more attractive have more choices. That doesn't mean you are a better picker (see earlier post).

Wondering how dating life compares for those who are very attractive vs those of us who are average. Have you found it harder or easier to find a long term partner? Any disadvantages to being very attractive?