Anonymous wrote:Too many various things - we climbed a mountain in the Bay Area, we ate really juicy plums over a kitchen sink in Miami and couldn't stop laughing, we went ice skating and discovered we could both skate, we made out in the Seattle Great Wheel, we ran around Paris looking at real estate, we sat in the furniture section in Macy's and talked for hours only to get kicked out and move to Crate & Barrel and talk even longer, we waited in a three hour line to pet baby goats, went up in a hot air balloon in Napa, danced in the kitchen while the sun set, etc.

Fun things just happen organically. You can plan to do something romantic and it might fizzle. You can plan a boring night in of frozen ravioli and a leftover bottle of wine and wind up having an electric night.

this is spot on and perfectly describes us as well. So many of the really fun things came out of nothing - and most the things that were "planned" didn't usually end up being as deeply memorable as we had originally thought. And honestly, the same applies to our intimate moments - the best ever (and there are plenty of examples we do have) didn't happen on a birthday or valentines day or some other "big day" but just a perfectly random innocuous day, or afternoon or evening.

Music festivals, climbed a waterfall in Belize, repelled a waterfall in Costa Rica, a port tour of the Douro Valley, white water rafting everywhere, curling lesson with a gold medaler... Those are a few that come to mind quickly, but we try to make every day - even when sitting on the deck listening to music - into the most fun ever. We are pretty good at bringing or finding the party.

One thing that I always recommend is to just be open to fun. If we see an opening, we leap. For instance, this past weekend, we were jumping on scooters in Nashville heading for a show that we were mildly into and we saw a couple that we had just met at another show getting into an uber and we asked them where they were going and they said, hop in, we promise it will be worth it. Threw the scooters down, sat on their laps and had an absolutely incredible time the rest of the night.

I don’t think you can force fun, you have to be open to it. My husband has a great sense of humor and loves to have fun but he never plans fun things they just seem to happen. With our young children he loves to be silly and then he pulls me into the silliness and it goes from there. He is not a joke teller but he can find humor in a lot of places.

Anonymous wrote:I think that real fun happens spontaneously and often involves something that’s just silly or stupid. Last summer we were hiking out west and it was hot so we decided to skinny dip in a lake. Suddenly, a large group of hikers decided to make a rest stop near our location and it was a hoot trying to exit the water. When my husband realized that they were all adults he simply walked out and waved and I soon followed. I almost hurt myself laughing. I’m sure someone pulled out their smartphone and posted something!

That is a great story.

I think that real fun happens spontaneously and often involves something that’s just silly or stupid. Last summer we were hiking out west and it was hot so we decided to skinny dip in a lake. Suddenly, a large group of hikers decided to make a rest stop near our location and it was a hoot trying to exit the water. When my husband realized that they were all adults he simply walked out and waved and I soon followed. I almost hurt myself laughing. I’m sure someone pulled out their smartphone and posted something!

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Anonymous wrote:Too many various things - we climbed a mountain in the Bay Area, we ate really juicy plums over a kitchen sink in Miami and couldn't stop laughing, we went ice skating and discovered we could both skate, we made out in the Seattle Great Wheel, we ran around Paris looking at real estate, we sat in the furniture section in Macy's and talked for hours only to get kicked out and move to Crate & Barrel and talk even longer, we waited in a three hour line to pet baby goats, went up in a hot air balloon in Napa, danced in the kitchen while the sun set, etc.

Fun things just happen organically. You can plan to do something romantic and it might fizzle. You can plan a boring night in of frozen ravioli and a leftover bottle of wine and wind up having an electric night.

This sounds so cute and i am envious that you seem like a person who can let go mentally of all the things required of adults on a regular basis and just enjoy the moment! How old are you guys?

38 and 42.

Anonymous wrote:I'm a little sad sitting here trying to think because all of our truly fun things happened before having kids, so over 20 years ago. Youngest goes to college in a couple of years, so maybe we can do these things again.

Spontaneous things like hopping in the car and just driving backroads in the country, finding a hole-in-the-wall place to eat, not caring about schedules or caring for anyone else.

Surprising each other with a vacation and just instructions to take off work for such and such dates and pack clothes appropriate for warm weather.

Hiking and rewarding ourselves at the end with a nice dinner and dessert.

Why do you have to wait? The minute we felt comfortable leaving the kids by themselves for a couple of hours we did more stuff together. Fun doesn’t have to mean elaborate and expensive. We take a dance class at the county rec center. It is cheap and modest, but fun!

Anonymous wrote:Too many various things - we climbed a mountain in the Bay Area, we ate really juicy plums over a kitchen sink in Miami and couldn't stop laughing, we went ice skating and discovered we could both skate, we made out in the Seattle Great Wheel, we ran around Paris looking at real estate, we sat in the furniture section in Macy's and talked for hours only to get kicked out and move to Crate & Barrel and talk even longer, we waited in a three hour line to pet baby goats, went up in a hot air balloon in Napa, danced in the kitchen while the sun set, etc.

Fun things just happen organically. You can plan to do something romantic and it might fizzle. You can plan a boring night in of frozen ravioli and a leftover bottle of wine and wind up having an electric night.

I wish I knew y'all! Cheers!

The most fun we've had in the last 5 years:
-Went to Norway sans kids and climbed a mountain.
-Also in Norway we walked an hour and a half in the pouring rain to get to 3 cider orchards. Spent the rainy day doing cider tastings and snacks at each. We had the BEST day. It was so cozy under the awnings in the rain, the views were insane.
-We intended to meet for happy hour after work one day and for some reason we thought the place we were meeting was a brewery, but when we walked in it was an 80s arcade bar filled with bikers. Everyone got quiet and stared as we walked in so we felt too awkward to walk back out and just ran with it. We had so much fun getting buzzed and playing skeeball, the little ice hockey guys, pacman, air hockey.
-I was pregnant with our last during the height of covid and I was saying I wished it was safe to go to a spa. I took a nap and when I came out, DH had filled two huge rubbermaid bins (lol) with hot water, essential oils, and epsom salt. He made some "fancy" mocktail in wine glasses with la Croix and fresh squeezed orange juice, and we sat on the couch and soaked our feet then he gave me a foot massage after. Probably my favorite pandemic memory. It felt like everything I could ever need was right there at home.
-prekids we were adventurous as hell, backpacked through 25+ countries over 4 summers

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Anonymous wrote:Too many various things - we climbed a mountain in the Bay Area, we ate really juicy plums over a kitchen sink in Miami and couldn't stop laughing, we went ice skating and discovered we could both skate, we made out in the Seattle Great Wheel, we ran around Paris looking at real estate, we sat in the furniture section in Macy's and talked for hours only to get kicked out and move to Crate & Barrel and talk even longer, we waited in a three hour line to pet baby goats, went up in a hot air balloon in Napa, danced in the kitchen while the sun set, etc.

Fun things just happen organically. You can plan to do something romantic and it might fizzle. You can plan a boring night in of frozen ravioli and a leftover bottle of wine and wind up having an electric night.

This sounds so cute and i am envious that you seem like a person who can let go mentally of all the things required of adults on a regular basis and just enjoy the moment! How old are you guys?

Different poster. We do fun stuff all the time and we have a profoundly disabled child. The reality is that money helps. We keep seven day a week care for our kid. We are very social so we do stuff just the two of us and with friends. We love to travel. But we also have a ton of fun just going to the movies.

I'm a little sad sitting here trying to think because all of our truly fun things happened before having kids, so over 20 years ago. Youngest goes to college in a couple of years, so maybe we can do these things again.

Spontaneous things like hopping in the car and just driving backroads in the country, finding a hole-in-the-wall place to eat, not caring about schedules or caring for anyone else.

Surprising each other with a vacation and just instructions to take off work for such and such dates and pack clothes appropriate for warm weather.

Hiking and rewarding ourselves at the end with a nice dinner and dessert.

Anonymous wrote:Too many various things - we climbed a mountain in the Bay Area, we ate really juicy plums over a kitchen sink in Miami and couldn't stop laughing, we went ice skating and discovered we could both skate, we made out in the Seattle Great Wheel, we ran around Paris looking at real estate, we sat in the furniture section in Macy's and talked for hours only to get kicked out and move to Crate & Barrel and talk even longer, we waited in a three hour line to pet baby goats, went up in a hot air balloon in Napa, danced in the kitchen while the sun set, etc.

Fun things just happen organically. You can plan to do something romantic and it might fizzle. You can plan a boring night in of frozen ravioli and a leftover bottle of wine and wind up having an electric night.

This sounds so cute and i am envious that you seem like a person who can let go mentally of all the things required of adults on a regular basis and just enjoy the moment! How old are you guys?

Anonymous wrote:Too many various things - we climbed a mountain in the Bay Area, we ate really juicy plums over a kitchen sink in Miami and couldn't stop laughing, we went ice skating and discovered we could both skate, we made out in the Seattle Great Wheel, we ran around Paris looking at real estate, we sat in the furniture section in Macy's and talked for hours only to get kicked out and move to Crate & Barrel and talk even longer, we waited in a three hour line to pet baby goats, went up in a hot air balloon in Napa, danced in the kitchen while the sun set, etc.

Fun things just happen organically. You can plan to do something romantic and it might fizzle. You can plan a boring night in of frozen ravioli and a leftover bottle of wine and wind up having an electric night.

This is absolutely adorable.

Too many various things - we climbed a mountain in the Bay Area, we ate really juicy plums over a kitchen sink in Miami and couldn't stop laughing, we went ice skating and discovered we could both skate, we made out in the Seattle Great Wheel, we ran around Paris looking at real estate, we sat in the furniture section in Macy's and talked for hours only to get kicked out and move to Crate & Barrel and talk even longer, we waited in a three hour line to pet baby goats, went up in a hot air balloon in Napa, danced in the kitchen while the sun set, etc.

Fun things just happen organically. You can plan to do something romantic and it might fizzle. You can plan a boring night in of frozen ravioli and a leftover bottle of wine and wind up having an electric night.

Whats the most fun you've had with spouse? Looking for ideas to spice things up.