Anonymous
Post 09/23/2023 19:14     Subject: Increasing your libido
Don't you have sexual experience to draw on? Haven't you been a sexual being for decades?
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2023 17:48     Subject: Increasing your libido
Anonymous wrote:Woman here.

I started liking my own body more. I stopped being so busy I never got downtime. My kids got older and DH and I started spending intentional time together before bed every night.


DP adding to this re: intentional time: OP, if you are trying to have sex in the evenings at bedtime, and it's not working and you feel too tired etc., consider morning sex. Huge game-changer for my DH and me. Nights, we're tired or mentally preoccupied from the day. Waking up together and flowing into it early has proven much more conducive to more sex, more often.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2023 17:45     Subject: Re:Increasing your libido

If you're a woman, OP: Are you using hormonal birth control?

The pill or other hormonal types of BC? For some women, the pill etc. can suppress libido. I would absolutely deal with your BC choices first if your libido is low or has dropped off-- at least rule out BC as a potential source of lowered libido, so if fixing BC does not work to increase libido, you can move on to other solutions. I found that the pill suppressed my libido, which increased greatly once I was off the pill.

Ask your gynecologist about ensuring you are on the lowest possible dose BC if you do use it. Or alternatives to hormonal BC.

Have you talked to your gynecologist about your lower libido? I would start there. Whether it's BC-related or not for you, your gyn should have heard it all and may have other ideas on helping you.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2023 17:36     Subject: Increasing your libido
Anonymous wrote:Husband does more chores duh


Hahahaha, true
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2023 16:58     Subject: Increasing your libido
Gym makes a big difference for me, but as you pile up the positives in your life your libido will follow.

Ease off booze
Go to bed early
Good diet
Break a daily sweat
Work muscles daily
Clean up your personal life
Do something good for someone every day
Double down on your relationship- date nights, turn your phone off

When it’s all working you’ll be unstoppable.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2023 16:43     Subject: Increasing your libido
Anonymous wrote:OP is a woman, yes? Then simply get a new partner. Repeat every 10 months.

+ a million. Sadly, this is the answer.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2023 16:42     Subject: Increasing your libido
Tingle to Mingle
Lelo Sila
Bellesa stories
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2023 16:39     Subject: Increasing your libido
OP is a woman, yes? Then simply get a new partner. Repeat every 10 months.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2023 14:38     Subject: Increasing your libido
Fresh blood.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2023 12:50     Subject: Increasing your libido
Woman here.

I started liking my own body more. I stopped being so busy I never got downtime. My kids got older and DH and I started spending intentional time together before bed every night.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2023 12:50     Subject: Increasing your libido
Anonymous wrote:Reading books with explicit sex scenes.

+1
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2023 12:48     Subject: Increasing your libido
Anonymous wrote:Husband does more chores duh


I know you’re being sarcastic, but I agree that it doesn’t really work out. Because usually, if it is the case that the wife or husband hasn’t been pulling their weight, by the time they attempt to fix this for sex it’s too late. The resentment and contempt from the other spouse is often too entrenched, and sexual attraction is unable to be re-ignited.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2023 12:44     Subject: Increasing your libido
Reading books with explicit sex scenes.
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2023 12:43     Subject: Increasing your libido
Husband does more chores duh
Anonymous
Post 09/23/2023 12:40     Subject: Increasing your libido
What works or has worked for you?