Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We don’t have sex but it’s not because we’re platonic, it’s because we don’t want to have sex with each other.

Question for you: were you both always asexual from birth?
Or, did this only come out later in life?

PP didn't say they were asexual.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm platonic, faithful, and the higher libido spouse. I wouldn't say that I'm happy. But, I'm content.

same here - and i'm the wife. and no my husband isn't cheating on me - he has health issues and is on meds that have destroyed his sex drive. it's not my favorite part of our relationship! but i am not planning to leave or cheat.

we're not platonic in the sense of no kissing, no i love yous, all that - we're affectionate and loving. but sexless.

Yes, this is us as well. Together almost 40 years. Couldn't have imagined this when we were in our 20s, 30s and 40s... even early 50s! But age and health conditions requiring medical intervention take their toll.

Anonymous wrote:I'm platonic, faithful, and the higher libido spouse. I wouldn't say that I'm happy. But, I'm content.

same here - and i'm the wife. and no my husband isn't cheating on me - he has health issues and is on meds that have destroyed his sex drive. it's not my favorite part of our relationship! but i am not planning to leave or cheat.

we're not platonic in the sense of no kissing, no i love yous, all that - we're affectionate and loving. but sexless.

I’m faithful because he demands it, I don’t want to upset kids lives, etc. I’m probably the higher drive person… our marriage is mostly platonic and he isn’t interested in building emotional or intellectual chemistry and connection either. I’m tired of always being the one trying on these fronts. We don’t have much in common as people and he isn’t interested in talking to me.

When it comes to kids we both love them and do a lot as a family, same with household. Finances are not an issue. So we don’t fight over these things, and we’re fine as roommates and all.

I mean at some point I figure I won’t care much about the physical stuff or connection?

Anonymous wrote:We don’t have sex but it’s not because we’re platonic, it’s because we don’t want to have sex with each other.

Question for you: were you both always asexual from birth?
Or, did this only come out later in life?

Anonymous wrote:There will be lots of platonic marriages, the person writing claiming to be happy has a miserable partner.

Truth.

We don’t have sex but it’s not because we’re platonic, it’s because we don’t want to have sex with each other.

Anonymous wrote:Yup. Married over 30 years, very happy, retired. It helps that we're both old.

Us too. Health reasons.

Anonymous wrote:I'm platonic, faithful, and the higher libido spouse. I wouldn't say that I'm happy. But, I'm content.

Same. I’m not happy but I’m not unhappy either

Yup. Married over 30 years, very happy, retired. It helps that we're both old.

Anonymous wrote:Yes of course !! Tons and tons and tons of platonic room mate marriages work just fine..... SO LONG as you have no expectations of fidelity.

I can’t tell if you are being serious here? If you are being serious can you talk more about how these type of marriages work? What rules are followed to keep it successful?

I'm platonic, faithful, and the higher libido spouse. I wouldn't say that I'm happy. But, I'm content.

Yes of course !! Tons and tons and tons of platonic room mate marriages work just fine..... SO LONG as you have no expectations of fidelity.

There will be lots of platonic marriages, the person writing claiming to be happy has a miserable partner.

Anyone have a marriage that’s grown to be platonic? Are you satisfied?