Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the brides parents are paying at least $30K, anything above that is on the couple. $30K is a average wedding budget.

Some wedding dresses are $10K, that's not much.

And some, like mine, cost $35 at the thrift store (plus the cost of cleaning).

No one is required to purchase a $10K wedding dress.

Anonymous wrote:No rules. The parents can chip in whatever they want and can afford. If the couple want something more expensive, they can pay for it themselves, and if they can't or don't want to, they can have a less expensive wedding. What you want and what you get are two different things.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the brides parents are paying at least $30K, anything above that is on the couple. $30K is a average wedding budget.

Some wedding dresses are $10K, that's not much.

LOL. Only fools pay that much coin on a dress. In todays day and age, no couple should expect anyone to pay for their wedding except themselves. Have the wedding you can afford. Cut the cord, kids.

Anonymous wrote:If bride's parents can't afford to pay for the type of wedding that the couple wants, shouldn't the grooms family step up and contribute? What are the rules now for paying for a wedding?

Grooms family pays for rehearsal dinner and out of town guest accommodations.

They should ABSOLUTELY step up if they're expecting a certain kind of event/number of guests that isn't in the budget.

Otherwise no obligation.

Anonymous wrote:If the brides parents are paying at least $30K, anything above that is on the couple. $30K is a average wedding budget.

Some wedding dresses are $10K, that's not much.

When we got married my DH's family contributed nothing. We did not ask. They did not offer. They absolutely could have covered the rehearsal dinner. We struggled to pay it but we paid it. My parents paid for the wedding (which they could easily afford, and I am not comparing them to DH's family who is far less well off, but DH's family weasels out of financial contributions a lot and has an attitude that money flows from adult children to parents, so I am sensitive about it).

We helped pay for my sons wedding because we adore his bride and wanted her to have what she wanted. We paid in full for daughter. Although they were much wealthier than us they did not offer a dime. Not even the traditional things.

there are new rules. the groom's family is now expected to contribute more than in the past. not all grooms' families know or subscribe to this.

No rules. The parents can chip in whatever they want and can afford. If the couple want something more expensive, they can pay for it themselves, and if they can't or don't want to, they can have a less expensive wedding. What you want and what you get are two different things.

If the brides parents are paying at least $30K, anything above that is on the couple. $30K is a average wedding budget.

There are no rules. But usually groom's family does rehearsal dinner, and possibly brunch the day after if applicable.

No one should have to fund an expensive wedding if the couple can't afford it.

If grooms parents would like to chip in and can afford to, that is lovely. But sticking them with the bill because the couple can't afford it is gross and entitled.

There are no rules. If the groom's family is the typical DCUM demographic of having an astronomical HHI and anticipating a huge inheritance then they should help pay for the wedding.

If bride's parents can't afford to pay for the type of wedding that the couple wants, shouldn't the grooms family step up and contribute? What are the rules now for paying for a wedding?