Anonymous wrote:OP. He does have ADHD. I do not believe that is an excuse for lack of effort in at least trying to be on time.

So how do YOU know there is a lack of effort? Having ADHD can be deeply shameful. He must be doing something right if he makes it to Board meetings. Look into executive function coaching. I like Thinking Organized.

I have adhd and time blindness is not one of my issues. But if it were I would work on tools to help me get to places on time. He doesn't care that he's putting other people out by being late, that's his actual problem that you need to work on. Empathy.

I was like this as a child. I had undiagnosed ADHD and no one to help me develop processes to be on time.

My kids are all ADHD. we work to set alarms, get things together the night before, and set a time when we get ready to leave that results on timely departure.

I did. He got on ADHD meds and is much better.

You just need to rant and rave more.

I too have a ADHD child, so I can relate to the 'The rest of us are in the car, ready to go...where are you?" thing. It's maddening. I was actually always a late person before I met my husband, who is former military and is NEVER late for anything. In fact, the mantra he lives by is "If you are on time, you're late". Anyway, fast forward to now he's a college student with classes and a job, and he's never late for either. I'm assuming living far away helped him grow up.

Speaking for myself, as an adult I am early-to-on-time, always. Maybe once a year I'm late. As a kid I was always rushing and always barely making it places on time. As I got older the things my father kept telling me over and over eventually seeped into my head and I did them - prep the night before, leave time for things to crop up unexpectedly, etc.

I agree with PP that said let him fall on his face and stop paying for sport lessons that he cannot prioritize. You should have done this from the beginning and maybe it wouldn't be a problem now. Stop bailing your kids out and let them deal with the consequences. Better consequences in childhood than the real ones of adulthood, i.e., jobless or losing a deal etc.

It's hard to let your kid fail; it IS better for them though

Setting lots of alarms on his phone/watch might help. Alexa or Google Home for reminders, too. Honestly, some people just have a different sense of time just like some people don’t “see” a messy room. It will likely be a lifelong tendency but putting supports in place can help.

OP. He does have ADHD. I do not believe that is an excuse for lack of effort in at least trying to be on time.

I would read up on time blindness and ADHD. It might resonate.

Anonymous wrote:You need to just let him keep falling on his face, there’s no alternative. Obviously don’t bail him out when he’s late.

Also cancel the sports lessons. They’re not important enough to him to be on time so if this isn’t a college scholarship situation, stop paying for them.

You need to just let him keep falling on his face, there’s no alternative. Obviously don’t bail him out when he’s late.

I have an 18 year old that is chronically late. As in arriving at 9:50am every single morning for an internship that starts at 9:15 or always starting a sports lesson at 7 minutes pass the hour or always missing the school bus every morning and taking Ubers or begging for rides.

My spouse is the same way. He is always late for board meetings, flights and social events and that is why I have always had to get the kids to sports practice, games and school events since he is so predictably unreliable.

This is becoming an untenable situation for me. No matter how much I rant and rave my teen's behavior does not change. I have a 9 year old that is always on time so I know my parenting is not necessarily to blame. Should I just put up with this for a couple of months since it's his senior year and just let him figure it out at this point like his own Dad?