Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There's tons of other creative benefits you can provide like:

-Adding her to your phone plan or subsidizing hers
-Health insurance
-Retirement contribution
-Adding her to your gym/club/pool membership
-More PTO
-If one or both you parents travel for work and have a ton of miles racked up, book her a flight during her PTO
-If you have a second home, offer to let her and her family use it for a weekend
-Add her to your museum memberships so she can go and enjoy them sans kids

Ha, only DCUM can make me feel poor. We’re maxed out on what we can offer her monetarily and don’t have a second home or any memberships to offer. We can consider more PTO but she already gets 3 weeks/year her choice and then is obviously paid for our vacations, so easily 4-5 weeks off paid per year.

This was actually intended exactly for people who are seeking non monetary incentives. We are not DCUM rich but my DH travels for work a lot so we can offer our nanny miles to cover a flight home over the holidays and she LOVES it and it costs us nothing out of pocket. Health insurance stipends are tax free for both the nanny and the family. Even if you can't offer a raise, you can offer to designate a portion of the pay as a health insurance stipend and then that amount will be tax free and more take home for nanny plus less out of pocket for you. We didn't add nanny on our phone plan, but when I moved DH over to my plan, it was $25/month. A lifetime fitness membership is like $30/month and they have drop in childcare. Maybe a nanny really into health and fitness would like a 45 min work out and let the plays in the kids room. There's lots of creative perks if you get creative.

Anonymous wrote:There's tons of other creative benefits you can provide like:

-Adding her to your phone plan or subsidizing hers
-Health insurance
-Retirement contribution
-Adding her to your gym/club/pool membership
-More PTO
-If one or both you parents travel for work and have a ton of miles racked up, book her a flight during her PTO
-If you have a second home, offer to let her and her family use it for a weekend
-Add her to your museum memberships so she can go and enjoy them sans kids

Ha, only DCUM can make me feel poor. We’re maxed out on what we can offer her monetarily and don’t have a second home or any memberships to offer. We can consider more PTO but she already gets 3 weeks/year her choice and then is obviously paid for our vacations, so easily 4-5 weeks off paid per year.

We have a male nanny and gave really great seats to baseball games a few times throughout the season.

I would make it a two week Christmas bonus if it isn't already.

There's tons of other creative benefits you can provide like:

-Adding her to your phone plan or subsidizing hers
-Health insurance
-Retirement contribution
-Adding her to your gym/club/pool membership
-More PTO
-If one or both you parents travel for work and have a ton of miles racked up, book her a flight during her PTO
-If you have a second home, offer to let her and her family use it for a weekend
-Add her to your museum memberships so she can go and enjoy them sans kids

Our nanny is wonderful. I just went back to work after having my second kid. I was so nervous about how she would handle a toddler and an infant, but she’s really rolled with the punches and come up a routine that works for them. And the baby, who is slow to warm up to people, already lights up when he sees her.

I know managing kids this age is HARD, and we did give her a substantial raise when she started taking care of the two of them. She is very well paid. Is there any other way I can let her know how much I appreciate her? A small gift? She gets a Christmas bonus and I got her something small for her birthday. I just don’t know what’s appropriate in this situation.