Anonymous
Post 08/19/2023 19:03     Subject: Nanny Raise
I am pp who was wondering how kids get sick but of course I had babies/toddlers in mind who just stay home with nanny, not school age kids. Those babies do not get sick as a rule. Once they enter school, of course they are sick all the time, and no nanny I know would want such a job. If nanny gets sick and uses all her sick time, no one is paying for her staying home beyond that, and with rsv, flu and covid circulating in centers and schools, no thank you. I need my health please, and will not jeopardize my own family plus take unpaid time off when kid is sick half the time.


Anonymous
Post 08/19/2023 18:19     Subject: Re:Nanny Raise
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Our nanny refuses to watch sick kids. Her mother lives with her and she is afraid of getting her sick. Is that not normal?


To me, that defeats the point of having a nanny. Plus if the nanny is taking care of children everyday, she’s already been exposed before symptoms show up.

If I have to call off work for every cold, I’m not paying a premium for a nanny. (I honestly don’t know anyone who would.)


Do you pay for healthcare when your nanny gets sick?
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2023 18:18     Subject: Nanny Raise
Anonymous wrote:I am a nanny and I am not watching sick kids either. How do they get sick btw if they are home with nanny?



Uh, what?
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2023 16:03     Subject: Re:Nanny Raise
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Our nanny refuses to watch sick kids. Her mother lives with her and she is afraid of getting her sick. Is that not normal?


That’s not normal (but in my circles people mostly used nannies during the little kid years. If a nanny refused to work while kids were sick she’d be getting paid to stay home all winter.)



In my circle most people have a nanny and a SAHM so it’s not great but no work to call out of.
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2023 15:57     Subject: Re:Nanny Raise
Anonymous wrote:Our nanny refuses to watch sick kids. Her mother lives with her and she is afraid of getting her sick. Is that not normal?


That’s not normal (but in my circles people mostly used nannies during the little kid years. If a nanny refused to work while kids were sick she’d be getting paid to stay home all winter.)

Anonymous
Post 08/19/2023 15:46     Subject: Re:Nanny Raise
Anonymous wrote:Our nanny refuses to watch sick kids. Her mother lives with her and she is afraid of getting her sick. Is that not normal?


To me, that defeats the point of having a nanny. Plus if the nanny is taking care of children everyday, she’s already been exposed before symptoms show up.

If I have to call off work for every cold, I’m not paying a premium for a nanny. (I honestly don’t know anyone who would.)
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2023 15:40     Subject: Re:Nanny Raise
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Our nanny refuses to watch sick kids. Her mother lives with her and she is afraid of getting her sick. Is that not normal?


each nanny has slightly different sick boundaries but in general most nannies are fine watching kids with run of the mill sicknesses, but not covid, flu, or stomach bugs.


I’m the poster whose nanny won’t do sick kids. She is adamant if the kid can’t go to school she won’t come. She was very forward with us though and never hid the ball on where she stood on it. So I can’t fault her. I don’t like being around sick people, why should she.
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2023 14:24     Subject: Re:Nanny Raise
Anonymous wrote:Our nanny refuses to watch sick kids. Her mother lives with her and she is afraid of getting her sick. Is that not normal?


each nanny has slightly different sick boundaries but in general most nannies are fine watching kids with run of the mill sicknesses, but not covid, flu, or stomach bugs.
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2023 13:56     Subject: Nanny Raise
I am a nanny and I am not watching sick kids either. How do they get sick btw if they are home with nanny?
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2023 13:46     Subject: Re:Nanny Raise
Our nanny refuses to watch sick kids. Her mother lives with her and she is afraid of getting her sick. Is that not normal?
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2023 13:08     Subject: Nanny Raise
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:It’s almost our nanny’s 2 year anniversary and we need to figure out her pay increase. Our nanny started in September 2021 and we paid her $25/hour for 2 kids, with one being in school from 8-3 daily (and takes a school bus to/from). Last September we gave her a $2/hour raise because we think she is great and know the cost of living is higher for things like gas, food, etc. This September our youngest will start preschool 5 days a week from 9-12pm, but we are definitely keeping our nanny full time and not cutting hours ever though she will have more downtime while the kids are both in school. For this reason, a $1/hr raise feels more reasonable vs, $2/hr. And beyond that, we plan to keep her for many more years hopefully and getting closer to $30/hr+ feels like a lot of money.

I am curious if others typically do $1/hr or more for annual raises, and what you would do in my situation.


Are you expecting her to take care of kids when school is closed. Kid is sick. Holidays when you are working? If so, give her the $2.00/raise. You have a nanny whom you trust and that your children love. show your appreciation by not being cheap, particularly if you want to keep her.


This is written by a nanny…our prev nanny hard a hard time finding someone who’d pay 25 in NOVA in 2023 so I think $28 so a $1 raise is fine. Most families were offering around 22.
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2023 11:30     Subject: Nanny Raise
Anonymous wrote:I think it is fair, but she will not be sitting around every day. There will be so many days the kids will be sick, early release, teacher days, holidays, weather days, etc. she will be on duty a lot.

Can she do their laundry and prep their meals while she is at your home? Clean the toys, organize their closets? I don't think she would object as long as there are no adult-related tasks. You can give a small list each day.


Giving your nanny a list of tasks every day is insulting. She is not a servant.
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2023 11:29     Subject: Nanny Raise
Anonymous wrote:It’s almost our nanny’s 2 year anniversary and we need to figure out her pay increase. Our nanny started in September 2021 and we paid her $25/hour for 2 kids, with one being in school from 8-3 daily (and takes a school bus to/from). Last September we gave her a $2/hour raise because we think she is great and know the cost of living is higher for things like gas, food, etc. This September our youngest will start preschool 5 days a week from 9-12pm, but we are definitely keeping our nanny full time and not cutting hours ever though she will have more downtime while the kids are both in school. For this reason, a $1/hr raise feels more reasonable vs, $2/hr. And beyond that, we plan to keep her for many more years hopefully and getting closer to $30/hr+ feels like a lot of money.

I am curious if others typically do $1/hr or more for annual raises, and what you would do in my situation.


Are you expecting her to take care of kids when school is closed. Kid is sick. Holidays when you are working? If so, give her the $2.00/raise. You have a nanny whom you trust and that your children love. show your appreciation by not being cheap, particularly if you want to keep her.
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2023 11:21     Subject: Nanny Raise
I think it is fair, but she will not be sitting around every day. There will be so many days the kids will be sick, early release, teacher days, holidays, weather days, etc. she will be on duty a lot.

Can she do their laundry and prep their meals while she is at your home? Clean the toys, organize their closets? I don't think she would object as long as there are no adult-related tasks. You can give a small list each day.
Anonymous
Post 08/19/2023 10:38     Subject: Nanny Raise
It’s almost our nanny’s 2 year anniversary and we need to figure out her pay increase. Our nanny started in September 2021 and we paid her $25/hour for 2 kids, with one being in school from 8-3 daily (and takes a school bus to/from). Last September we gave her a $2/hour raise because we think she is great and know the cost of living is higher for things like gas, food, etc. This September our youngest will start preschool 5 days a week from 9-12pm, but we are definitely keeping our nanny full time and not cutting hours ever though she will have more downtime while the kids are both in school. For this reason, a $1/hr raise feels more reasonable vs, $2/hr. And beyond that, we plan to keep her for many more years hopefully and getting closer to $30/hr+ feels like a lot of money.

I am curious if others typically do $1/hr or more for annual raises, and what you would do in my situation.