Yes but too late.

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Anonymous wrote:There is a thread on this every few months, OP. Most people will rationalize their choices. Only a few will admit to errors. Human brains tend to work that way.

Yep, confirmation bias. It’s like private school and public school parents - both need to believe their choice is better, so they do!

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Anonymous wrote:There is a thread on this every few months, OP. Most people will rationalize their choices. Only a few will admit to errors. Human brains tend to work that way.

This^.

No. I’m 54 and I have no regrets. My H was very mentally ill and I did everything to be a loving and supportive wife.

It really wasn’t until I decided to divorce that he decided he needed serious and deep therapy, and he got it.

Now he is mostly mentally stable and my kids have a good father. I am very happy and content and financially stable (his illness was expensive).

My kids got the gift of two happy parents and an understanding that life it a tough road and there is not 1 definition of success.

At, 54 I don’t know many happy couples, maybe 2 out of my 20 friends.

I know a lot of happy single people.

I regret not doing it five years ago.

Hell No!!!

Did ent want it when it happened but no regrets, 30+ years later

I do very deeply. Whenever I see other family members growing old with their partners I feel sad. When I think about how my he and I won’t make memories with the kids and our grandkids I get very sad. Our marriage. Was extremely tough, but so is being without him. Sometimes I want to die, so through death we can part.

Anonymous wrote:There is a thread on this every few months, OP. Most people will rationalize their choices. Only a few will admit to errors. Human brains tend to work that way.

Yep, confirmation bias. It’s like private school and public school parents - both need to believe their choice is better, so they do!

No

Many people on here say they regret it if their kids were young. The logistics of two households is not worth it if there is not adultery, abuse, addiction. Try counseling first.

There is a thread on this every few months, OP. Most people will rationalize their choices. Only a few will admit to errors. Human brains tend to work that way.

Anonymous wrote:Tell me about it-

Not me but a friend of mine regrets her first divorce. Another guy regrets both divorces.

Nope, not at all. I regret not leaving sooner.

I regret marrying in the first place.

Tell me about it-