Anonymous
Post 08/21/2023 09:16     Subject: If your kids are grown and you are a grandparent now…
Anonymous wrote:I am a grandparent and have four adult children. We don’t think at all about where our kids went to college. To the contrary, with the passage of time it’s more and more obvious that where they went to college doesn’t matter at all. I have seen no correlation whatsoever between the quality, reputation, or “ranking” of where my kids went to college and where their friends went to college and how happy and successful they are as adults.


My kids are little, so I don't have the perspective you have, but I completely agree with how you think. At 36, the people in my tribe come from different backgrounds and totally different schools, ranking wise, but we all ended up in the same place with similar philosophies on work and how to raise our kids. Makes me think the absolute gauntlet isn't worth it.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2023 08:47     Subject: If your kids are grown and you are a grandparent now…
Weird. Just really weird. The grandparents must just be sad and lonely with no life of their own at this. I would just ignore it as a weird quirk.
Anonymous
Post 08/21/2023 08:05     Subject: If your kids are grown and you are a grandparent now…
Is this a sporting event issue? Or are they arguing about academics? My entire immediate family went to a large state flagship school. I grew up going to football games there, went when I attended school there, still wear school apparel in my early 50s. This is pretty common in that area, as there are not tons of affordable in-state choices for college. I now live out of state but watch games on TV, as I am a fan. My parents do, as well. They are lifelong fans, too.

My nephew attended a different in-state school. My parents do not wear gear for that school, but they also don’t argue with people online about the school they attended vs. the one my nephew attended… at least I would be very surprised to learn if they did so!

Does that help, OP?
Anonymous
Post 08/16/2023 15:09     Subject: If your kids are grown and you are a grandparent now…
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My parents (my kids grandparents) do not own any sweatshirts from my or my spouses college, which I graduated from 32 years ago. I don't even own any sweatshirts from my college! I wear sweatshirts from my kid's colleges though. Their grandparents do not


Do your parents go to any college games?

Do they argue about your college with others online?



No. The only sporting events either set of grandparents went to were when our kids played, or pro football/baseball. No college games.

Argue about our colleges? The ones we went to 32 and more for my spouse, years ago? Nope. Theyare proud of all the grandkids colleges, but it's more pride in the kids than their college if that makes sense. They are good people doing good things. I will admit that we parents attend games when we visit for parents weekend, but that's about it, and only because that's what our kids and their friends do. When they are not there, we won't watch their games on TV or attend games (all are at D1 schools)

These are such odd questions. OP, do your parents do this? And how many years have you been out of college?


My parents don’t do this; I’ve been out of college/grad school for 25+ years.

I know the parent of older adult children who aggressively argues with others online about her kid’s school. I thought it was odd, just wanted to confirm.
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2023 16:31     Subject: If your kids are grown and you are a grandparent now…
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My parents (my kids grandparents) do not own any sweatshirts from my or my spouses college, which I graduated from 32 years ago. I don't even own any sweatshirts from my college! I wear sweatshirts from my kid's colleges though. Their grandparents do not


Do your parents go to any college games?

Do they argue about your college with others online?



No. The only sporting events either set of grandparents went to were when our kids played, or pro football/baseball. No college games.

Argue about our colleges? The ones we went to 32 and more for my spouse, years ago? Nope. Theyare proud of all the grandkids colleges, but it's more pride in the kids than their college if that makes sense. They are good people doing good things. I will admit that we parents attend games when we visit for parents weekend, but that's about it, and only because that's what our kids and their friends do. When they are not there, we won't watch their games on TV or attend games (all are at D1 schools)

These are such odd questions. OP, do your parents do this? And how many years have you been out of college?
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2023 16:17     Subject: If your kids are grown and you are a grandparent now…
So it sounds like it’s pretty odd for the parent of older adult children to argue online with others about the college their kids attended.

Interesting.
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2023 13:09     Subject: If your kids are grown and you are a grandparent now…
I am a grandparent and have four adult children. We don’t think at all about where our kids went to college. To the contrary, with the passage of time it’s more and more obvious that where they went to college doesn’t matter at all. I have seen no correlation whatsoever between the quality, reputation, or “ranking” of where my kids went to college and where their friends went to college and how happy and successful they are as adults.
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2023 10:57     Subject: If your kids are grown and you are a grandparent now…
We are parents of 3 and also grandparents so that’s our crowd. We never would wear anything from ours or our kids schools. There are parents of adult kids who do discuss (brag) about these things and it is very annoying. The only schools that I have heard bragged about are Penn State and Georgetown. These are people to avoid.
However, if you ask us about our grandkids you may regret it. Phone comes out, pictures are shown and maybe even videos.
Anonymous
Post 08/15/2023 10:02     Subject: If your kids are grown and you are a grandparent now…
Anonymous wrote:No, and never to all your questions.


Do you think it’s common for parents of older adult children to do those things?
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2023 13:39     Subject: If your kids are grown and you are a grandparent now…
Anonymous wrote:My parents (my kids grandparents) do not own any sweatshirts from my or my spouses college, which I graduated from 32 years ago. I don't even own any sweatshirts from my college! I wear sweatshirts from my kid's colleges though. Their grandparents do not


Do your parents go to any college games?

Do they argue about your college with others online?

Anonymous
Post 08/14/2023 13:37     Subject: If your kids are grown and you are a grandparent now…
Anonymous wrote:what does being a grandparent have to do with it?


To give perspective on how long your adult children have been out of college.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2023 13:33     Subject: If your kids are grown and you are a grandparent now…
No, and never to all your questions.
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2023 13:30     Subject: If your kids are grown and you are a grandparent now…
My parents (my kids grandparents) do not own any sweatshirts from my or my spouses college, which I graduated from 32 years ago. I don't even own any sweatshirts from my college! I wear sweatshirts from my kid's colleges though. Their grandparents do not
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2023 11:51     Subject: If your kids are grown and you are a grandparent now…
what does being a grandparent have to do with it?
Anonymous
Post 08/14/2023 10:51     Subject: If your kids are grown and you are a grandparent now…
…how much do you think about the college(s) that your kids attended?

Do you wear the college sweatshirt?
Do you watch college sporting events?
Do you argue online with others about it?