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Anonymous wrote:Is her body size and shape drastically different from everyone in your family? Some people put on weight as adults through lifestyle factors and hormonal changes, but other people are just born into bigger bodies and will always be larger than other people.

The fact that she is also 97% for height implies she has a large frame. Even for heavier kids, isn’t the goal to keep them roughly on their growth curve? If her weight % keeps increasing relative to her height, that would seem more concerning than her height and weight increasing in the same proportion as her prior growth.

Height and weight have both moved higher than the curve recently to 98th and 99th. DH's family has weight and diabetes struggles and she basically looks like him in a wig.

This is your answer. What did he look like as a kid? Does he have sisters? The question is not “how do I turn my child born into a larger than average body into an average size or slim child?” Your question to the Dr or a dietitian should be “how do I help my child grow into a healthy adult who doesn’t yo yo diet or have an eating disorder”

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Ditto. I recommend reading Ellyn Satter's book "Your Child's Weight: Helping Without Harming" which directly addresses this.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is her body size and shape drastically different from everyone in your family? Some people put on weight as adults through lifestyle factors and hormonal changes, but other people are just born into bigger bodies and will always be larger than other people.

The fact that she is also 97% for height implies she has a large frame. Even for heavier kids, isn’t the goal to keep them roughly on their growth curve? If her weight % keeps increasing relative to her height, that would seem more concerning than her height and weight increasing in the same proportion as her prior growth.

Height and weight have both moved higher than the curve recently to 98th and 99th. DH's family has weight and diabetes struggles and she basically looks like him in a wig.

This is your answer. What did he look like as a kid? Does he have sisters? The question is not “how do I turn my child born into a larger than average body into an average size or slim child?” Your question to the Dr or a dietitian should be “how do I help my child grow into a healthy adult who doesn’t yo yo diet or have an eating disorder”

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Anonymous wrote:OP. An average day would be:

Breakfast: smoothie (fruit, yogurt, milk, no added sugar), eggs, or overnight oats with peanut butter and half teaspoon of maple syrup
Lunch: whole wheat pasta with mushrooms, garlic, olive oil, and Parmesan or fish with a side of vegetables
Dinner: Tuscan bean soup with a sprinkle of Parmesan or homemade chili with guac and a sprinkle of cheddar

Snacks are almost always fruit or vegetables.

I feel like she’s gotta be eating other crap somewhere else then… school? Camp? Friends houses? What you’re describing doesn’t add up to the weight she is.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is her body size and shape drastically different from everyone in your family? Some people put on weight as adults through lifestyle factors and hormonal changes, but other people are just born into bigger bodies and will always be larger than other people.

The fact that she is also 97% for height implies she has a large frame. Even for heavier kids, isn’t the goal to keep them roughly on their growth curve? If her weight % keeps increasing relative to her height, that would seem more concerning than her height and weight increasing in the same proportion as her prior growth.

Height and weight have both moved higher than the curve recently to 98th and 99th. DH's family has weight and diabetes struggles and she basically looks like him in a wig.

This is your answer. What did he look like as a kid? Does he have sisters? The question is not “how do I turn my child born into a larger than average body into an average size or slim child?” Your question to the Dr or a dietitian should be “how do I help my child grow into a healthy adult who doesn’t yo yo diet or have an eating disorder”

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At age 7 as long as she eats healthy and gets regular exercise, the pediatrician is not likely to worry about it. There are many kids like this and once they hit puberty, many of them will lose the baby/kid fat and will become normal weight kids.

After puberty if she is still overweight, the doctor might be more concerned, but unlikely at this age.

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Anonymous wrote:Is her body size and shape drastically different from everyone in your family? Some people put on weight as adults through lifestyle factors and hormonal changes, but other people are just born into bigger bodies and will always be larger than other people.

The fact that she is also 97% for height implies she has a large frame. Even for heavier kids, isn’t the goal to keep them roughly on their growth curve? If her weight % keeps increasing relative to her height, that would seem more concerning than her height and weight increasing in the same proportion as her prior growth.

Height and weight have both moved higher than the curve recently to 98th and 99th. DH's family has weight and diabetes struggles and she basically looks like him in a wig.

This is your answer. What did he look like as a kid? Does he have sisters? The question is not “how do I turn my child born into a larger than average body into an average size or slim child?” Your question to the Dr or a dietitian should be “how do I help my child grow into a healthy adult who doesn’t yo yo diet or have an eating disorder”

OP. An average day would be:

Breakfast: smoothie (fruit, yogurt, milk, no added sugar), eggs, or overnight oats with peanut butter and half teaspoon of maple syrup
Lunch: whole wheat pasta with mushrooms, garlic, olive oil, and Parmesan or fish with a side of vegetables
Dinner: Tuscan bean soup with a sprinkle of Parmesan or homemade chili with guac and a sprinkle of cheddar

Snacks are almost always fruit or vegetables.

Healthy food can have a lot of calories. Have you ever counted the number of calories she consumes on an average day just to get a ballpark number and data point?

Her BMI is not obese.

What does she eat? I know you said you serve healthy food but what does that include? I’m surprised the doctor does not think you need to be doing anything. My 11 year old is 58 inches and weighs less. Maybe get a second opinion? Obese kids generally grow up to be obese adults and obesity in adulthood leads to all sorts of problems. I was never overweight as a kid but have struggled with obesity since having kids of my own and I never want my kids to be in this situation. Does she drink enough water? Maybe require her to drink more water (for general hydration/health) in hopes that she will feel fuller faster.

What does she eat in a normal day? be honest.
Sometimes things we think are healthy are actually not.
My 11yo DD leans heavy but not currently overweight. At 8 she was though, I was giving her Naked green juice for breakfast, the main varied but was sometimes pancakes ( with syrup) and a side of fruit.. I didn’t think it was bad but the doc was like “ that’s a lot of sugar for one meal” so we cut out the juice, and do t eat pancakes anymore, she usually has eggs on WG toast or a bowl of oatmeal, or avacado toast now…..

Anonymous wrote:Is her body size and shape drastically different from everyone in your family? Some people put on weight as adults through lifestyle factors and hormonal changes, but other people are just born into bigger bodies and will always be larger than other people.

The fact that she is also 97% for height implies she has a large frame. Even for heavier kids, isn’t the goal to keep them roughly on their growth curve? If her weight % keeps increasing relative to her height, that would seem more concerning than her height and weight increasing in the same proportion as her prior growth.

Height and weight have both moved higher than the curve recently to 98th and 99th. DH's family has weight and diabetes struggles and she basically looks like him in a wig.

Is her body size and shape drastically different from everyone in your family? Some people put on weight as adults through lifestyle factors and hormonal changes, but other people are just born into bigger bodies and will always be larger than other people.

The fact that she is also 97% for height implies she has a large frame. Even for heavier kids, isn’t the goal to keep them roughly on their growth curve? If her weight % keeps increasing relative to her height, that would seem more concerning than her height and weight increasing in the same proportion as her prior growth.

Doctors know when to worry, and would not hold back with advice particularly since you initiated the conversation. If your kid is active, doesn't seem easily fatigued or unhealthy when playing or exercising, and eating healthy food, her body is likely hanging onto weight in anticipation of a growth spurt.

My daughter (7) has always been in the 97+ percentile for height and weight. Right now she's 53.5 inches and 86 pounds. I've always served healthy food and followed her hunger cues. Dessert is a once in a while treat and we don't have junk food in the house. She does soccer, dance, and swimming. We go on walks. But her BMI is in the range for obesity and she's definitely visibly overweight. At every doctor's visit, I privately ask if we need to be worried and the doctor just says to serve healthy food and make sure she's active. I feel like they aren't taking this seriously. I don't know what to do and I feel like I've failed as a parent for letting her get to an unhealthy weight.