This only works if the lower ses person brings something to the table and carries an elite education or accomplishment of some sort.

Think of Judge Katanji Jackson who married into her husband’s wealthy family and is part of the board of trustees of some powerful institutions and on the supreme court.

The lower ses person must have exceptional accomplishments and bring something to the table.

Priscilla Chan is another example of marrying up but as she said she never thought she would marry Zuckerberg. They met at the bathroom line at Harvard. Luck as well plays a role.

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Anonymous wrote:Social class is more important than economic class. Well educated and cultured newlyweds might be poor and have debt from schooling, but they’ll likely end up fairly wealthy by middle age.

This is spectacularly false. The world abounds with well educated and cultured people who are downwardly mobile.

I feel sorry for the average middle aged people who grew up rich but are well educated and not accomplished. Their parents are wealthy but not that wealthy.

I see plenty of guys from mediocre backgrounds with elite academic credentials marrying wealthy girls from college and grad school.

Rich guys marry women from various backgrounds. Some way want hot. Some want pretty and smart.

Anonymous wrote:Social class is more important than economic class. Well educated and cultured newlyweds might be poor and have debt from schooling, but they’ll likely end up fairly wealthy by middle age.

This is spectacularly false. The world abounds with well educated and cultured people who are downwardly mobile.

Anonymous wrote:Social class is more important than economic class. Well educated and cultured newlyweds might be poor and have debt from schooling, but they’ll likely end up fairly wealthy by middle age.

Only if their education and culture are economically valued. There are plenty of brilliant but starving professors, writers, artists… It’s a damn shame.

Anonymous wrote:A true "love marriage" between different social classes is rare where my parents are from. In the US I see many people marry after falling in love with someone they meet in school.

If you and your family are very wealthy would you be willing to marry someone who is middle class or lower class that you love?

In general, it can be challenging to marry a partner from a different background (even if you are the same color), no matter where you are from. There are different expectations, based on how people grew up. It makes more sense to align values, than anything else. ie: what is important to you.

NOKD!!!!

Anonymous wrote:Social class is more important than economic class. Well educated and cultured newlyweds might be poor and have debt from schooling, but they’ll likely end up fairly wealthy by middle age.

Not necessarily unless by cultured you mean connections. People can end up wealthy, but even for the well educated, the odds are that they won't

Social class is more important than economic class. Well educated and cultured newlyweds might be poor and have debt from schooling, but they’ll likely end up fairly wealthy by middle age.

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Anonymous wrote:Social class? You from Europe?

Social class exists also in the United States. But only the upper class accepts this fact.

OP mentioned a vague "where my parents are from"
It's infuriating.
Just say the country already.

Wealth is different from social class. People have different criteria to define both. So you're asking something that will look different for every poster.

We are an international, mixed-race family and there are marked contrasts in wealth and cultures in our immediate circle - can't really say class at this point, because it varies by country. We're used to being flexible and adapting culturally. So yes, we would have no trouble marrying into very different socio-economic circles, since that's what multiple generations of my relatives have already done.

Anonymous wrote:Social class? You from Europe?

Social class exists also in the United States. But only the upper class accepts this fact.

Social class? You from Europe?

I think there are more issues in your question than just marrying within your social class:

-There is a difference between social class and wealth. Look how many titled Brits (highest social class) are not wealthy.
-Is marrying more about wealth or social class
-If it's about wealth, is there a distinction between liquid/non-liquid wealth?
-How acceptable is divorce?

I come from great wealth but low social class (father grew up in a trailer in KY. Mother grew up cash poor/land rich in the midwest). I'm less concerned with wealth/class than I am character.

A true "love marriage" between different social classes is rare where my parents are from. In the US I see many people marry after falling in love with someone they meet in school.

If you and your family are very wealthy would you be willing to marry someone who is middle class or lower class that you love?