IMO living with parents is okay if you establish your own adult identity. Most of the adult children living at home assume the role of child in their parents home. I think that is problematic for their healthy maturation. Sure there are kids that can evolve past that but most, I believe cannot. It is not financial. It is not being responsible for solving emergencies, having others weigh in on outside adult relationships and also just the weight of having to build a life. I feel harsh writing this. Again, I do not think it is every situation but I certainly feel like for my own adult children that unless they go out on their own for a bit, they do not gain the experience and confidence to establish their own life. Which is scary but wonderful. Just my two cents and like everything else could change my opinion in 10 years!

I notice on here there is this obsession with how young adults are losers if they don't live away from parents. My definition of a loser is someone horrible to other people, unethical, irresponsible and entitled. A young person with a job building a savings is not a loser.

My father lived at home for medical school and residency. My husband has a friend who lived with his parents through early 30s. He has saved and invested so much he could retire in his 50s, but enjoys he job and doesn't want to. He moved out into a townhouse and lives below his means. He still has a great relationship with his parents.

I had several wealthy friends where the parents just subsidized their lifestyle to make them look more financially independent. So they owned condos, thank to mom and dad and could take fancy trips while having jobs that could not pay for all that. Is that somehow superior to living with parents if you get along and saving while helping around the house?

I also knew people who right out of school (business school) worked as Ibankers and traders. They paid for everything and saved and needed nothing from parents. Two eventually got in trouble with the SEC for unethical activity though. Is this was DCUM hopes for their kids? Sure there are people who get lucrative jobs right out of college or not lucrative jobs and live with a bunch of roommates and save and that's great. The most important thing is that they are decent people.

Anonymous wrote: With the housing crisis these days, it just makes sense to live at home longer. My young adult dd lives with me and is saving for a newer car and to eventually start her own business. In Europe it's normal for families to live together like this.

In high COL areas, it is becoming more and more common. Hawaii is building more multi-generational housing because few can buy a house. Usually only those who inherit a home, have two high incomes or family money can afford it; the rest are renting or live with family.

With the housing crisis these days, it just makes sense to live at home longer. My young adult dd lives with me and is saving for a newer car and to eventually start her own business. In Europe it's normal for families to live together like this.

Young people spending much time on TikTok aren't the successful ones.

Two of my kids moved out they are 27, and 26. My middle one move out, but she didn’t like being alone so she moved back in, I noticed on TikTok most 20 and 30s years even some 40s years are still living at hom… so which one is most common?