I would start talking about this dream trip to friends, coworkers, neighbors. I bet you'll find someone who would go with you. I would go with a casual friend in a heartbeat.

I would never go on a safari either.

Can you take one of your parents with you? Or one of his parents?

OP, I'm the 11:23 poster. My nail tech and her friend had a driver. They spent time in the wine region and also on the safari and also in the two main cities of South Africa.

The one thing thing she recommended was a driver.
They had 2 drivers for the trip (in luxury vehicles.). One driver was for the first half and the second driver was for the second half.

I think it took my nail tech 2 years to save up for the trip. She raved about the trip.

My nail tech just went with another girl friend to South Africa and on a safari. She said it was amazing.

Go on your own or bring a friend. Get cheaper accommodations if you bring a friend.

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Anonymous wrote:He’s totally being an ass. My husband is game for trips with me, but I push the boundaries and I know he’s worried beforehand. Like staying in huts in Africa, camping in wadi rum. But he knows I want it and knows I’m not stupid and that’s I’ve planned it to be safe. It probably was something I should have done before meeting Dh but we met young. I did spend a summer backpacking Europe and sleeping under bridges.

Why wouldn’t a girlfriend go?

OP here. My friends don’t spend very much on vacation….I would feel very odd asking anyone to join a trip that would probably be $1500+/night, and no one would be willing to spend that much.

So pay for them. You have the money. If the alternative is it’s no safari, or safari with annoyed and unhappy husband, just pay for the friend too.

Find a tour group to do this with. You could go on a women’s trip or one with a mixed group. There are all kinds of resources for solo travel that allow you to join a group of likeminded travelers.

I have women friends who have gone on safaris (non-hunting) by themselves and they had a blast! They made really good friends with whom they're still in contact.

The outfitters are very experienced and will give you the trip of a lifetime. I would just go. Much better solo than dragging along an unenthusiastic spouse.

Omg just go by yourself. “Africa” is not unsafe. If you arrange with a safari outfitter they will literally do everything for you. Trust me, you’ll have very little encounters with unsafe Africans.

Find something you both would enjoy. Compromise.

Join a group trip. Not fair to make your husband go on such a big trip he has no interest in because you want to.

Anonymous wrote:He’s totally being an ass. My husband is game for trips with me, but I push the boundaries and I know he’s worried beforehand. Like staying in huts in Africa, camping in wadi rum. But he knows I want it and knows I’m not stupid and that’s I’ve planned it to be safe. It probably was something I should have done before meeting Dh but we met young. I did spend a summer backpacking Europe and sleeping under bridges.

Why wouldn’t a girlfriend go?

OP here. My friends don’t spend very much on vacation….I would feel very odd asking anyone to join a trip that would probably be $1500+/night, and no one would be willing to spend that much.

He’s totally being an ass. My husband is game for trips with me, but I push the boundaries and I know he’s worried beforehand. Like staying in huts in Africa, camping in wadi rum. But he knows I want it and knows I’m not stupid and that’s I’ve planned it to be safe. It probably was something I should have done before meeting Dh but we met young. I did spend a summer backpacking Europe and sleeping under bridges.

Why wouldn’t a girlfriend go?

OP I will go on this trip with you! Screw your husband (except not because he doesn't deserve it).

Anyway, he is being an ass. Sometimes in life and especially in a marriage we do things we may not find interesting because the other person loves it. You aren't asking him to do anything dangerous.

Just looking to vent, but a reality check on whether I'm being reasonable would be good. My dream vacation is a safari. We have the $$ to do it in a nice and safe way. DH is adamant that he is completely uninterested and will never go on such a trip. No moral opposition, just thinks it seems boring and silly and not a way he wants to spend his time. As a woman this is not a trip that's safe to go on alone, and I wouldn't be able to convince any friends to go on such a trip. Is he being an ass or is it silly of me to try to push something he doesn't care to do?