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Anonymous wrote:When we were married, I was Jewish and my wife was Catholic (years later she converted to Judaism). We were married by a priest (a long-time friend of my family) and a rabbi on Long Island. The rabbi was what I would call a "rent-a-rabbit" (i.e. a rabbi without a congregation). We did get some kind of dispensation from the diocese on Long Island, and attended a pre-cana class provided by the Church. The wedding took place outdoors under a gazebo. This all took place almost 30 years ago.

did you have to sign a document agreeing that your children would be raised Catholic?

I think we did. When kids came along (8 years after we got married), the same priest baptized them (and they both had a bris), but ultimately they formally converted to Judaism. (I still remember being petrified when the panel of rabbis asked my older son what his favorite holiday was. I was certain he was going to say "Christmas," but he came up with Shavuot (without any parental prompting!), which I think had just been celebrated at his preschool!). They both had Bar Mitzvah's, but we are essentially non-observant at this point.

Sounds like quite a religious journey -- parents and children making big religious changes along the way, and ultimately ending up non-religious! I wonder how something that was such a big, complicated part of your lives, ended up not being in your lives at all.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When we were married, I was Jewish and my wife was Catholic (years later she converted to Judaism). We were married by a priest (a long-time friend of my family) and a rabbi on Long Island. The rabbi was what I would call a "rent-a-rabbit" (i.e. a rabbi without a congregation). We did get some kind of dispensation from the diocese on Long Island, and attended a pre-cana class provided by the Church. The wedding took place outdoors under a gazebo. This all took place almost 30 years ago.

did you have to sign a document agreeing that your children would be raised Catholic?

I think we did. When kids came along (8 years after we got married), the same priest baptized them (and they both had a bris), but ultimately they formally converted to Judaism. (I still remember being petrified when the panel of rabbis asked my older son what his favorite holiday was. I was certain he was going to say "Christmas," but he came up with Shavuot (without any parental prompting!), which I think had just been celebrated at his preschool!). They both had Bar Mitzvah's, but we are essentially non-observant at this point.

Anonymous wrote:When we were married, I was Jewish and my wife was Catholic (years later she converted to Judaism). We were married by a priest (a long-time friend of my family) and a rabbi on Long Island. The rabbi was what I would call a "rent-a-rabbit" (i.e. a rabbi without a congregation). We did get some kind of dispensation from the diocese on Long Island, and attended a pre-cana class provided by the Church. The wedding took place outdoors under a gazebo. This all took place almost 30 years ago.

did you have to sign a document agreeing that your children would be raised Catholic?

When we were married, I was Jewish and my wife was Catholic (years later she converted to Judaism). We were married by a priest (a long-time friend of my family) and a rabbi on Long Island. The rabbi was what I would call a "rent-a-rabbit" (i.e. a rabbi without a congregation). We did get some kind of dispensation from the diocese on Long Island, and attended a pre-cana class provided by the Church. The wedding took place outdoors under a gazebo. This all took place almost 30 years ago.

Anonymous wrote:Interesting the title of your post isn't "If you're Jewish"

This! I'm a recovering Catholic whose dh converted, received all the Sacraments, married in the Church and promised to raise my kids Catholic. I held up my promise until my oldest was in first grade and the hardcore inculcating and guilt were piled onto my sweet boy (who is NOT a sinner!). If the future dh is Jewish, dw should convert and raise your kids in the Jewish faith. Lots of similarities between Catholics and Jews, in terms of guilt, but the Jewish faith and culture seems to have more wisdom, forgiveness and intellectualism. If you have to pick one, Judaism ftw. I'm a happy, ethical atheist now.

Hello,

I was raised Catholic and my spouse is Jewish. To have the marriage blessed and validated in the eyes of the Catholic church you will need a dispensation and will have to go to some marriage counseling classes, and pay some dispensation fee etc as part of that process.

The Church will not officiate this wedding inside of a church. I also believe it cannot be officiated in conjunction with a mass. If I remember correctly a priest could be present at the ceremony but it needed to be in a non denominational setting and the priest provide a blessing vs officiate the ceremony. Ultimately just contact your local parish and explain your situation and they will point you in the right direction.

The church recognizes the laws of moses and thus allowed for a Jewish ceremony but good luck finding Rabbi to officiate this wedding: impossible to find an orthodox Rabbi, nearly impossible to find a conservative Rabbi and you can find reform rabbis to perform this ceremony.

We got married in a Jewish ceremony, under a Chuppah, by a reformed rabbi, in an outdoor setting. All approved and with dispensation in hand by the church.

If you look online (try dispensation as to form) there are a lot of examples from various dioceses. You could look for the diocese(s) where the parties live and/or where the ceremony is comtemplated.

Anonymous wrote:Interesting the title of your post isn't "If you're Jewish"

NP here
Because OP wants to know about the Catholic church's policies on this, not Jewish.

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3. Can a Catholic marry a Jew at a wedding venue that is not a Church. Yes, but a dispensation as to place from the local bishop would be required. It depends on the jurisdiction, but this one would likely face opposition and at least some places won’t grant the dispensation. Marriage is a sacrament and ordinarily take place in the parish church of one of the parties.

I actually thought this wasn't allowed (marrying at another venue, regardless of whether it's interfaith). If it is, it must be super rare, unless one of the spouses is on their death bed or something.

My understanding is that it depends on the diocese as it is the bishop’s decision.

Interesting the title of your post isn't "If you're Jewish"

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3. Can a Catholic marry a Jew at a wedding venue that is not a Church. Yes, but a dispensation as to place from the local bishop would be required. It depends on the jurisdiction, but this one would likely face opposition and at least some places won’t grant the dispensation. Marriage is a sacrament and ordinarily take place in the parish church of one of the parties.

I actually thought this wasn't allowed (marrying at another venue, regardless of whether it's interfaith). If it is, it must be super rare, unless one of the spouses is on their death bed or something.

Yes a priest can bless a couple or a marriage, it’s just like saying a prayer for that couple.

Maybe it depends on the parish/priest but I’ve attended multiple interfaith services at Catholic Church. One was with a priest and a Rabbi co-officiating.

Anonymous wrote:Do Priests ever bless a couple? Like outside a catholic wedding? Also Can a Catholic and a Jew be married in a Catholic Church? Can a priest marry a catholic and a Jew Outside of a Catholic Church like at an event venue?

I think the poster at 18:47 did a nice job of answering your questions, but if you really want the official scoop, please ask a parish priest.

I wonder you're asking for yourself and wonder if you're the Catholic or the Jew in this couple, trying to do right by your partner. If so, I hope that your can resolve the religious issues and not let them take precedence on your wedding day.

1. Do priests ever bless a couple? Not sure what you mean? Everybody gets blessed at Mass. A couple could ask for a priest’s blessing on them both outside of Mass. But something that might be interpreted as “matrimony-lite?” No. Sometimes people refer to having the marriage “blessed” when they have a non-Catholic marriage “convalidated” to be considered a sacramental marriage.

2. Can a Catholic and a Jew be married in a Catholic Church. Yes, but it would require a dispensation from the local bishop, and the ceremony would have to be Catholic with the vows received by the priest. The Catholic party would have to promise to do all they can to have the children raised as Catholics.

3. Can a Catholic marry a Jew at a wedding venue that is not a Church. Yes, but a dispensation as to place from the local bishop would be required. It depends on the jurisdiction, but this one would likely face opposition and at least some places won’t grant the dispensation. Marriage is a sacrament and ordinarily take place in the parish church of one of the parties.

Do Priests ever bless a couple? Like outside a catholic wedding? Also Can a Catholic and a Jew be married in a Catholic Church? Can a priest marry a catholic and a Jew Outside of a Catholic Church like at an event venue?