Anonymous wrote:Your child will lose their friends primarily because they will suck at math. Private schools get crushed in math completions by public schools.

Who’s better at spelling?

If you switch your kids to private, good riddance. We want nothing to do with you.

Stay in touch through extra curriculars (youth group, soccer, etc)

Anonymous wrote:Your child will lose their friends primarily because they will suck at math. Private schools get crushed in math completions by public schools.

Ok....did you forget to take your pills today?

Kids often change friends when they move from 5th to 6th grade even if they stay in public school. The schools are bigger, they meet new people, change interests. So there is no guarantee they would keep their friends anyway. This is usually covered by the teachers and administrators at back to school and visiting nights.

We stayed in a scout-type group based at the public school. Kid is still friends with that whole group.

Your child will lose their friends primarily because they will suck at math. Private schools get crushed in math completions by public schools.

This was us not too long ago.

Honestly, not too much changed. There were still enough similar interests (sports team, social media, gaming/video games online they do together, etc).
And they saw their neighborhood friends daily/after school bc it came naturally and spontaneously.

It simply becomes a time issue.

My son left public in 9th and has remained very close friends with his public friends but he honestly doesn't have a great friend group at his new private. There isn't time for both.

He sees his old public school friends every weekend (generally Fri and Sat nights). The rest of the weekend is spent on sports and homework. There's no time to see multiple friend groups every weekend.

Public to private friendships are easier than the other way around because geography

My DD kept ALL of hers and even added some because her old friend group expanded in middle school. And it’s been 4 years now. The way we did it was to make sure they all still attended summer camp together; including each other in birthday parties; almost daily hangouts at the neighborhood pool and group text. Also as the mom, still check in with the moms to keep that relationship friendly.

My daughter switched from K public to 1st in private. Maintained no friends from public...especially considering her best friend's mother got all weird when we switched.

My son switched from 8th in public to 9th in private. He just graduated from college, and still maintains those friendships.

We dealt with this a few years ago, roughly same age.
DC maintained all activities with old school friends… sports and clubs. This really helped bridge the gap
DH and I were very supportive of any time DC wanted to get together with old friends. It helps that public school friends ~ neighborhood friends.
We also maintained other friend groups thru sports teams etc.
having multiple friend groups developed/developing helped to ease the transition and also demonstrated the benefits, as DC has realized that when school friend drama takes over they can gang with neighborhood friends and vice versa.

My kid switched in 4th. She still has friends from Public. Her bestie is actually in public. They’re going into 6th so it’s been 2 years now.

DC moving from 5th public to 6th private this year. They have plenty of friends from public but is afraid they will lose them now. Anyone had/ have the same issue? How was it handled? Did the friends lose contact eventually? Did they still remain friends? What can I do? My DC is happy to go to private but losing public schools friends really bothers them.