Anonymous
Post 07/11/2023 17:53     Subject: Re:Weird situations
Anonymous wrote:Here's the thing. If the tragic thing that happened was more than, say, a year ago, and wasn't insanely tragic, but more middle of the road tragic (think, my 70 year old mom died of cancer vs. my 4 year old died in a freak accident), then I'm Team Person 2.

You can't walk on eggshells around people forever. Yes, stopping for a bit was kind, but assuming that activity A is a fine thing to do (ie, activity A isn't like drunk driving or something), then the world cannot stop forever for Person 1. They need to manage their own mental health in a way so they can manage the world continuing to go on. Meanwhile, Person 2 needs to be understanding and respectful - it's likely Person 1 won't join in, and that has to be fine, and Person 2 probably shouldn't prattle on and on about his activity in front of Person 1.


Activity A is a totally fine thing to do, but it's only been a few months so I think everyone has not healed yet. It's just exhausting because we are all still walking on eggshells. What I think would help is if Person1 and Person 3 (the person that actually had the tragic event happen to would make peace) and then maybe Person 1 would not carry the guilt/shame or trigger of the event as much. I think that is what is happening. In the meantime, we continue to walk on eggshells except Person2 who either purposefully or cluelessly still does activity A. Thus the cycle continues.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2023 17:34     Subject: Re:Weird situations
Here's the thing. If the tragic thing that happened was more than, say, a year ago, and wasn't insanely tragic, but more middle of the road tragic (think, my 70 year old mom died of cancer vs. my 4 year old died in a freak accident), then I'm Team Person 2.

You can't walk on eggshells around people forever. Yes, stopping for a bit was kind, but assuming that activity A is a fine thing to do (ie, activity A isn't like drunk driving or something), then the world cannot stop forever for Person 1. They need to manage their own mental health in a way so they can manage the world continuing to go on. Meanwhile, Person 2 needs to be understanding and respectful - it's likely Person 1 won't join in, and that has to be fine, and Person 2 probably shouldn't prattle on and on about his activity in front of Person 1.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2023 17:33     Subject: Weird situations
Anonymous wrote:It really depends on what it is. Person A maybe needs therapy and to stop dictating what others do. Person A is maybe justified. Person B should maybe not do activity around Person A. Regardless, you should stay out of it.



Yes, I agree with this. Person A seems controlling and like he is the man in charge ( he has that little man syndrome ).
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2023 17:29     Subject: Weird situations
Anonymous wrote:Well, maybe Person 2 doesn't really care about Person 1's feelings. Or Person 2 loves surprise parties so much that she won't stop throwing them.

Either way, why are intervening between Person 1 and Person 2?


Because OP is annoying. Its the only clear thing in her posts.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2023 17:28     Subject: Weird situations
Well, maybe Person 2 doesn't really care about Person 1's feelings. Or Person 2 loves surprise parties so much that she won't stop throwing them.

Either way, why are intervening between Person 1 and Person 2?
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2023 17:27     Subject: Weird situations
It really depends on what it is. Person A maybe needs therapy and to stop dictating what others do. Person A is maybe justified. Person B should maybe not do activity around Person A. Regardless, you should stay out of it.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2023 17:25     Subject: Weird situations
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is a really stupid post. Just add more details or don't post at all.


Well I don't want to give too many details. If you've ever experienced anything like this do tell what happened in the end??


We don't know what you're talking about.

Person 1 planned a surprise party for her spouse, then by happenstance her DH had a heart attack when everyone yelled "SURPRISE!"

Everyone ceased planning surprise parties, except clueless or purposeful Person 2.

Person 1 is now triggered by Person 2 planning surprise parties.

I've tried to demonstrate to Person 2 what you could do instead, which is not plan surprise parties.

Ugh, the cycle goes on and on...


???
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2023 17:25     Subject: Weird situations
Yea OP it’s one thing to want to preserve anonymity and another to be a nutjob.

Your post is really really stupid.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2023 17:24     Subject: Re:Weird situations
Any way to make things better?

Dang, I care! I like harmony.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2023 17:24     Subject: Weird situations
I could follow a math equation more easily than this.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2023 17:22     Subject: Weird situations
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This is a really stupid post. Just add more details or don't post at all.


Well I don't want to give too many details. If you've ever experienced anything like this do tell what happened in the end??


A^2+B^2=no one cares op
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2023 17:20     Subject: Weird situations
Anonymous wrote:This is a really stupid post. Just add more details or don't post at all.


Well I don't want to give too many details. If you've ever experienced anything like this do tell what happened in the end??
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2023 17:19     Subject: Weird situations
I'm triggered by posts like this.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2023 17:18     Subject: Weird situations
This is a really stupid post. Just add more details or don't post at all.
Anonymous
Post 07/11/2023 17:16     Subject: Weird situations
Person 1 made A happen, then by happenstance tragic B occurred.

Everyone ceased doing A, except clueless or purposeful Person 2.

Person 1 is now triggered by Person 2 doing A.

I've tried to demonstrate to Person 2 what you could do instead.

Ugh, the cycle goes on and on...