Op three under 5 is tough! I totally get the need for quiet time/nap.

Agree with the suggestion to look into a half day preschool. She’s on a very different schedule than the other 2 and also probably needs more stimulation/learning now. Most preschools have morning or afternoon session, you can try to find an afternoon one which would help with quiet time at home.

Attachment to blanket or stuffed animal is very normal and healthy. Don’t feel guilty about sleep training it’s great that she is so independent.

Op

I tried to nap and everyone around me told me so, but I rarely were able to nap because of the similar situation each time. Im sleep deprived. Staying up late and need to feed baby at night, wake up early as well.

It has been a while either my 4 years old or 2 years old not napping, occasionally 2 years old did. Recently I’m just trying new ways now as our nanny is not working for us anymore in summer and their sleep time is not enough at night with all the sickness and overexcited.

I just told my 4 years old that it would be great if she can keep quiet for a while reading in her room, so that I can put the other two for nap, then I can do something fun with her afterwards, she’s happy about it.

Each time, I know there’s no right reason for me to be mad at her and say mean things to her. But my sleep is so bad lately and I got super mad if I was waken up right after falling asleep or almost falling alseep.

It is normal for a 4yo to have a blanket as a comfort object. It is normal for her to want it for a nap. It is also okay for a 4yo to not need a nap and still want her blanket for "quiet time."

It’s pretty normal for a kid to be attached to a blanket.

This is…. A strange post.

You shouldn’t be trying to nap unless you know all your children can nap. The 4 year old likely is no longer napping and that’s why she’s waking you up. How long was she supposed to do quiet time so you can sleep? Maybe she’s bored so she’s finding stuff to do. Maybe she’s trying to get some attention.

Every day is hard and crazy because you’re expecting a 4 year old child to either nap when she no longer naps or do quiet time when she’s not able to. It’s not her fault that you need to nap because there are 2 other little kids who likely takes up a lot of time and energy. Can you afford to send her to a preschool? It might help take off a lot of the stress you’re experiencing.

Anonymous wrote:Why are you trying to sleep? Also your 4 year old is likely too old for naps. I have 4 kids and none still napped then

This is a funny question. I tried to nap and everyone around me told me so, but I rarely were able to nap because of the similar situation everyday. Im sleep deprived. Staying up late and need to feed baby at night, wake up early as well.

It has been a while either my 4 years old or 2 years old not napping, occasionally 2 years old did. Recently I’m just trying new ways now as our nanny is not working for us and their sleep time is not enough at night with all the sickness and overexcited?

4 is kind of old to nap.

Super normal for kids to have attachments to blankets. Give her the blankets back, and she’s probably done napping by 4. You can have her have quiet time in her room, but you can’t expect her to be quiet long enough for you to sleep!

Anonymous wrote:Her blankets are her attachment items. They bring her comfort. Tell her the blankets are ONLY for nap/quiet/bed time, and must live in her bed.

Good idea. Thanks!

Why are you trying to sleep? Also your 4 year old is likely too old for naps. I have 4 kids and none still napped then

Her blankets are her attachment items. They bring her comfort. Tell her the blankets are ONLY for nap/quiet/bed time, and must live in her bed.

My 4 years old daughter is super attached to her blankets (a few specific ones). I have two other little ones (2.5 years old and 10 months) at home. Everyday nap time is so hard and crazy, almost all ended me nearly falling asleep and then woke up by one of them, usually my 4 years old. Like today, I told her to stay in her room having quiet time or nap, she came out once to use the toilet, then I heard her a few times getting out and going back to her room and sound of jumping (she sprained her foot last week and is still recovery so I kept reminding her not jumping anymore until recovery). At that time I almost fell asleep (I just hate being awake like this every single time!) and was very mad and went to her room. She told me she’s looking for her blanket from the dryer and some other places. She brought those blankets to other places of the houses different floors and I told her it’s dangerous to taking blankets on the stairs also getting them dirty. So I took all those blankets yesterday and put them in the washer, but haven’t washed them. I gave her two other blankets yesterday. She has those blankets in bed but still looks for those others. Why?!

Sometimes she would say I love my blanket so much! I like the smell of my blanket. When she’s sad or upset, she would say I need my blanket now. What’s going on?

Is it because that we slept trained her? We only did it for her, not the other two. They don’t have anything with blankets