“You need a therapist”

Anonymous wrote:Half of us are going through major life stress (including me) and are struggling to achieve 1/3 of what we could be in our job.

If you don't notice that fact, well, just forget I said anything. If you did notice, thank you for letting things slide, since I know you are traveling to Children's Hospital at least twice a month for your daughter.

Maybe we're all just trying to keep it together.

aww I like your boss. I hope your stress and their stress is lessened.

LOVING this thread.

Half of us are going through major life stress (including me) and are struggling to achieve 1/3 of what we could be in our job.

If you don't notice that fact, well, just forget I said anything. If you did notice, thank you for letting things slide, since I know you are traveling to Children's Hospital at least twice a month for your daughter.

Maybe we're all just trying to keep it together.

Just stop talking. You leave no space for anyone else to think.

You overanalyze people too much. This is an office, not a therapy practice.

Is not harassment if I want it, do let's do it!

I speak for our team and we really hope you’ll retire well before your stated “4 more years.”

Your WFH/extended vacation arrangement is interesting. No one else in the organization is allowed to WFH from 1500 miles away.

We are dreading your return. You bring negativity and bitterness to the office environment and have made my supposed dream job a grinding bore.

Nice bait and switch: we were hired by you because of individual strengths, experiences and even degrees but you go over our heads and continue to stifle us. We are under-utilized and it’s a shame.

I don’t think you were ever given the opportunity to learn how to manage effectively. So a lot of this isn’t your fault.

1. It’s ok to say “thank you” and “good job” to your team. You don’t even need to do anything else to start; just “good job” and “thanks”.

2. Yelling at employees is inappropriate, and it would be more effective to have a 1:1 conversation with the person who isn’t performing than to call a staff meeting to yell at the whole team, or send an angry all-staff email with the exclamation point.

2B. The exclamation point feature should be used extremely sparingly. Like maybe once a quarter at most.

3. Normally I roll my eyes at team building, but I have never experienced such a low-energy, non-cohesive group of people until I started here. Everyone seems miserable, and scared, and while not unfriendly, no one is working towards a common goal because I don’t think there is a common goal.

Can I tell you how I really feel about your management style? Oh god, where do I start…

I am not interchangeable with my coworker so please refer to me by my own name.

Seth: you are in danger of getting fired because you don't work well with others. I know and appreciate that you like me, but you need to share work with others. Also, putting in 2-3 hours a day isn't enough. Yes, everyone else is talking about work being slow, but they're still billing 6-8 hours instead of the old 8-12 hours they used to. You're way behind.

Brian: please give me more work. I think what you do is really interesting and I'd like to be more involved. But not too much, because lazy. But some, because bored.

Wow. I was just going to tell him about his bad breath.

How did you read my mind? Everything you wrote is true for my workplace.

let's say them here. I'll start:
I don't understand what my job is, I don't think you understand what it is, I actually don't think you need me at all and i can't tell whether i am good at whatever it is I do, or terrible, which i think is a sign that something is very wrong.
Also i highly dislike many of the people here who are somehow empowered to be absolute a-holes and i am shocked, daily, that no one cares to do anything about that.