Anonymous
Post 07/07/2023 21:19     Subject: Re:Husband won't take the kids swimming of even go with us.
Anonymous wrote:Your kids sound very young. Things may change as they get older.

I did most of the swimming/swimming lessons etc when the kids were small. I didn’t mind, really. We usually met up with friends. Now that they are older, DH takes them to their sports most of the time, and likes hanging out with all the dads.

You can each have separate parenting “areas”- most things do not require 2 parents.

Maybe he can find something else to do with them, so that you get a break as well? When mine were very small, DH always took mine to the park/playground and for ice cream after. Usually took up a few hours.


This is op. I do mind. We have two kids ages 3 and 7. It's hard to keep up with both of them at the pool. The 3 year old is fearless and very comfortable in the water. The 7 year old is learning to swim but is more hesitant. Even on vacation, dh is like this. I find it ridiculous all the pressure is on me. All the activities sports, all of that is on me. I do work, by the way.
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2023 21:10     Subject: Re:Husband won't take the kids swimming of even go with us.
Your kids sound very young. Things may change as they get older.

I did most of the swimming/swimming lessons etc when the kids were small. I didn’t mind, really. We usually met up with friends. Now that they are older, DH takes them to their sports most of the time, and likes hanging out with all the dads.

You can each have separate parenting “areas”- most things do not require 2 parents.

Maybe he can find something else to do with them, so that you get a break as well? When mine were very small, DH always took mine to the park/playground and for ice cream after. Usually took up a few hours.
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2023 21:04     Subject: Husband won't take the kids swimming of even go with us.
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Anonymous wrote:He sounds pretty bad at parenting. What *is* he bringing to the table?

Swimming is non-negotiable for me. Maybe offer your husband to do all the housework and bedtime on days you do swimming?


He also doesn't like housework and I would have to nag the hell out of him to get ANYTHING done. He only cooks eggs one style, and the kids do not like eggs. I am so resentful and tired.


So what’s keeping you in this marriage?


I wonder that sometimes. Dh makes a lot more money. Who has a single parent swim membership but is married? Me. I'm tired of doing all the activities solo. It's not fair he can sit on his ass while I am out with the kids multiple times a week.

So your husband makes the money and provides for the family. That means it’s your job to raise the kids and support your husband. What part of this don’t you understand?


Its both of their jobs. Nice try. He should be involved too.

He’s no doubt stressed from being the primary breadwinner and needs a rest.
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2023 20:55     Subject: Husband won't take the kids swimming of even go with us.
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:He sounds pretty bad at parenting. What *is* he bringing to the table?

Swimming is non-negotiable for me. Maybe offer your husband to do all the housework and bedtime on days you do swimming?


He also doesn't like housework and I would have to nag the hell out of him to get ANYTHING done. He only cooks eggs one style, and the kids do not like eggs. I am so resentful and tired.


So what’s keeping you in this marriage?


I wonder that sometimes. Dh makes a lot more money. Who has a single parent swim membership but is married? Me. I'm tired of doing all the activities solo. It's not fair he can sit on his ass while I am out with the kids multiple times a week.

So your husband makes the money and provides for the family. That means it’s your job to raise the kids and support your husband. What part of this don’t you understand?


Its both of their jobs. Nice try. He should be involved too.
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2023 20:53     Subject: Husband won't take the kids swimming of even go with us.
Anonymous wrote:Hem doesn’t have to take them swimming if he doesn’t like it. Neither do you. But he does have to do something. Try leaving them with him with no instructions or demands. He will figure something out.


No way. This is op, and kids must learn to swim for safety reasons. That is lazy parenting, and I will not be that parent. You can't opt out if you don't like something as basic as swimming. Kids shouldn't be indoors all the time. We all know that isn't healthy.
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2023 20:52     Subject: Husband won't take the kids swimming of even go with us.
Anonymous wrote:
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Anonymous wrote:He sounds pretty bad at parenting. What *is* he bringing to the table?

Swimming is non-negotiable for me. Maybe offer your husband to do all the housework and bedtime on days you do swimming?


He also doesn't like housework and I would have to nag the hell out of him to get ANYTHING done. He only cooks eggs one style, and the kids do not like eggs. I am so resentful and tired.


So what’s keeping you in this marriage?


I wonder that sometimes. Dh makes a lot more money. Who has a single parent swim membership but is married? Me. I'm tired of doing all the activities solo. It's not fair he can sit on his ass while I am out with the kids multiple times a week.

So your husband makes the money and provides for the family. That means it’s your job to raise the kids and support your husband. What part of this don’t you understand?
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2023 20:51     Subject: Husband won't take the kids swimming of even go with us.
Every parent in the DC, MD, and VA region should support their kids learning to swim for safety for their kid. The region is surrounded by water.
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2023 20:50     Subject: Husband won't take the kids swimming of even go with us.
Hem doesn’t have to take them swimming if he doesn’t like it. Neither do you. But he does have to do something. Try leaving them with him with no instructions or demands. He will figure something out.
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2023 20:47     Subject: Husband won't take the kids swimming of even go with us.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He sounds pretty bad at parenting. What *is* he bringing to the table?

Swimming is non-negotiable for me. Maybe offer your husband to do all the housework and bedtime on days you do swimming?


He also doesn't like housework and I would have to nag the hell out of him to get ANYTHING done. He only cooks eggs one style, and the kids do not like eggs. I am so resentful and tired.


So what’s keeping you in this marriage?


I wonder that sometimes. Dh makes a lot more money. Who has a single parent swim membership but is married? Me. I'm tired of doing all the activities solo. It's not fair he can sit on his ass while I am out with the kids multiple times a week.

Anonymous
Post 07/07/2023 20:38     Subject: Husband won't take the kids swimming of even go with us.
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:He sounds pretty bad at parenting. What *is* he bringing to the table?

Swimming is non-negotiable for me. Maybe offer your husband to do all the housework and bedtime on days you do swimming?


He also doesn't like housework and I would have to nag the hell out of him to get ANYTHING done. He only cooks eggs one style, and the kids do not like eggs. I am so resentful and tired.


So what’s keeping you in this marriage?
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2023 20:00     Subject: Husband won't take the kids swimming of even go with us.
Anonymous wrote:He sounds pretty bad at parenting. What *is* he bringing to the table?

Swimming is non-negotiable for me. Maybe offer your husband to do all the housework and bedtime on days you do swimming?


He also doesn't like housework and I would have to nag the hell out of him to get ANYTHING done. He only cooks eggs one style, and the kids do not like eggs. I am so resentful and tired.
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2023 19:53     Subject: Husband won't take the kids swimming of even go with us.
Wait!? Another thread complaining about your husband!? Get out! So creative!!
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2023 19:51     Subject: Husband won't take the kids swimming of even go with us.
So just tell him to do something else with the kids, or to never complain when they're older and want nothing to do with them because he didn't nurture the relationship.
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2023 19:50     Subject: Husband won't take the kids swimming of even go with us.
He sounds pretty bad at parenting. What *is* he bringing to the table?

Swimming is non-negotiable for me. Maybe offer your husband to do all the housework and bedtime on days you do swimming?
Anonymous
Post 07/07/2023 19:39     Subject: Husband won't take the kids swimming of even go with us.
Because he doesn't like swimming. He knows how to swim but refuses to inconvenience himself. He says he does his share by taking them once a week to gym childcare so they can be away from him. It makes me so mad. We both have kids. He should pull his weight even if he doesn't like something. I don't like wading in 1 foot water but I do it because they like swimming and it's a rule I need to be in the water with them until they can pass a swim test. I think it's so selfish to refuse this activity.