Anonymous wrote:I keep getting hit on and chatted up by 70-year-old, overweight, never married or very long since divorced men. Always the socially awkward ones, too.

I’m 37, divorced last year, thin and relatively attractive, putting myself back out there but absolutely NOT interested in these creepy old men. I’m afraid I somehow give out some kind of signal that I’m too “eligible” or somehow in the league of these men. I dated ONE man who was pushing 60, because we uniquely clicked, but that doesn’t mean I’m fair game. Go home, grandpa.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are likely doing nothing wrong. Men feel entitled to hit on anyone around them. A 67 yo may no longer feel entitled to hit on an 18 yo, but someone 30 years younger? - that feels in range to them, particularly when the 67 yo is convinced he’s “really” more like a 55 or 60 yo.

I am 57 and still get street harassment - whistles, comments about my ass, etc. I’m not particularly fit or pretty. However, at the moment it happens, I am alone. That’s the only thing I’m doing “wrong” - in that moment I am a woman unprotected by a man and so other men think it’s OK to sexually objectify me out loud or make some kind of pass.

If this kind of contact is occurring in a dating environment, it is simply because in that environment men think they have a shot at anything. It’s not because of anything you do.

This is such good advice.

Anonymous wrote:I keep getting hit on and chatted up by 70-year-old, overweight, never married or very long since divorced men. Always the socially awkward ones, too.

I’m 37, divorced last year, thin and relatively attractive, putting myself back out there but absolutely NOT interested in these creepy old men. I’m afraid I somehow give out some kind of signal that I’m too “eligible” or somehow in the league of these men. I dated ONE man who was pushing 60, because we uniquely clicked, but that doesn’t mean I’m fair game. Go home, grandpa.

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are likely doing nothing wrong. Men feel entitled to hit on anyone around them. A 67 yo may no longer feel entitled to hit on an 18 yo, but someone 30 years younger? - that feels in range to them, particularly when the 67 yo is convinced he’s “really” more like a 55 or 60 yo.

I am 57 and still get street harassment - whistles, comments about my ass, etc. I’m not particularly fit or pretty. However, at the moment it happens, I am alone. That’s the only thing I’m doing “wrong” - in that moment I am a woman unprotected by a man and so other men think it’s OK to sexually objectify me out loud or make some kind of pass.

If this kind of contact is occurring in a dating environment, it is simply because in that environment men think they have a shot at anything. It’s not because of anything you do.

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are likely doing nothing wrong. Men feel entitled to hit on anyone around them. A 67 yo may no longer feel entitled to hit on an 18 yo, but someone 30 years younger? - that feels in range to them, particularly when the 67 yo is convinced he’s “really” more like a 55 or 60 yo.

I am 57 and still get street harassment - whistles, comments about my ass, etc. I’m not particularly fit or pretty. However, at the moment it happens, I am alone. That’s the only thing I’m doing “wrong” - in that moment I am a woman unprotected by a man and so other men think it’s OK to sexually objectify me out loud or make some kind of pass.

If this kind of contact is occurring in a dating environment, it is simply because in that environment men think they have a shot at anything. It’s not because of anything you do.

Anonymous wrote:Online or in real-life?
Men are naturally attracted to physically appealing women, OP. I'm married and middle-aged, but I'm fit and slim and men do tend to be nice and enter into conversations.
If all the attention is too much, you need a stock phrase or something.