Anonymous wrote:Title says it all. Thank you!

Where is the au pair supposed to live? Obviously, you have no idea of what au pair means.

To be fair to the OP, he/she didn’t specify whether the host family would bear the costs of the apartment. OP * might * be willing to find an Au pair who would agree to this IF OP pays for the apartment, utilities, food and provides a car and gas. I’m not sure the AP agencies would allow this, but there definitely could be Au pairs looking to overstay their visa who would go for this arrangement.

However, OP, by the time you pay the stipend ($200/week) plus fund their room and board, plus the car, it’s probably not that much less than just paying a nanny.

Anonymous wrote:"Is it possible to hire a white, educated, young, European child care provider that I can pay like 800 dollars a month for full time care but also not have to provide room and board and, like, not see her when I don't want to? TIA everyone"

Right bc it's not like they have au pairs from LAC or Asia or anything.

Anonymous wrote:"Is it possible to hire a white, educated, young, European child care provider that I can pay like 800 dollars a month for full time care but also not have to provide room and board and, like, not see her when I don't want to? TIA everyone"

this is a good summary of OP’s question

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Anonymous wrote:No. The whole premise of the au pair program is that they live with you

Maybe here in the US. My daughter is an au pair in Europe right now and she has her own apartment, about ten minutes away from the host family. They pay for the apartment, of course. She loves the independence and privacy of having her own place.

But the point is that the host family paid for lodging and food. I think that OP is trying to get cheap childcare without having to either pay real wages, insurance and benefits for a nanny and not having to pay room, board and expenses for an au pair.

OP, the only way to get what you are trying to get is to find an immigrant who in the country illegally, not legal to work, hiring them and paying them under the table for childcare. It is illegal and you could be charge with civil and criminal charges and also face financial penalties for doing this.

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Anonymous wrote:No. The whole premise of the au pair program is that they live with you

Maybe here in the US. My daughter is an au pair in Europe right now and she has her own apartment, about ten minutes away from the host family. They pay for the apartment, of course. She loves the independence and privacy of having her own place.

When I was an au pair I lived in a carriage house. You could probably do the same in the US.

You could hire a college-aged person as a babysitter but you’ll be paying babysitter (nanny) rates.

Anonymous wrote:No. The whole premise of the au pair program is that they live with you

Maybe here in the US. My daughter is an au pair in Europe right now and she has her own apartment, about ten minutes away from the host family. They pay for the apartment, of course. She loves the independence and privacy of having her own place.

Yes op, these exist. They are usually trust fund babies who have the means to afford an apartment, groceries, food, utilities, transportation, and pocket money, while being paid $200 a week to care for your child. Are you for real? These people are called nannies and you can expect to pay $25-40/hr for their services.

"Is it possible to hire a white, educated, young, European child care provider that I can pay like 800 dollars a month for full time care but also not have to provide room and board and, like, not see her when I don't want to? TIA everyone"

The PP are correct. The whole premise of the au pair program is that the visa (and low wages) are predicated on the au pair being provided room, board and educational opportunities.

You should look on care.com or any of the other sitter sites and look particularly for part-time help (assuming that you do not need someone full time) and could perhaps find a college or grad student, but they still will get minimum wage (or higher).

No. Its a cultural exprerience/exchange program. Thats the point. They get room and board and what $200 a week. If you are willing to pay way above min wage so they can afford to live out, then just hire a nanny.

A live out au pair is basically just a nanny. If you want to independently sponsor someone from overseas for a visa to come fill this role for you then yes it’s possible although most likely ultimately much more expensive and complicated than hiring someone local.

If you’re asking if you can hire someone to care for your children at the equivalent of an au pair salary (ie below minimum wage) while not providing them with housing, meals, educational experiences, or other ad hoc supports offered by an approved aupair program of course the answer (at least from a legal and moral standpoint) is no.

No. The whole premise of the au pair program is that they live with you

Title says it all. Thank you!