I am an adult child (40 years old) with 3 kids. I talk with my mom 3-4 times a week via phone and see her maybe 3-4 times a year (she lives 6 hours away). I talk with my dad (divorced from mom) every other week or so and see him 3-4 times a year (also lives 6 hours away).

We don't really see or talk with DH's side of the family. We see them maybe once a year? I don't talk with my SIL unless there is some emergency and never talk with my FIL. I don't dislike them but have nothing in common with them.

DH and I have two small kids. We FaceTime with his parents once a week. They live far away but bought a place near us and come to visit for a week or two at a time 2-3 times per year. We do this out of a sense of obligation to them but we don’t really enjoy their company and find interacting with them stressful.
My parents live nearby and we see them most weeks. We enjoy spending time with them and they are great with our kids. I text with or talk to my mom on the phone every couple of days.

AC with three small kids. I don’t spontaneously initiate contact with my parents (divorced). I have no relationship with my father (not a nice person). With my mother, I text her on her birthday, Mother’s Day, Xmas, and thanksgiving. We never visit her (she is a hoarder), but she visits us 4-5x per year. She lives two states over.

We are very close with my husband’s parents. He texts/calls a few times a month and we see them regularly.

2 of our kids have children and we don’t live close to either.
We FaceTime with both sets of kids about 4-5 times a week. Our daughter and daughter in law spearhead this.
Our son, with a child, is super busy so we talk during FaceTime if he is around.
We are happy with this.

I guess we are outliers, we are the adult children - live close to both sets of parents. See them both at least weekly, sometimes more depending on what is going on. I talk to my mom on the phone probably 1-2 times a week maybe. Each set helps with grandkid pick up or care maybe once every two weeks. My husband probably talks to his parents by phone less than me.. maybe once a week if there is something logistical to go over. I also talk by phone to my MIL probably once every two weeks by phone. Texting all of them pretty often. We are very lucky everyone has great boundaries, super kind. Also, all of us give everyone a lot of grace and always assume good intentions.

I'm female and talk to my parents daily.

DH talks to his parents about every 2-3 weeks and visits 4x a year. His parents are very nice and he'd say that he's close to them.

Husband keeps in touch regularly with our son, DIL, grand children. By text and phone.
I don't text or phone. Husband's DIL is a b.

I have a 28 year old daughter with 2 sons and we see her everyday/multiple times a day since she lives in the apartment above us.

When living farther away (flight distance for travel): group family chat most days, phone/video calls a few times a week (this was less frequent before gkids born), visits 1 or 2 times a year.

When living closer: group family chat most days, phone/video calls outside of logistics rare, in person about once a week

Other things that impact: how well schedules align, commuting time (a great time for a phone call), how many kids

I talk to my dad everyday and he talks to my kids everyday, too. We've always been very close. We visit him 3x per year and he comes here to visit more. I talk to him more than my sister does and her and my niece lives 7 mins away from him. They're a 6 hour flight from here in another country. We also text daily, too.

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Anonymous wrote:How often are you in touch, in some way, with your adult child?
Please indicate if they live near you or not.

I'm someone's adult child with my own kids. I say one or two calls per week. One or two visits per year.

Also someone’s adult child with my own kids. Similar, although we also have a family group chat with my parents, my siblings/their spouses, my aunt, and my grown up niece. Someone usually posts in the group chat at least once a day.

I call more often than I did before I had kids both so my kids can FaceTime their grandparents and because I want to talk to them about parenting. It’s a bit inconsistent but we usually call at least once every two weeks.

Anonymous wrote:How often are you in touch, in some way, with your adult child?
Please indicate if they live near you or not.

I'm someone's adult child with my own kids. I say one or two calls per week. One or two visits per year.

My spouse's adult child w/gkids does not initiate contact other than on his birthday and Fathers Day when a brief text is sent. Other than those two days per year, AC does not contact my spouse.

My spouse does send AC texts about once or twice a month asking how everyone is, and always sends birthday/holiday gifts for AC, her husband, and grandkids.

We do not live near them.

DH talks to his dad on the phone every 1-2 weeks, lives far away. DH group texts with Mom several times a week, she is local. We see her every 1-2 weeks.

How often are you in touch, in some way, with your adult child?
Please indicate if they live near you or not.