Anonymous wrote:How to handle? DD had my phone and read my texts. I confronted her/caught her and her immediate reaction was to become angry with me for mentioning her in a text and telling me I overshare.
Completely missing the point of outrageous breach of trust and privacy.

She lives with us. College grad. Employed. Changed my passcode.

Tell her as long as you're supporting her you can share. If she wants to move out she'll have privacy. You don't have privacy with her there.

If you pay for her phone, cut off that line of support.

Badly played, OP.

There was no reason for YOU to be angry. You should have just laughed, and pointed out that this is what snoopers get: they invariably learn something that makes them unhappy!

You shouldn't have taken the bait. The point is to get her to understand on her own that snooping is not rewarding. Acting all defensive only encourages her to snoop more.

I don't mind my family reading my texts: husband, son or daughter. I don't gossip or say nasty stuff about my friends and family, so... Sometimes when I'm busy with something, I hand my phone over and ask a family member to text for me.

If you have previously asked her not to read your texts, you could be a little annoyed. But I don't understand the level of anger here.

OP you are infantalizing your employed college grad daughter so expect her to behave immaturely. She needs to move out.

Anonymous wrote:NP. The folks defending DD are unbelievable.

Who is defending the daughter here?

Explain to her why this was wrong and how it hurt you. These things are obvious to us, but clearly she hasn't thought it through. If you teach her, she'll come to see she was wrong and will apologize.

NP. The folks defending DD are unbelievable.

Kick her out like you should’ve done years ago?

Anonymous wrote:How to handle? DD had my phone and read my texts. I confronted her/caught her and her immediate reaction was to become angry with me for mentioning her in a text and telling me I overshare.
Completely missing the point of outrageous breach of trust and privacy.

You should address your breach of her trust and privacy by telling her business to your friends.

Anonymous wrote:Wait til she finds your browser window open to this post, lol.

OP back to say hello to Larla! I’m sure she’s already found this. Sorry, Sweetie!

Wait til she finds your browser window open to this post, lol.

Anonymous wrote:if you told her that's unacceptable, i'd just move on. you already changed passcode already.

+1 How to handle? She’s an adult living in your home. There’s no punishment here. Move on.

if you told her that's unacceptable, i'd just move on. you already changed passcode already.

How to handle? DD had my phone and read my texts. I confronted her/caught her and her immediate reaction was to become angry with me for mentioning her in a text and telling me I overshare.
Completely missing the point of outrageous breach of trust and privacy.

She lives with us. College grad. Employed. Changed my passcode.