I'd just let her go. I know six people who died of Covid. I had Covid and it was the sickest I'd ever been (I was as vaxxed as you could be at that time).

Guns don't pull their own trigger. I can't even start with the Maga stuff. I'd mourn the relationship you used to have, the one you wish you had now, and dismiss her from my life.

Anonymous wrote:Talking about the stuff she does with her family and volunteering isn't "drama."

Some people like to make going to the grocery store sound like drama when they describe it. Op's sibling sounds like one of those people.

I would just blot the sound of her voice from my mind when I absolutely have to see her and ignore most of what she says. But I have a lot of practice doing this with some of my relatives.

Anonymous wrote:When something truly important comes up with our parent, while she lives minutes away (and I am hours away) she will share a litany of things she has to do and talk about how she will have to check with her DH to see if he can help with any of those things (like getting a kid to practice or a lesson or a tutor).

You're complaining that she has discusses the fact that she has more of the burden of dealing with your parents?

Talking about the stuff she does with her family and volunteering isn't "drama."

She sounds extremely busy so if I were you I wouldn’t take it personally and would give her space. But yes bragging about yourself and your kids is annoying. No one wants to hear that crap.

Interact with her on holidays only.

I have a sibling who will talk nonstop about all the great "achievements" of her elementary aged kids, and constantly talk about how busy she is and all the activities they go to. And all the events she goes to at her ILs house, or friends she is hosting at her home. And her involvement in the board of one of the sports orgs. And other volunteer opps. The point seems to be to a) brag and b) illustrate how important and busy she is. When something truly important comes up with our parent, while she lives minutes away (and I am hours away) she will share a litany of things she has to do and talk about how she will have to check with her DH to see if he can help with any of those things (like getting a kid to practice or a lesson or a tutor). They don't travel for work and have pretty standard jobs.

She's always been a talker, and I'm finding myself becoming more and more distant from her. She also has a MAGA, anti-vax, "COVID is a fraud," "people, not guns, kill people" political perspective, which I can't find any way to appreciate. I realize that is work I need to do on myself. To be honest, she almost never invites my other sibling or I (and our families) to her place for anything.

To the point, I find her exhausting, and annoying, and at the same time, I feel sad about our diminished relationship.

Has anyone figured out a way to address this that isn't confrontational and yet was successful? My other sibling has already tried, but it's been pretty confrontational. Or do I just let the relationship wither?