Trying to tell a long-story short:
I'm very athletic and in my mid-30s. I need to have hip surgery before age 40 and it's going to be a very long recovery: 3 months on crutches, 6 months of PT, one year until I can try and resume all activities. In order to get back to the lifestyle I am used to, it is very important that I do not gain weight. Not only does gaining weight put more stress on my joints, but it can delay recovery and make it even harder to get active again.
Because I am so active, I have an absolutely voracious appetite. And, at least so far, a metabolism to match. Also, it should be known that this isn't a vanity thing for me, it's a lifestyle thing. I acknowledge that some body changes are inevitable and I will be facing them in the next 10-15 years or so if you know what I mean, but I don't want this surgery to be the end of my athletic lifestyle and never be the same.
I plan on following PT religiously, and taking up swimming as soon as I'm cleared to do that, and continuing to work on my upper body strength. However, what I need help with is willpower to maintain a lower-calorie diet. And advice for my family that I already know is going to make it harder. I can already here them say "oh come on, you deserve some ice cream after your hospital stay!" or "come on, occasionally having pizza and beer won't hurt you." They won't take it as seriously as I do.