Anonymous
06/03/2023 22:16
Subject: Re:Tell me how grim it is to date as a childless late thirties woman?
Among my friends, the most content and carefree seem to be the ones who met their spouse after 40 and never had kids. One is a stepmom to adult children (but never when they were younger/in the home); the other two married men who didn’t have kids. They have money, time, freedom to travel and good sex. I think, given your recent heartbreaking divorce, you should not rush to date. Men will be there when you are ready. I say this as someone who felt the pressure to settle down in my late 30s and have kids. I understand now that if I had waited to early 40s I would have been more than fine—maybe happier—than trying to rush marriage and family.
Anonymous
06/03/2023 21:11
Subject: Tell me how grim it is to date as a childless late thirties woman?
I don’t think it’s grim. Take care of yourself and don’t panic
Anonymous
06/03/2023 20:54
Subject: Tell me how grim it is to date as a childless late thirties woman?
Are you hot? That's the only thing men care about. Almost anything else can be handwaved away. Age, number of kids, job, education level -- NONE of that matters if you are hot.
Anonymous
06/03/2023 20:52
Subject: Tell me how grim it is to date as a childless late thirties woman?
If you just got divorced, I wouldn’t recommend dating right away.
Anonymous
06/03/2023 20:31
Subject: Tell me how grim it is to date as a childless late thirties woman?
Anonymous wrote:I suggest therapy.
Your question was worded in a way that makes me think you feel desperate and undesirable.
Work on you.
+1
Anonymous
06/03/2023 20:13
Subject: Tell me how grim it is to date as a childless late thirties woman?
I suggest therapy.
Your question was worded in a way that makes me think you feel desperate and undesirable.
Work on you.
Your question was worded in a way that makes me think you feel desperate and undesirable.
Work on you.
Anonymous
06/03/2023 20:11
Subject: Tell me how grim it is to date as a childless late thirties woman?
I have a few friends dating in this age range- 2 didn’t have and didn’t want kids, and 1 had a kid from a previous relationship.
One woman recently got engaged to her boyfriend of about 3years. He’s about 8 years older. Divorced no kids, neither of them want kids. He works at an auto body shop, so more blue collar than a lot of people in this area want.
One woman dates around but has never really pursued a serious relationship and doesn’t want kids. She won’t date a blue collar guy or a non-white guy and tends to attract guys who are kind of weird. But she does well for herself financially and has a big friend group.
My friend with a kid got married to an older guy - I think about 12 years older after dating for 2 years. He has 2 mostly grown children, they have no kids together, don’t want any more kids, and he’s a very involved stepdad to her son who is still pretty young.
One woman recently got engaged to her boyfriend of about 3years. He’s about 8 years older. Divorced no kids, neither of them want kids. He works at an auto body shop, so more blue collar than a lot of people in this area want.
One woman dates around but has never really pursued a serious relationship and doesn’t want kids. She won’t date a blue collar guy or a non-white guy and tends to attract guys who are kind of weird. But she does well for herself financially and has a big friend group.
My friend with a kid got married to an older guy - I think about 12 years older after dating for 2 years. He has 2 mostly grown children, they have no kids together, don’t want any more kids, and he’s a very involved stepdad to her son who is still pretty young.
Anonymous
06/03/2023 19:49
Subject: Tell me how grim it is to date as a childless late thirties woman?
Anecdata: my best friend met her now-husband at 38, married at 40, twins at 42 via IVF. She had never been married before, no kids, was in great shape and was successful professionally.
Anonymous
06/03/2023 19:47
Subject: Tell me how grim it is to date as a childless late thirties woman?
So you want kids?
Are you open to dating across genders? Across marital statuses? Wide age range?
Are you open to dating across genders? Across marital statuses? Wide age range?
Anonymous
06/03/2023 19:42
Subject: Tell me how grim it is to date as a childless late thirties woman?
If she is “childfree “ then you hit the jackpot!
Anonymous
06/03/2023 19:32
Subject: Tell me how grim it is to date as a childless late thirties woman?
Childless? Easy!! Unless you’re out of shape. Just work out if so. You’ll feel better either way.
Anonymous
06/03/2023 19:29
Subject: Tell me how grim it is to date as a childless late thirties woman?
My husband passed when I was in my late thirties. Other than my emotional baggage, dating was really easy. There were lots of smart, good-looking, cool guys who were interested. More than in my twenties for sure. It helps a lot to not have kids.
Anonymous
06/03/2023 19:26
Subject: Tell me how grim it is to date as a childless late thirties woman?
Much easier than with kids. I would think it would be easy in comparison.
Anonymous
06/03/2023 19:14
Subject: Re:Tell me how grim it is to date as a childless late thirties woman?
Depends on your weight, number of kids you have (if any) & their ages, your financial prospects and how good or bad your coparenting relationship is with ex-H. All of that will affect your dating life.
Anonymous
06/03/2023 19:13
Subject: Tell me how grim it is to date as a childless late thirties woman?
Devastating divorce. Heart broken.