Anonymous wrote:You’re a mean woman. Even if I had these thoughts, I wouldn’t be crowing about them.

Ok Pollyanna, you just sit around wishing the very best for everyone.

I don't know if this is exactly a full circle moment, but here is my story.

Several years ago, I decided to put myself out there and start online dating. I was ready to get married and was taking the process seriously. I went on a handful of dates; some nice guys but things weren't really going anywhere. One night, I was scheduled for a date with someone who seemed legitimate: he kept messaging to make sure I was coming, seemed excited for the date, etc. Well, I get to the bar and he's not there. I assumed he was just running late and messaged to see where he was. Time continued to pass and when I checked again, he had unmatched me - I had been stood up! It was so embarrassing sitting at the bar and (at least in my mind) it was obvious to everyone what had happened. I was so upset and angry, I decided I was done with dating/these apps and would delete them all. I deleted one, then logged in to delete the second one I'd downloaded. Something made me scroll through before doing so, and I saw a conversation I'd had a few months back that I'd enjoyed but for whatever reason I had lost track of/not messaged the person back. After debating for a few hours, I messaged the man and he responded immediately. We ended up setting up a date the next week and it was the best first date I've EVER had - we talked for five hours and fast forward, we are getting married this fall. If I had never been stood up, I likely would've never gone back to this conversation or met my fiance!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Four years ago was probably the lowest point of my life: I was getting divorced (and it was contentious), was midway through a demanding graduate program, despite working two jobs was flat broke, and generally felt intense pressure all around, with no relief in sight.

One of my jobs was working in a coffee shop, where my coworkers were all at least a decade younger than I was. I felt like a loser and an outsider and wasn’t treated very nicely, in particular by one barista we’ll call Christy. I believe she got me fired from that job, which I really needed.

Well, in the years since, I have completed my graduate program, started a great new career, gotten remarried, bought a house, and had a baby (I am currently on maternity leave). This morning I was walking with my baby and decided to pop in to a new coffee shop in my neighborhood. Guess who’s still pouring coffee? Christy.

What are your full-circle moments?

The person who got you fired from your coffee shop is YOU op.
This is not full circle, this is just mean.

Hi Christy!

In college, I sold cell phones. A realtor came in livid about no cell service in a national park. Was a jerk to me. My manager got involved and at one point said “why would you treat her that way, she’s engaged and could be a potential client.”

A couple weeks later, my fiancé said his realtor was stopping by with a gift. Guess who? We both pretended we hadn’t met but I told my fiancé and manager. The next time he came in, my manager said “ I hear we have a mutual acquaintance”. I almost felt bad for him. We all have bad days, but it’s a small world. We used another realtor to sell that house after the wedding. He’s now friends with an old friend of mine and I think he might actually be a good person and was just having a bad day but it was wild to see that circle around.

I also like these stories. And formerly-poor PP, that’s an amazing example of how your own inner qualities and the real kindness of someone else can work wonders. Have you been in touch with the gym teacher since going to college? How is your life now? I’m happy for you.

I hear you, OP.

But I'm careful with the karma thing. The wheel of fortune keeps turning and doesn't stop just because you've reached a relative high, you know? You can always go right back down. Two of my close friends have had cancers in the last couple of years. Middle-aged, kids in school, jobs, etc... It's been brutal.

So I'm just grateful for whatever I have, and don't look askance at anyone else. We're all going to die at some point anyway, why not be nice to each other.

Anonymous wrote:I kinda liked her story.

Me too. Those criticizing her just gloss right over the fact that the woman was mean to her. That’s the critical point here.

I like these stories. Keep them coming.

I kinda liked her story.

You’re a mean woman. Even if I had these thoughts, I wouldn’t be crowing about them.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Four years ago was probably the lowest point of my life: I was getting divorced (and it was contentious), was midway through a demanding graduate program, despite working two jobs was flat broke, and generally felt intense pressure all around, with no relief in sight.

One of my jobs was working in a coffee shop, where my coworkers were all at least a decade younger than I was. I felt like a loser and an outsider and wasn’t treated very nicely, in particular by one barista we’ll call Christy. I believe she got me fired from that job, which I really needed.

Well, in the years since, I have completed my graduate program, started a great new career, gotten remarried, bought a house, and had a baby (I am currently on maternity leave). This morning I was walking with my baby and decided to pop in to a new coffee shop in my neighborhood. Guess who’s still pouring coffee? Christy.

What are your full-circle moments?

The person who got you fired from your coffee shop is YOU op.
This is not full circle, this is just mean.

Lol no. Coffee shop managers fire people with no rhyme or reason.

Anonymous wrote:Four years ago was probably the lowest point of my life: I was getting divorced (and it was contentious), was midway through a demanding graduate program, despite working two jobs was flat broke, and generally felt intense pressure all around, with no relief in sight.

One of my jobs was working in a coffee shop, where my coworkers were all at least a decade younger than I was. I felt like a loser and an outsider and wasn’t treated very nicely, in particular by one barista we’ll call Christy. I believe she got me fired from that job, which I really needed.

Well, in the years since, I have completed my graduate program, started a great new career, gotten remarried, bought a house, and had a baby (I am currently on maternity leave). This morning I was walking with my baby and decided to pop in to a new coffee shop in my neighborhood. Guess who’s still pouring coffee? Christy.

What are your full-circle moments?

Working at a coffee shop is morally neutral. Thinking you're better than her because you do something "better" and she still pours coffee? Morally shitty. You lose, OP.

Anonymous wrote:Four years ago was probably the lowest point of my life: I was getting divorced (and it was contentious), was midway through a demanding graduate program, despite working two jobs was flat broke, and generally felt intense pressure all around, with no relief in sight.

One of my jobs was working in a coffee shop, where my coworkers were all at least a decade younger than I was. I felt like a loser and an outsider and wasn’t treated very nicely, in particular by one barista we’ll call Christy. I believe she got me fired from that job, which I really needed.

Well, in the years since, I have completed my graduate program, started a great new career, gotten remarried, bought a house, and had a baby (I am currently on maternity leave). This morning I was walking with my baby and decided to pop in to a new coffee shop in my neighborhood. Guess who’s still pouring coffee? Christy.

What are your full-circle moments?

The person who got you fired from your coffee shop is YOU op.
This is not full circle, this is just mean.

I was poor and came from unemployed drug addicts. I was the kid who only had three outfits and never showered - you have probably seen the type. I was bullied mercilessly growing up. Everything from getting beat up each morning on the school bus to having tacks and brown clay put on my seat to having my homework stolen and destroyed, to having people refuse to be in a group with me for any class project, to getting tripped going down the stairs, to getting my face shoved in trash cans, everything.

But I was smart and had a nice side and my HS gym teacher of all people, took a shine to me, and insisted on other teachers helping me. She barely talked to me, but worked a lot behind the scenes, and I went away to college on a full scholarship. I was the poorest one there, but now nobody bullied me. I had access to safe bathrooms and showered every morning and ate every single day.

Ten years after graduating I was sitting in on interviews and one of my worst bullies came in. That'll be a big fat NOPE from me.

I've only got half the circle done. I'll get back to you.

Four years ago was probably the lowest point of my life: I was getting divorced (and it was contentious), was midway through a demanding graduate program, despite working two jobs was flat broke, and generally felt intense pressure all around, with no relief in sight.

One of my jobs was working in a coffee shop, where my coworkers were all at least a decade younger than I was. I felt like a loser and an outsider and wasn’t treated very nicely, in particular by one barista we’ll call Christy. I believe she got me fired from that job, which I really needed.

Well, in the years since, I have completed my graduate program, started a great new career, gotten remarried, bought a house, and had a baby (I am currently on maternity leave). This morning I was walking with my baby and decided to pop in to a new coffee shop in my neighborhood. Guess who’s still pouring coffee? Christy.

What are your full-circle moments?