Anonymous wrote:Did you ever feel bad for the spouse (and/or kids)? How did you reconcile entering someone else’s family like that.
Did you wish he/she would divorce or die so in your mind you could end up with them?
I’ve heard some really awful things from OW so just wondering anonymously what let you cross that line?
I got hit in a lot by married co-workers and others and my mind always went to their wife. I never wanted to do that to another woman, even ones I didn’t know. If things got heated, I’d distance and put up a wall. Things just don’t happen….
You are a decent human with a working moral compass, then, OP.
Sadly there are plenty of men and women with no morals, who never give a single thought to the spouses of their married affair partners, or to their own spouses if they're married themselves.
Not sure, though, where you're hearing "really awful things from OWs." I hope you mean in places like these forums, and not in your real life. Because if real-life friends or acquaintances of mine were OW in affairs, well, I wouldn't be around them long enough to hear their "awful things" about the person they are harming. I'd drop them. Though I'll add, they likely get all their information about the awful wife from the men who bang them; those men have a keen interest in ensuring the wife looks bad to the mistress.