Anonymous
Post 04/26/2023 22:45     Subject: If your AC chose to elope …. Thoughts?
Anonymous wrote:Of course, that works for me! We're a family of introverts, and while we love to have people over for dinner, and small parties are fine, large parties aren't exactly our thing. I don't need to be present at the actual ceremony, as long as they let me babysit down the road


I love that 1.) you do not take it personally and 2.) it is not all about you.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2023 22:44     Subject: If your AC chose to elope …. Thoughts?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes, you can elope, but your father and I will be attending. Give me a time and a place.


Nope. That’s not eloping. That’s a small destination wedding.


It is only one of those obnoxious destination weddings if you ask anyone other than your parents and siblings.

The obnoxious destination weddings should be banned. Take your honeymoon on your own time.

If the bride or the groom has actual roots (ie: have a real relationship with those who presently reside there) it is not a destination wedding.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2023 22:38     Subject: If your AC chose to elope …. Thoughts?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Yes, you can elope, but your father and I will be attending. Give me a time and a place.


That's pretty much where I fall, too. IDGAF about a party or fancy anything. Save the money and hassle, that's fine by me. But I have one kid and I would like to be there. So if that doesn't work for my kid and partner, then they should just do it, not discuss it, and tell me afterward.


Lol I eloped and we purposely did not tell them because we knew they would insist to come and ruin it.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2023 22:30     Subject: Re:If your AC chose to elope …. Thoughts?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:totally fine...

I've had my super gigantic wedding (influenced by my parents) and many decades down the line, wish I had gone smaller.


+1! Huge wedding in the 80's because of our parents. My dd just may elope and we support her whatever they choose. Each trip they go on, we wonder lol. Her coworkers are even having fun guessing will they or won't they elope on vacation. The marriage is much more important than the wedding. My grandma and grandpa eloped and I always thought it was a cute story.


Mine did too and I loved that. They went to a neighboring state because they thought that was more exotic.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2023 22:29     Subject: If your AC chose to elope …. Thoughts?
I'd really like to be there. I don't care about anything else about the wedding but I'd be sad to not be there. I wouldn't get fried crispy about it though.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2023 22:25     Subject: If your AC chose to elope …. Thoughts?
Of course, that works for me! We're a family of introverts, and while we love to have people over for dinner, and small parties are fine, large parties aren't exactly our thing. I don't need to be present at the actual ceremony, as long as they let me babysit down the road
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2023 22:16     Subject: Re:If your AC chose to elope …. Thoughts?
Anonymous wrote:totally fine...

I've had my super gigantic wedding (influenced by my parents) and many decades down the line, wish I had gone smaller.


+1! Huge wedding in the 80's because of our parents. My dd just may elope and we support her whatever they choose. Each trip they go on, we wonder lol. Her coworkers are even having fun guessing will they or won't they elope on vacation. The marriage is much more important than the wedding. My grandma and grandpa eloped and I always thought it was a cute story.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2023 18:26     Subject: If your AC chose to elope …. Thoughts?
Anonymous wrote:Yes, you can elope, but your father and I will be attending. Give me a time and a place.


Nope. That’s not eloping. That’s a small destination wedding.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2023 18:07     Subject: If your AC chose to elope …. Thoughts?
Anonymous wrote:Yes, you can elope, but your father and I will be attending. Give me a time and a place.


That's pretty much where I fall, too. IDGAF about a party or fancy anything. Save the money and hassle, that's fine by me. But I have one kid and I would like to be there. So if that doesn't work for my kid and partner, then they should just do it, not discuss it, and tell me afterward.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2023 18:00     Subject: Re:If your AC chose to elope …. Thoughts?
So smart. Weddings are a terrible waste of money.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2023 17:59     Subject: If your AC chose to elope …. Thoughts?
Yes, you can elope, but your father and I will be attending. Give me a time and a place.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2023 16:50     Subject: If your AC chose to elope …. Thoughts?
Fully support it. We had a tiny wedding for my grandma as it was important to her. Otherwise I would have eloped and skipped the party.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2023 16:49     Subject: If your AC chose to elope …. Thoughts?
We did, my MIL was crispy fried about it, and the whole relationship is different than it would have been as a result.

We have no regrets about eloping.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2023 16:43     Subject: Re:If your AC chose to elope …. Thoughts?
totally fine...

I've had my super gigantic wedding (influenced by my parents) and many decades down the line, wish I had gone smaller.
Anonymous
Post 04/26/2023 16:41     Subject: If your AC chose to elope …. Thoughts?
I actually love the idea that they would do it bc they believe it is a highly personal and private commitment they would be making between themselves. They would throw a party afterwards down the road to celebrate with friends and family.